Happy New Years Eve to all of you. As longer-term readers know, I usually start each year with a long-ish entry on goal setting, how I performed over the last year, and identifying some concrete resolutions for the upcoming year. As JGirl over at Taming of the Shrew blog says in her most recent post, this years primary goal is going to be something about balance. In what I hope is a positive sign, I have absolutely no idea what specific resolutions I would put around that, as I've been too busy goofing off this week to come up with any, and I don't feel any particular need at this very moment to come up with a list of things I want to change, fix or improve. Instead, I kind of feel like leaving things a little open to whatever happens. As it inevitably will and instead of resisting it, I hope to allow for the possibility of being pleasantly surprised. In fact, one reason I'm not spending a lot of time coming up with specific career and work goals for 2018, is I wouldn't mind being in something very different by year-end and so, while I want to continue to out-perform in my current role as long as it lasts, I don't want to be so focused on goals related to that role that I don't stay mentally and emotionally open to letting something entirely new take me in an entirely different direction.
I do hope 2018 brings a deepening of the Domestic Discipline aspects of my relationship with my wife and a stepping up in her confidence level and willingness to take control. Being the goal-setter and list-maker I am at heart, I probably will spend some time in the next few days coming up with specific things I would like to see us do to help bring those goals about, but right now, I just don't feel like it. So . . .
Goodbye 2017. I hope each of you have a great very Happy New Year and a great 2018.
May we enjoy last year's wins, learn from last year's losses, and take advantage from both in the challenges that 2018 gives us.
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Very well said!
DeleteHappy New Year Dan!
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DeleteHappy New year Dan, I hope you achieve all your aims in 2018.
ReplyDeletelove Jan, xx
Same to you, Jan!
DeleteHappy New Year, Dan. I like what you said about how it is sometimes better to see where things go than try to force things in a particular direction, but a little steering is never a bad idea. Kind of like sledding down a hill. The slope and terrain are going to determine a lot of the ride, but a little angling of the runners will often keep you from hitting a tree. ;-)
ReplyDeleteDefinitely a metaphor worth remembering!
DeleteGreat metaphor in more ways that one!
Delete"Sitting on a Sled" is just another example of some wood being in contact with our bottoms - LOL - I think all of us guys here have been on a 'wild sled ride' over our female authority's knees with her providing the 'steering' and 'guidance' with a stout wooden paddle!!! And that is a ride that all of us naughty boys can be taken on 12 months out of the year - no need to wait for snow.
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Carl H
A happy new year to you too!
ReplyDeleteRichard.
Same to you!
DeleteHappy New Year Dan! WE so appreciate this blog. Be well prosper and learn !
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Same to both of you. Hope you both have a great 2018!
DeleteHappy New Year Dan!
ReplyDeleteYour comments on setting new year resolutions are spot on.
In your case , convincing your wife to 'step it up a notch' will be a challenge in itself.
Convincing others to change their ways can be way tougher than changing our own behaviour ,so I wish you luck and look forward to hearing about your ideas to make it happen.
Certainly true. It's surprising how often I hear the advice that if you want your spouse to step up their dominance, you should step up your submission. Maybe. Or, do you just act like such a horse's ass that she goes off the deep end. Either seems like a realistic possibility. Maybe in 2018 I'll test both and report back. :-)
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ReplyDeleteHappy New Year. I wish I could set up a name and register. My wife says no! She won’t let me give out an email address. She says there will be helll to pay if I do. I’m not going to even think about disobeying her. I’m in the doghouse already because of a nasty comment I made to her sister. We were talking politics. My wife was so close to outing me then and there but punished me when we got home. I also had to perform some oral worship on my wife’s less dainty areas. And she may make that a regular thing. As far as resolutions we reallly don’t make any. I guess my resolution is to stay out of trouble.
Thanks, Anonymous. While I kind of understand your wife's reluctance around the registration issue, it is very easy to set up a fake profile using an anonymous email, and you don't have to disclose the email as part of the profile. I'm still wrestling a little with how to handle anonymous commenters in 2018. On the one hand, I don't want to ban it entirely. On the other, about 90% of the distracting, off-topic, fantasy postings come from "Anonymous." As I said, I'm still wrestling with what to do about it.
DeleteThanks Dan. I will talk it over with my wife. I read your post about acting up on vacation. I was on a cruise a few years ago and got too big for my britches after a few glasses of wine. I thought my wife was being unfair about something and I got nasty.
DeleteThere was no physical punishment that was given out. But what my wife did do was make me go back to our cabin right after dinner that night. She wanted me to think about being nasty to her. And no tv, which isn’t much to begun with on most ships. But I felt like a child. She told me to do it without anyone hearing her and I excused myself and left. She stayed at the table and had another glass of wine and chatted with the people that we were there. She didn’t say anything to the people about the matter, no outing or anything like that. All she said was that I had to take care of a few things. I think it was worse than being disciplined in some ways, and I gave her absolutely no problems for the rest of the trip. She lectured me though and gave me a warning.
Happy New Year my friend and thank you for letting me be part of your group. As we leave for vacation tomorrow , Dev packed her Vermont brush. Not one of my favs.
ReplyDeleteI neglected to take any implement on our recent vacation, and that was too bad because I almost immediately acted up when we got there and really did deserve to have my ass torn up for it.
DeleteFor vacations the "Just wait until I get you home!" threat works well , especially if you know she really means it.
DeleteHappy New Year..and as the Vulcon's say "Live Long and Prosper
ReplyDeleteHappy new year Dan. Thanks for all your work with this blog. Good luck with your 2018 targets. gk
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