The Club - Meeting 338 - Spanking Phrases

We are not won by arguments that we can analyse but by tone and temper, by the manner which is the man himself. - Samuel Butler

Hello all.  Welcome back to the Disciplinary Couples Club.  Our weekly meeting of men and women who are in, or interested in being in, Domestic Discipline relationships.

I hope you all had a good week.  Week four of my lockdown. You’d think I’d be settling into this new routine, but I’m really not.  Instead, I’m getting downright stir crazy.  Really missing having coffee somewhere other than my house.

I’m finding myself frittering away more and more time, accomplishing less and less. That is something of an accomplishment in itself, given how little I was getting done even before having way too much time on my hands and no one around to observe how I’m using it.  And, all those Skype and Zoom calls have me wondering how many people are dressed appropriately only from the waist up.

Something that has not been happening is spanking or FLR.  That’s a little surprising, given that one would think that with this much “togetherness,” she’d be so good and frustrated that I’d be getting my ass warmed daily. Part of the explanation probably lies with just getting out of the habit.  But, another reason may be some mercy resulting from the back problems I was having. Thankfully, those seem to be mostly gone.  I’m not sure that I could take an extended session in a bent-over position, but perhaps some testing of the over-the-lap position with rapid-fire delivery that ZM brought up near the end of the week?

 

Thanks for weighing in on the issue of the relative merits of the OTK position.  I’m sorry it took me a while to get to some of your comments.  Unfortunately, I can’t really claim that was because I was busy.  As I just said, I wasn’t.  I’m finding as this slowdown goes on, even my usual diversions aren’t diverting enough to divert me from ever more worthless diversions, like getting into political fights on Facebook.  By the end of the week, I’d even burned myself out on that.  Thankfully, somehow a narrow topic like OTK ended up covering a lot of ground.  Outdoor spankings, witnessed spankings, nude spankings versus pants at the ankles, and lots more.  Thanks to all of you who weighed in and kept the discussion moving.

While any one of those non-OTK references could be a good topic, none of them really resonated with me today.  Instead, a short statement by Cecilia dovetailed with something I’d already been mulling.  Her comment was to the effect that she sometimes uses phrases like "a trip across my lap" when talking about disciplining her husband. Pete’s Wife said that she often tells her husband: “Pull down your pants and get over my knee."  Those are classic spanking phrases that can get a man’s attention in a hurry when used as a threat or a command.  I’ve been thinking a lot about commands lately, because we’ve been alone in the house for four weeks with a dog that is really in need of some training. He has problems with chewing on things, including people.  He’s gotten better with me, because I say “no” in a tone that gets his attention and lets him know I’m serious.  Anne tells him “no” too, but it often comes off more as a request or plea than a command.  Until the last day or two, when she finally started being very firm and commanding, and doing it consistently, he just plainly didn’t respect her or know that when she said “no” there were consequences.  

There are two parts to verbal communications: content and tone.  One could argue that Anne was not really training the dog until, eventually, his obstinance ended up training her.  At some point, she started giving directions that sounded like actual orders, not like requests.  As soon as she made that change, the dog started behaving better.  Both Danielle and Tomy discussed how coming into the room showing some real anger can be very effective in setting the tone.

Are there specific phrases that really get your attention and let you know that either you are going to get a spanking to remember if you don’t correct your behavior, or maybe it’s too late for that and a spanking is now an absolute certainty in your near future?  Perhaps you heard such phrases growing up? There are a few that I either did hear growing up or that for whatever reason really resonate with me when I hear or read them today.  They include:

“Understood?”

“Not as sorry as you’re going to be.”

“I'll give you something to cry about.”

“Did you hear what I said?”

“Not as sorry as you are going to be.”

“I am going to spank you so hard you won’t sit for a week.”

“You’re going to remember this spanking for a long time.”

When I think about the phrases that really get to me, or that I recall hearing directed at me or at friends by their parents, I notice that many of them have to do with threats (or promises) regarding severity or the effect on one’s bottom.  Express threat to leave one’s butt blistered, bruised, too sore to sit for a week . . . those can really give me butterflies if expressed with a tone that is resolute and commanding.

How about you? What phrases do you ladies use to let your husband know you mean business?  What phrases does she use that let you husbands know that you’re really in trouble this time?

I hope you all have a good week. Stay healthy!