Hello all Welcome back to The Forum - Disciplined Husbands & Disciplinary Wives. Our weekly gathering of men and women who are participating, or interested in participating, in Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationships. I hope you all had a great week. Mine was a little stressful, because of some interactions on the job front. It brought to mind Marisa's observation from last week: "That "humbling function" allows you to let go of that ego, accept authority and become the (mostly) wonderful, charming and loving men you really are It frees you to be yourself and that is what we are after." On the surface, it may seem a little inconsistent with the quote above, which is all about not dumbing yourself down just so others will feel more comfortable. But, as Marisa's point emphasizes, it is hard to let the "real" you come through when your ego keeps getting in the way. It used to bother me a little that there might be some inconsistency between disciplining someone for bad behavior, and the acceptance and peacefulness I was exploring through things like meditation and mindfulness. I then remembered that Zen masters often "help" trainees meditate -- by hitting them with a stick!
Last week's discussion was great. One of the best we've had in a while in terms of sheer entertainment. It reinforced to me that compared to some of you, my DD relationship is downright boring. When I first posted that topic, I thought it might not get much response because few people might have experienced being taken out of an event and punished. But, it seems to be more common than I thought, and I am incredibly happy that we suddenly have so many strong and assertive women participating in this Forum and taking those kind of assertive actions to keep their men in line.
Exclusively? Primarily? Or, is it as Marisa says, also about humbling and personal growth? Is it also about penance? Boundaries and consequences? And, from the other side of the paddle, is it only about correcting behavior, or also about being able to express dissatisfaction? Or about growing your own sense of power and authority?
By the way, there is a great discussion on whether "wanting" punishment is inconsistent with actually being punished, from the M/f side of DD, on the Taming of the Shrew blog: https://ashrewtamed.blogspot.com.
Have a great week. As always, if you are new to this Forum, please stop by the Guestbook (see tab above) and tell us a bit about yourself and your Domestic Discipline or FLR relationship.