I once just sort of assumed this is a private activity and should be kept that way. But, my views have evolved over time. As I said in response to a comment from Danielle two posts back, I've pretty much decided that, now that they are (young) adults, I am OK with them know everything at a general level, whether about the disciplinary spankings or about our blooming FLR, or both. As for what they actually do know, to the best of my knowledge they don't know about the spanking part. At least that’s my wife’s view. But, I do have my doubts. A spanking could have been overheard at some point, or they could have seen a paddle or strap that wasn’t locked away. As for the FLR, they have noticed my wife's more assertive role in the last couple of years, and one of them has noted her bossiness. They have told my wife that she seems to "wear the pants" and she doesn't deny it. But, I don't think she has taken it any further than to tell them that I like her making more decisions because I have so much responsibility at work and, therefore, want to have less responsibility at home. Or, words to that effect.
- Were either of your own parents disciplined by the other parent when you were growing up?
- Are your kids aware of you disciplinary relationship?
- For those of you who are in an FLR, are your kids aware that the wife is the leader in the marriage?
- Have you ever spanked or been spanked by your spouse while the kids were in the house or might overhear?
- If your kids are not, to your knowledge, currently aware of your DD or FLR relationship, might you tell them or let them find out about it in the future? Why or why not?
- Does their gender effect your view in any way? If your daughter married a man with maturity or performance problems, would you pass along some helpful hints that maybe she should educate herself about DD? What if you had an immature or misbehaving son? Would you ever suggest to him (or to his frustrated daughter-in-law) that maybe disciplinary spankings could give him the structure and boundaries he seems to need?