Well, that was a lively discussion on consensual non-consent. Seventy comments (including my replies). I'm not sure we've hit that many before.
This week's topic is tangentially related to consent.
"Safe Words." A word some people agree to that can be used to call a halt to the action when it gets too hard, too extreme, outside the recipient's comfort zone, if there is real injury or danger of an injury, etc.
Do you use a safe word in your DD relationship? We don't, and my sentiment regarding them is expressed succinctly in the above captioned photo -- if you can call an end to it any time you want, then it's not really discipline. For us, the whole point of DD is putting my butt's fate in her hands, letting her decide when enough is enough, and making sure that some punishments are way more than I want to repeat. A safe word seems to me to be an import from BDSM that seems inconsistent with the primary goals of domestic discipline, at least to the extent it can be used to call an end to a spanking just because it is hurting too much, i.e. where there is no medical issue, injury, etc. that demands a stop or some kind of adjustment
What do you think? Yes or no on safe words? Are there some situations (medical emergency, real injury, etc.) where it is appropriate but others (the spanking just hurts a lot) where it is just trying to avoid the punishment itself and should not be allowed? (Note: An earlier version of this post lacked this clarification. I have edited to the post to reflect the comments made by KD, below, which raised this important caveat about medical issues, etc.) If you do use one, care to share what it is?
Hope you have a great week.