Hi all. Welcome back to the Forum - Disciplined Husbands & Disciplinary Wives. I hope you had a great week.
It was a good discussion last week, though I seem to be in a distinct minority in questioning whether wider acceptance of TTWD might have some downsides. But, that's OK. As shown again below, there are some things involved in this lifestyle where I am in the minority, but it's a wide world.
A few weeks ago, I saw the quote above on another blog. The author of that blog, Domina Jen, said it is a well-known teaching in the BDSM or D/s community. I'll take her word on that, as it's a community I haven't personally frequented except to the extent it includes our interactions on this blog. In two short sentences, it seemed to sum up for me what I get out of Domestic Discipline, or at least what I am looking for out of it. We have had a lot of discussions on this blog about the extent to which people who participate here are spanking fetishists for whom DD is an extra element added on top of the spanking, or whether the underlying driver is the need to give up control while spanking is more of a tool to get there or part of the process for giving in. For me personally, it is pretty clearly the latter. We don't do erotic spankings, and spanking was never "a thing" for me until I stumbled on the concept of domestic disciple.
Since then, I have not been able to do a particularly good job in articulating how it is that there is a sense of freedom in handing over control to someone else. At surface level, it should be just the opposite and, yet, it's not. At least for me. While part of me does fight having boundaries imposed on me, there also is a palpable sense or relief and something like a sense of increased freedom when she really takes over.
Conversely, for the wives who assume control, does that give you a sense of freedom, or is that something you give up? Is it freeing to make the decisions without need to check with someone else? It seems like it should, though I recognize that I just got through saying it works the opposite for me. Assuming that, as the quote indicates it comes along with a certain exchange between freedom and control--because you are now taking on additional responsibility and leadership--is that trade-off something you feel comfortable with?
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