Everything is hard before it is easy. -- Goethe
Hello all. I hope you had a great week. Mine was, once again, way too busy. I come into this Saturday morning really wishing things were a little less hectic. But, I know that as soon as things slow down, I will go into a panic about that, too. Do you ever feel like you are on a hamster-wheel, but that it is almost entirely self-created? That's kind of where I am right now. But, there is little sign that things will slow down until next year, so my self-created panic at the prospect of working only 50 hours a week can be pushed out for at least a couple of months.
Irritability from over work may have been showing in my exchange with my most persistent troll. I've taken down the comments (his and mine), but the exchange at least had the side effect of committing me to an idea for this week's post. It's been a couple of years since I devoted a topic to this, but let's talk about "severity" and "more." Specifically, for the men (and the few female DD recipients who visit here), setting aside whatever your current baseline is, how severe or strict do you want your discipline and the control exercised over you to be?
Let's start with this premise -- if you are receiving a real disciplinary spanking, you do not enjoy it. So, let's assume that if you are in a real DD relationship in which you get real spankings, they hurt. They are supposed to. But, if you had your choice, would you want her to ease up a little? Or, is the opposite true -- do you wish she would spank you harder?
What about frequency? Does she spank you as often as you deserve? As often as needed to correct the behavior? If you could change the frequency in any way, do you think you should be spanked more frequently or less frequently?
What about the non-spanking aspects of a DD relationship, particularly the overall strictness of her demeanor? Would you like your disciplinarian to act more strict, or less? When it comes to controlling your behavior and setting boundaries for you, do you want her to be more tough and consistent in her approach, or is it too much already? And, if you do want her to be more strict with you and more rigorous in laying down the law, how open do you want that to be? I'm not talking about revealing the spanking side of the DD relationship but, rather, to what degree do you want her to display signs that she wears the pants?
If you do fall into the "more" camp and you are willing to share, do you have any perspective on why you want more? Why do you want the spankings to be harder? Why do you want her to be more strict with you? What need would that fulfill for you?
I've posted a poll about this, and I hope all the readers who drop by this week and are actually in a DD relationship will check one response to each ordered pair. I ran a similar poll over two years ago, and it set the bar for lop-sided results. The "more" answers just crushed the "less" answers. It was not even close. It seemed to refute any view that those on the receiving end of the paddle in these relationships would want anything else, except that a huge number of them would like their disciplinarian to step it up! I thought at the time that it should comfort budding Disciplinary Wives who have a nagging doubt about whether, if she does take on the role of a strict disciplinarian, will it prove to be more than he wanted? I think the answer in most cases is no, he really does want everything you are giving him and more. Resoundingly so.
But it does suggest a couple of follow-up questions: Have you told your wife you want more and, if so, what was her reaction? And, if she did step it up, how did you react? Did it come closer to meeting your needs, or was it a "beware of what you wish for . . ." situation?
By the way, I know the poll does not have a "Goldilocks" everything is just right set of answers. If everything is just right, then just don't answer the poll. And congratulations!
Have a great week.