Saturday, November 16, 2013

The Forum - Question of the Week No. 27

Hello all,

I hope you all had a good week.  Sorry for the delay in posting this week's question.  One of those days.  More like one of those weeks. On to this week's question, which was a suggestion from one of our Forum members:

Have you ever been spanked in a semi-public situation so that others might have seen or heard the spanking, such as a public restroom, motel room, in the car, beside the car, in the woods, etc.?

Speaking for myself, we have not been particularly inventive in this area.  The riskiest venue, DW has spanked me in was a hotel room, during a vacation.

I hope you all have a good week.  As always, please take a moment to fill in the Guestbook, below.


Saturday, November 9, 2013

The Forum - Question of the Week 26

Hello all.  Welcome to this week's Forum.  Last week we talked a little bit about how, and why, otherwise dominant men become the disciplined party in a DD relationship.  A few of the comments seemed to to say, expressly or implicitly, that once their significant other got into the swing of things--so to speak--it may have become a bit more than they bargained for.   I do not mean just the spanking itself. Rather, the entire commitment to submit to someone else.

The question I am getting at is, once you commit to submitting to being disciplined, does it ever seem too hard?  "It" may be the spankings themselves or, more broadly, the effort and vulnerability inherent in submitting to another's authority.  I have always seen this--the extent to which you do not really want to give in to another's will or take a spanking even when you do not think you deserve one--as one way to assess whether what you are doing is really about "discipline" versus something that is more sexual in terms of its driving force or motivation.

What are your thoughts?  Does it ever just become too much?  Do you ever regret the decision to subject yourself to a full DD lifestyle?

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Saturday, November 2, 2013

The Forum - Question of the Week 25

Hi all,

I hope you had a productive week and didn't do anything too "naughty" that would earn you a good beating this weekend.  Unfortunately, I cannot say the same for myself.  Definitely a fairly naughty week. On to this week's question:

A common theme in F/m domestic relationships is that the man often is NOT a natural submissive, particularly out there in the day to day work world.  In fact, it seems that many participants in this lifestyle are very "Type A" personalities who often turn to DD to balance things out.  So, my question is this: If you are naturally domineering, how do you go about fostering a more submissive approach with your significant other?  If you are used to domineering others, how do you develop an inner sense of vulnerability that allows you to accept discipline and use it to effect actual change?

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