I usually do not do mid-week questions, but I had one that came to me as a result of recent DD session. For reasons I will not go into, last night I received what was supposed to be a very bad disciplinary spanking, as retribution for some significantly bad behavior. And, it was quite bad in most respects. She lit into me with the Loopy Johnny, which is an implement that she loves and I hate, in equal measure. She gave me hard strapping, and finished with a long session with the bath brush. All of those hurt -- very much. The issue is with the implement with which we began the session -- the cane.
We have tried caning several times, and it just doesn't seem to work. By which I mean, it just does not hurt that much. The same thing happened last night. I had bought some new canes, and we gave it yet another try. She swears that she was swinging with a lot of force, but it just did not hurt very much. Now, I contrast that with videos I have seen of the cane causing bruising with what seem to be not even full force strokes. Given those videos and photos, and the numerous descriptions I've read, it would seem to be one of the most devastating instruments available. But for us, it just is not like that?
Does anyone have any thoughts on what we might be doing wrong? Thoughts on how to deliver a truly nasty caning?
I know that for some it may seem odd to be requesting something even harsher than what I already get, but we really are trying to use spanking for discipline. When I've done something wrong, the goal really is to make me pay for it in a way that makes me think more than twice about doing it again. So, any thoughts from readers--the disciplined and disciplinarians alike--would be most appreciated.
Dan
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
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That's very interesting Dan! are the canes you bought straight, or do they have a crooked handle? If straight, do they have a bound handle or grip? Are they thin and flexible? The ideal length for a straight one is 30/32 inches! If you soak the business end in about 9 inches of water for 15 minutes it will add a little weight to it!
ReplyDeleteHave you been thrashed with a switch? I could send you some pictures of how to prepare a switch (not for publishing on your blog)
Finally if your Mistress practices on a pillow, flicking down with a good wrist action, I think you will be begging her to stop after 6 of the best! Katie
They are all straight. No bound handle or grip. We have tried thin and flexible up to about 1/2 inch. Thanks for the tips on the water and practicing on a pillow
DeleteBe careful what you wish for. A severe 12 stroke caning lies at the border of discipline and torture. It turns my strong handsome male into a sniveling little boy. Or worse. I use it, but not too often. I will go into details in next post.
ReplyDeleteCane: 1/2 to 1 inch thick. Length: About 3 feet. Most important: Supple. Must be able to bend into a semi-circle.
ReplyDeleteCostume: Buck naked for him. Regular clothes (no dominatrix crap) for me. This is discipline, not fetish.
Position: He is bent over a chair where his butt is immobilized. I am to the left with my left knee parallel to his butt. My left leg in behind my right and a little to the left.
Key: This is a tennis stroke forehand.
Preparation: Place the cane where it strikes evenly on a light tap across the entire butt. The cane should extend about two inches beyond the butt. At this point I always ask if he is ready.
Swing: Pull the handle above my shoulder and shift my weight to right foot. As I start the forward swing, my weight shifts to my left foot so my whole body is behind the stroke. Most important: The cane should be moving at maximum speed when it hits. Don't slow down after contact. The butt stops the cane, which digs into the soft flesh, making a split second indentation. When the cane comes to rest, quick use wrist snap to flick it off. Blood will rush to fill the indentation, causing an electric like shock through his body.
Strike slowly and meticulously. When he begins to hyperventilate, slow down and give a chance to catch his breath.
When you are finished, make him knock out 12 pushups at your feet.
After that, tell him to rise and give you a chaste kiss on the cheek.
The look on his face tells me I have conquered him.
clothes (no dominatrix crap) for me. This is discipline, not fetish.
Thanks! My wife is a tennis player and will definitely understand that analogy.
DeleteSorry. I meant my right leg is behind, ant to the left, of my left leg. Like a tennis player.
ReplyDeleteBe careful what you wish for indeed! The cane can be fearsome if used correctly. But if you do seek real discpline the cane is a very effective implement to deliver it!
ReplyDeleteYou certainly don't need an inch diameter cane to deliver an effective thrashing. A thin whippy cane can be just as fearsome as a thick thuddy one - it's just the sensations will be different. Kooboo canes are lighter than Dragon canes, and then you can get synthetic ones which can take you to another world of pain again!
Rapid strokes can be a lot more painful to take than having 10s gaps between strokes.
You don't have to use a lot of strength to use the cane effectively. It's all about technique and there are umpteen instructionals on the net. There's an example here: http://www.aswgt.com/content-canes&caning.html
If you look at the diagram you can see that standing position for the caner is as important as how she uses the cane.
The secret is practice. We've been using DD for several years and gone from Mistress having no idea how to use the cane to the point now where I really fear being punished by her. And that's all down to her perfecting her technique using my bared bottom as a target!
Fascinating subject with so much to learn. Enjoy your research
Do you have a good source for dragon canes? I've been unable to find one
DeleteSorry for the delay in replying. Try Quality Control. They're Dragon canes have beautifully finished lambskin handles. www.quality-control.co.uk
DeleteLooks like you'll get puh-lenty of feedback on this one..... but what the heck, here's my dime:
ReplyDeleteMerry admits to not being a good punishment-caner, but rather, learned dungeon-play-caning, ie 'tap tap tap tap tap tap WHAP tap tap tap etc.." which damn near put me to sleep the first time....
Since then, and while she has been learning 'how', by far, the worst I've had ..so far... was .... in diaper position, legs straight up in the air, while she used a short Delrin cane from my mid butt cheeks, and up my legs to mid thighs, and back down again.
Yes, I usually don't get 6 comments in one week, and now get six in one day! Guess people are more into caning than I would have suspected!
DeleteDo you have distinct marks (welts) from each cane stroke. If not, she's not swinging hard enough.
ReplyDeleteNo. And, therein is my quandary, She swings a strap, a paddle, a bath brush with very nasty force. So, it makes no sense that the problem is lack of effort. Yet, no real welts, and not that much sting, with the cane.
DeleteI am amazed that you are trying to find ways of making caning more painful!..my wife canes me regularly I get a maintenance caning once a week which is painful enough but a punishment caning I absolutely dread. She uses a whippy cane with regular hard strokes and no break during the punishment and it is agony and I have to be restrained to take it! I think it is in the technique she uses flicking the cane as she brings it down for maximum effect and the fact that there is no break between the strokes that makes it unbearably painful...it certainly leaves welts and whilst I find the maintenance caning quite enjoyable I do everything to avoid a punishment caning.
ReplyDeleteThe best canes come from England, no question! They vary in diameter, but a good all around size is 3/8" diameter in regular and Dragon. The dragon is a bit denser material, and adds way more sting to each stroke. When my wife delivers a medium stroke with the Dragon cane, it feels way more intense than her full stroke with the regular bamboo cane. If you are using garden canes, it's a waste of time! They aren't close to a school canes flexibility and weight, and will break on the first real stroke. I've imported from England to Canada three canes for around 30-40$ Canadian dollar. They are the best fit sure, and once your wife gets the hand of a true caning lady, your ass will never be the same! Good luck!! Ps dragon canes are usually a bit longer, so a bit harder to control. Gripping down on the shaft will help with that, but if wife get proficient using full length...i feel sorry for you my friend!
ReplyDeleteIn 1978 my girlfriend (soon to be my wife) bought a cane for me use on her. Everytime we fucked, she was on top riding me so I could easily cane her lovely ass as hard as she wanted me to. Later she bought a school uniform and would kneel on a stool as I gave her a good hard caning, after which we would have incredible sex.She evtually admitted that her older brother used to regularly cane her in her school uniform in the garden shed and that she missed the delicious feeling of being thrashed. I've been caning her ever since and she loves it!
DeleteCaning is the most intense of all the corporal punishment implements. The key to delivering a good caning is the technique and also the cane itself.
DeleteAs lovers of the rattan cane, we have a nice collection of canes, kooboo and dragon. It is important that your cane is made out of rattan with skin and not the one without skin and smooth. Not many quality cane suppliers in North America barring a few. Offsite we have bought a bunch of canes from www.englishvicecanes.com (they also have a shop on Etsy) and they sell very high quality rattan canes. We are chuffed with their canes and they have a good selection of canes including kooboo and dragon canes and also judicial canes and whangee canes. If you live in US or Canada (or anywhere in the Americas), they are your best bet for canes and their quality is very good. They are not cheap but you get what you pay for.
We have bought canes from the UK in the past but after we found englishvice canes, we buy ours from them mostly.
I cane my male friend almost every time I spank him. The kooboo makes him squeal like mad but not safe word. The synthetic one that is a thin delrin often has him announce that he cannot do it. I don't let him decide and remind him that he has had it many times and survives. If I have him flat and face down it seems easier for him to tolerate than kneeling. Perhaps you should be kneeling with a humbler holding you in position.
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