Sunday, March 29, 2020

The Club - Meeting 335 - Habits Good & Bad

Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones. -Benjamin Franklin

Hello all.  Welcome back to the Disciplinary Couples Club.  Our weekly meeting of men and women who are in, or interested in being in, Domestic Discipline relationships.

I hope you all had a good week, under these trying circumstances. And, I hope you and your family and friends are healthy and safe. 

I’m going to keep this week’s post very short, for a couple of reasons.  First, I’m still not all that into posting about DD in light of everything going on out there in the real world.  Second, this back problem continues to plague me, and the body positions involved in typing seem to really aggravate it.  So, no multi-paragraph tome this week.  Instead, I want to use these two captioned (sorry KD and Tomy) photos of Susan Sarandon that I found on a spanking Tumblr recently as a launching point for this week’s short topic.

Does it work that way for you?  In addressing behavioral issues, do you find that DD is more efficacious in fostering good behavior and the formation of good habits than in stomping out bad habits?  Now, I realize that just about every behavior a wife may want to address probably can be characterized as either “bad” behavior or the absence of “good” behavior.  For example, is failure to do an assigned chore, like doing the dishes, bad behavior, or is it the absence of a good habit of cleaning up as required.  To address that, another spin on the question could be, do you find that DD is better at getting you to add a behavior or establish a good habit than it is in getting you to eliminate a bad behavior or break a bad habit?

Without going into it in a lot of detail, habits have been on mind the last week or two because of this shutdown.  It’s an interesting experiment in how much of our behaviors—good and bad—are driven by our internal drives  and desires, or by our circumstances.  In my case, I’ve devoted a lot of ink here over the years to fessing up to bad behaviors connected in one way or another to work.  Particularly over-indulging in alcohol.  So, for the last two weeks I’ve found myself cooped up in my house, locked out of the workplace and with no work related travel for the first time in years, but with a pretty well stocked liquor cabinet and liquor stores (and pot dispensaries) designated an essential service.  

The result?  My alcohol consumption as dropped dramatically.  In fact, over the last two weeks I’ve had alcohol only twice, both involving video-conference meetings with teams or customers that were expressly designed to be “virtual happy hours” just to keep people connected.  I'm also eating a lot better than usual; kind of the opposite of what others seem to be experiencing or are worrying about experiencing:

So, it’s been nice getting some experiential verification that work really is the driver of a fair amount of my bad behavior and, when that environment is changed I revert to a healthier way of living. 

On the other hand, I had hoped to use the free time I now have with no commute or air travel to read more books and do less internet surfing and consuming mind candy on television.  That’s been a miserable failure.  Despite the involuntary reduction of all work-related distractions, I’m frittering away more time than ever and have made it through a whopping two-thirds of one book during the two weeks I’ve been at home. 

I hope you all have a good week.

Saturday, March 28, 2020

Delayed Post

Sorry all, but I'm delaying posting until tomorrow.  In the meantime, stay safe and healthy.