Saturday, December 21, 2019
The Club - Christmas 2019
Christmas is a season not only of rejoicing but of reflection. - Winston Churchill
Hello all. Welcome back to The Disciplinary Couple’s Club. Our weekly on-line gathering of men and women who are in, or would like to be in, a Domestic Discipline relationship. I hope you all had a great week.
Thanks for joining me for this, the final post of 2019. For both good and ill, I feel like I could just do a mish-mash of 2017 and 2018 Christmas posts and it would accurately represent my 2019. It’s been a chaotic two- or three-year run, and for the most part I can’t say I’m going to be sorry to see 2019 in the rearview mirror. It was a year that could perhaps be summed up with that phrase about “the best laid plans of mice and men.” I ended 2018 with a fairly detailed vision of what I wanted from 2019 from a career perspective, and by mid-January virtually the whole of that plan had fallen apart and things actually went in the opposite direction.
It was a year that proved to me that while many hard things are growth experiences precisely because they were so hard, some are just mistakes. There were some career decisions I made very early in 2019 that made my whole year a roller-coaster with too much travel, too little sleep, and too much bad hotel and airport food and drink. I have to call out my wife for not only putting up with it but supporting it by, if nothing else, just going along and keeping everything semi-normal. Though, it has become a running joke with us that perhaps I should be concerned that she has taken it so well, maybe I need to come home early from a business trip to make sure there isn’t a new boyfriend I need to kick out of my bed. But, in all seriousness, she has put up with a lot this year.
Still, as I said at the end of last year, I can give thanks for a few simple things. All my immediate family made it through the year in one piece, as did most of our extended family. Most of our family and the important people in our lives made it through the year in relatively good health. None of our close friends or family suffered health or financial calamities, and one of my family members who was having a rough time on the financial and career front seemed to stabilize and improve her situation by the end of the year. And, while all the business travel truly sucked, it did lead to making some new friendships and deepening others.
Deepening relationships also applied to my anonymous blogging life. I’ve had more regular, though mostly still anonymous, contacts with people I’ve met through blogging world. I’ve exchanged thoughts with Tomy about how amazing it must have been that during the days when he and his wife were actively running the Disciplinary Wives Club website it seemed to almost operate as a real club in which people actually got together and got to know each other on a personal level. I really have only one relationship from the blog that is kind of like that, but that’s a start.
It also was a good year for increasing the female participation on the blog a little. Danielle, Cecilia, Belle, Liz and others. I hope we can ramp that up a little in 2020.
So, as I said last year, as we all run around buying those last-minute gifts, let's think a little about what a blessing it is to have people in our lives to buy those gifts for. And, maybe do something nice for a stranger who may not be as lucky. I remember last year around this time I pulled up to the drive-through window at Starbucks and started to pay for my coffee, only to be told that the woman in the car ahead of me had already paid for it. I'm going to spend the next few days looking for opportunities to do little things like that.
I tend to try to keep these Christmas messages at an elevated level. But, I feel like I want to end 2019 with something more attuned to the spirit of this blog, which I like to think of as elevated but naughty. Plus, there is so much great Christmas-themed adult art out there, I just can’t resist. So, let’s end with some visual inspiration.
From the sublime . . .
To the explicit.
We haven't finished trimming our tree yet, though with kids around I doubt the event will be anything like this.
For whatever reason, I seem to be having a lot of conversations, with both blogging and "real life" friends about "hot wife," cuckolding and multiple partner scenarios. It's not something we've done, but maybe if there were a case of mistaken identity . . . I also really like the swinging pearls. Nice touch.
We were so exhausted this year, we ended up skipping most office and neighborhood holiday parties. Maybe if more of them were like this . . .
I do need to get some last-minute gifts, but if I can't find anything that seems appropriate . . .
Or, maybe a cute Santa's helper could make a delivery for me . . .
While our dynamic is exclusively F/m, here is a little something for those with other inclinations . . .
Similarly, while not exactly Christmas themed, I just love this cartoon and can never resist an excuse to post it.
Finally, this one, just because I'm in that kind of mood.
I hope you all have a great Christmas, happy holidays and a very happy and prosperous 2020!