The discussion then diverged to the merits of the cane. It's interesting how much people are into that particular instrument, or at least curious about it. I have a post from 2014 entitled Caning Tips and Methods, which is always among the top 4 or 5 in all-time popularity. Ironic, given the problems my wife has had using it effectively. I'm pretty sure it is among her top two least favorite instruments. It's interesting the extent to which different instruments evoke different emotional responses. Alan noted: "Its my impression that many women prefer to use a cane or maybe a strap even though they may actually employ a brush or paddle regularly because that is what works for their boyfriend or husband. Erotically the cane does very little for me but my wife loves the sound it makes and the impact. I also experience punishment with the cane differently than with other instruments. There is much less of the "naughty boy" feeling and more the disobedient or misbehaving husband feeling to it."
Does it work that way for you? Do particular instruments evoke particular emotional responses, positive or negative? And, are there some you wish were used more and others less?
While I am not a Brit and, as I said I've never been subjected to an effective caning, there is something about the cane that really does get a response from me. The whole caned schoolboy thing is such an iconic spanking image.
Same with the belt. Probably because of some early childhood experiences, the belt evokes a feeling of vulnerability and has a very "parental" vibe. Until recently, I didn't consider it to be a very effective instrument. Then I bought a "gun belt," which is basically a leather belt made for sportsmen or others to carry a holstered handgun. Because of the weight they need to support, the leather is very thick and stiff. I bought it because I was looking for an instrument we could take with us on trips without giving the TSA guys a thrill. She has used it on me one time, and it definitely gets the job done.
I own several paddles, but over time I've become a lot less enamored of them. As I've written about a few times, lately I feel the larger, thuddier paddles are almost "too hard." The pain hits like a lightning bolt and, instead of giving in to the discipline, the paddle puts me in a very resistant head space. I also wonder whether my butt has just gotten more sensitive over time, as I swear the spankings just hurt way more now than they did a few years ago. Though, she may just be a much less forgiving spanker now than in the past. While I don't really love paddles anymore, I probably will keep buying them, as I have a thing for craftsmanship and I still admire the look of a finely crafted paddle made from some exotic, highly grained wood.
For pure effectiveness, I have to go with the leather strap, though it doesn't really give rise to strong emotions for me.
Interestingly, one instrument that I think is extremely effective is one she doesn't seem to go to very often, namely the bath brush.
How about you? What instruments get a strong emotional response out of you or your spouse or, perhaps, bring back strong memories of spankings past?
Have a great week.