Hello all. Welcome back to The Forum, our weekly gathering of men and women who are in, or interested in being in, Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationships.
I hope you had a great week. Mine ends with me anticipating a couple of very hard spankings for some disappointingly ongoing problems. If I can sit come Monday, it will be miraculous. As I contemplated my fate yesterday, it was a humbling experience. Knowing that when I came home, I was totally at her mercy. She might order me up to the bedroom immediately, tell me to strip, then paddle my ass raw. Or, she might keep me on pins and needles through dinner and beyond. She did the latter, then went to bed without spanking me at all. She told me that she knew I had a hard day yesterday, so she decided to let me off the hook for a day or two. But, it is coming.
For me, there is something powerfully humbling about waiting for a spanking I know is coming. I instantly start behaving better, being more considerate, more polite. In short, I become the kind of husband she wants me to be all the time. Being that kinder, more considerate person all the time should be easy, but it's not. Like many men who are attracted to DD, there is a lot of testosterone coursing through these veins. It can help me take the kind of risks that build a successful career, but it can also lead to a lot of impetuous and impulsive decisions that come back to haunt me. It can help me stand up to assholes, but it also leads me to ignore or confront legitimate authority. And, it can sometimes make me act like an arrogant jerk.
My wife is very open about the fact that one of the things she likes best about disciplining me is that it forces a humility on me that is both natural and extremely difficult for me. When she orders me to take off all my clothes and bend over for a hard paddling or strapping, and when I actually do it, she knows how hard that is for my ego to take. And, she enjoys that. She knows that humbling me is a necessary and part of the process and, in fact, is one of its primary goals.
While she doesn't go out of her way to humble me in other ways, it is starting to happen more. Several weeks ago, I wrote about an incident in which I went off on someone in a voicemail in a context in which it was not at all appropriate. I told my wife about it, and being thoroughly fed up with my temper and arrogance creating problems at work, she took a "the punishment should fit the crime" approach. She ordered me to apologize to the guy, stipulating that it had to be in person or by telephone. No email. She wanted me to have to humble myself with a verbal apology made live to the person I have abused. A more recent incident involved her using a DD allusion to put me in my place in front of someone. I had been teasing her about something, and some of it probably crossed the line into disrespect. With only a little hesitation, she said " Be careful. Bad boys get spanked." That got me instantly back in line.
Does your partner do things that are deliberately designed to humble you? Do yo want her to? What form does/should that take? I can think of a few things Disciplinary Wives could impose:
- Give him orders, like chores or a personal task, in front of other people. At a holiday party last year, my wife and I were chatting with another couple and she turned and handed me her empty drink glass and told me to go to the bar and get her another. It was not a request. It was very conspicuously an order.
- Make him show respect in public in some conspicuous way that emphasizes her role over him.
- Make him kneel or take some subservient posture, perhaps as a means of cutting off an argument
- On the more risque side:
- Chastity device
I hope you have a good week.