Hello all. Welcome back to The Forum - Disciplined Husbands & Disciplinary Wives. Our weekly gathering of men and women in or wanting to be in Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationships. I hope you all had a great week.
I've learned over the course of the last three years that some topics work, and some don't. We can probably write last week's off as one that seemed to put everyone to sleep. Or, maybe it's just the lazy heat of summer sapping everyone of their interest? Or maybe a combination of both. Any how . . .
We finished up another poll last week. This one focused on the extent to which people mix erotic and disciplinary spankings. We got 102 responses, which broke down as follows:
Erotic or play only
"Both" won by a pretty big margin, though "Discipline Only" was the practice for 1/3 of our respondents. I will take this as another data point showing that people come to Domestic Discipline for different reasons. Some are into spanking independent of DD, while others seem to be using it as a tool and only as a tool. Or, maybe for them the disciplinary spanking does have some appeal in and of itself but that appeal doesn't carry over to erotic spankings?
We are in the "discipline only" camp. I'm not sure that erotic spankings would work for us. In fact, when we first started DD, we made the conscious decision that spankings had to be hard and difficult to take, because she was adamant that she did not want them to function as any sort of reward for bad behavior. But, in truth, that isn't really the reason we don't do it. At least for me, I just don't have any real attraction to erotic spankings. Even looking at spanking content on the internet, if it doesn't have a strong disciplinary or punishment component, it does little or nothing for me. That's why although I recognize that for many a spanking fetish underlies the interest in domestic discipline, I'm not one of them.
How about you? Do you mix erotic and disciplinary spankings? Do you make sure that the former doesn't detract from the effectiveness of the latter?
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