“If you must hold yourself up to your children as an object lesson, hold yourself up as a warning and not as an example.” - George Bernard Shaw
Hello all. Welcome back to The Disciplinary Wives Club – Tribute blog. Our weekly on-line gathering of women and men who are in, or would like to be in, a Domestic Discipline relationship of the type advocated by the former Disciplinary Wives Club (archived copy in the “Links I Like” list, below right).
I hope you all had a great week. Mine was . . . not great. It began with an unanticipated adventure to help some friends out of a jam. I’m glad I could help, and it was the right thing to do, especially as it was kind of similar to the help that someone gave me after my accident. But, it also was more strenuous activity than I’ve had in months, and I’ve been paying the price for it all week.
I feel like I’m slowly getting back to where I was before this week’s little adventure, but it’s a bummer to lose a week of progress toward real normality. Oh well . . . it was a break from my routine, and it ended (mostly) well, all things considered.
I came into the weekend without much to in the way of topic ideas. Although we got some participation last week, it wasn’t a lot, and nothing grabbed my attention as a new topic idea or launch pad for further discussion.
So, I almost decided not to post this week. Again. But, I hate getting into that habit.
So, instead, several weeks ago, someone suggested that on weeks when I wasn’t inspired to write a long post, I might post a meme, picture, or piece of spanking artwork and ask for people’s reactions or ask them to fill in the story.
I thought at the time that it was a good idea, though it requires more preparation than one might think. Not every meme or drawing is thought-provoking or invites speculation about what is going on behind the scenes. And, given that I have literally thousands upon thousands of items in my collection, searching for good candidates is itself a chore. But, I’m slowly moving contenders into their own file as I come across them.
I will give it a try this week, starting with a meme that appeared in last week’s post and didn’t get any comment.
.jpg)
For future posts, I’m more interested in memes and pics that are enigmatic in some way that invites commenters to imagine what is going on behind the scenes. This one isn’t really like that; it’s pretty “on the nose” regarding the subject matter. But, I liked it because it managed to pack so many of our fairly regular Domestic Discipline themes into one little meme.
The way I envision this working is for commenters to say anything they want about picture, the pictorial content, the written statements, and perhaps the background story behind all those elements. Basically, anything that comes to mind. Here are a few of my reactions:
Model: Although I like this meme, for me it’s more about the words attributed to the model and not to the model or subject herself. In fact, I’m not sure there is a human subject. She is a little too flawless, in the way so many AI-generated images are. And, regardless, the flawless, young, professional model look is not what gets my motor running when it comes to spanking and DD memes. I’m far more into a “regular” woman look, especially if she’s displaying anger or dominance.
In that vein, I very recently came across this video. It seems like a straight up legitimate domestic spanking scene, with a wife who for me is almost a prototype for a “real” wife who has taken firm control. It’s also a great demonstration that a spanking doesn’t have to be long to be effective; start to finish, it’s less than two minutes.
Strictness and its implications: The unseen husband has clearly asked for his wife to be stricter. She’s decided to accommodate him, but it instantly goes in a direction that he probably didn’t ask for. I have talked to Anne many times about being more strict, and I try to keep in mind that if it happens (and all signs are it would be happening absent my long convalescence), it could go in directions that I find way more aversive than a spanking, like . . .
Grounding: I’ve done several posts about grounding, but they never seemed to get much traction. I do gravitate toward grounding scenarios, perhaps because they trigger my attraction to “maternal” discipline. When I was growing up, one of my friends was frequently grounded, and his mother was an incredible stickler. No matter the reason, she wouldn’t budge on letting him out of it early, and she measured the time down to the minute. I remember one time we came over to get him to come along to something one afternoon, and we had to sit around for 30 minutes because we came over at 3:30 but he had gotten grounded at 4:00. I had a huge crush on her.
“You’re calling your friends to tell them”: One thing that makes grounding an effective punishment for kids is it is inherently public. Friends knowing about it is kind of the point. Here though, it seems like the wife is cranking it up a notch by having him call his friends and proactively tell them, before any shared event that he’s to be grounded from is in play. To me, that’s a big distinction. Given my current friends set, I honestly think I wouldn’t have a big problem declining an invitation to something based on Anne grounding me, though I don’t doubt I’d try to make it something of a joke. It would be much harder to have to tell others that I’d been grounded in the absence of any pending invitation. Though, I don't think it would be as embarrassing as having to tell someone, or having someone you know told, that you were, or are about to be, spanked.
Every night spankings: After we tried multiple spankings for the same offense, I kind of came around to the views that many of you had expressed about the value of having a single spanking “clear the slate.” Yet, it seems like this situation is a little different. The husband is being spanked for attitude, and he is implicitly given a way out: change the attitude! And, while I do see the wisdom of clearing the slate and moving on, I admit that I still have a strong visceral reaction to spanking stories in which two (or more) spankings are the norm for certain conduct.
“Little man”: Although I like it when Anne is verbally controlling (not in that moment, but after-the-fact for sure), I’m not a fan of belittling language like “little man”. But, I do like the “Are we clear” rhetorical question.
Thoughts?
Funny how I thought I'd just post a meme and ask what people thought, instead of doing a full-blown post, and somehow it became . . . a full-blown post.
ReplyDelete"You asked for strict and you're going to get strict" my wife would do this as a one off, but highly unlikely it would be an ongoing attitude. I don't believe she realizes the positive effects of being more strict with me.
ReplyDelete"You're grounded for a month. You're calling your friends to tell them." My wife does ground me once in a while by impounding my clothing, but it is usually only for 10-15 minutes. She would never make me call my friends. She is very private and only jokes about discipline in a way that no one would realize that she really disciplines me. I personally don't really care what people know about this one way or another.
"And you're getting the hairbrush every night until I see a major change in your attitude." My wife knows that I would except discipline everyday if she wanted. I have been spanked on back to back days a couple of times (in fact once last week on Monday am and again on Tuesday am), and the most I have ever been spanked is four times in one week. She is reluctant to do this every day because she is in the medical field and is concerned about causing tissue damage. I don't think this is really a problem with my current health, but she is still cautious.
"Are we clear little man?" My wife never speaks demeaning like this. If she scolds it is one firm sentence. E
"I personally don't really care what people know about this one way or another."
DeleteI wouldn't say I don't care at all, but my concern has gone down a lot over the years. For Anne, I think it varies. For many years, she was at least as sensitive as I was about others knowing. After retirement, however, she started doing things like leaving the window shades open while giving a spanking. At one point she said something like, "Why would I care? I'm not the one being spanked." But, I think that was more momentary bravado than a full-blown, permanent mindset of real openness.
Interesting topic. For me and our FLR, the meme that relates most is the dark haired woman agreeing to 'take control' or become 'more strict' but comes with a warning. That concept was very true for our FLR beginning. We were discussing a live-in situation and I was explaining the concept of corporal discipline. Even though she had been in a male-led marriage for years, she told me of her dominant side and how it had been held in check during her marriage. She had been alone for about two years after being widowed. She assured me she was aware of being in charge and said.. "believe me, I know how to spank". She proved this on my move in day very quickly. After carrying in the last of my belongings, she met me at the door stating, 'if we are doing this, we are doing it right. Get out of your clothes, and I mean every stitch, you're getting spanked right now to start things off". She delivered a very sound spanking, then scooped up my clothing and as everyone here knows, I am still kept nude whenever in the house. We both agreed on the only punishment would consist of bare ass spanking. No writing lines, grounding, lost privileges, or even corner time. She has employed multiple spankings for serious offenses or a string of daily spankings. I love my 20-year old FLR with DD household AND my Dominant Mistress/Life Partner.
ReplyDeleteYours does seem to have stepped into the role with gusto, despite being in a male-led dynamic before that.
DeleteTo start, sorry to read that you helped a friend and in so doing set your recovery back a week. As you put in a comment, this is a fulI blown post, that actually could have been broken up over a few weeks. So I will respond to a few of the ideas.
ReplyDeleteI do like the idea of going through old captioned photos and putting the really good ones you like into it's own folder, so fodder for future posts. I will try that also. My problem is that I randomly look at some I have saved, then when a second one ties in nicely with the first one, I can no longer remember which folder the first one was in.
The model looks total AI, but the concept is interesting. It would be very hard to tell someone I am grounded, but easier than saying I was spanked and am now grounded. I doubt we would ever use either of those ideas of telling friends, as Cindy is too shy of anyone knowing about our lifestyle, if they are not in it themselves.
The video is excellent, but the cover of it is a brutal spankng of a woman that we would never condone, so until now I had never clicked it to play.
We sometimes (at my suggestion) use a timer to tell when one minute is up, and Cindy spanks away hard and fast, but stamina cannot last a minute.
Lastly, although I suggest Cindy should be stricter and spank more often, and she is doing this, It is both a spanking and a learning experience for me that certain little habits that she dislikes (I never knew how much) are spanked strongly. I am not happy with being spanked at these times, but accept and learn upon reflection to be more considerate, which is always my goal.
Now, get better soon so you can be spanked often.
bottoms up
Red
Thanks! As they say, no good deed . . .
Delete"It would be very hard to tell someone I am grounded, but easier than saying I was spanked and am now grounded." If telling someone I was grounded involved being straight-forward about it and the underlying dynamic, I really don't know whether adding a spanking to that admission would be that much harder. To me, admitting to the disciplinary dynamic seems harder than telling someone about a spanking, which could be seen as just kinky sex play. For some reason, the latter doesn't seem as embarrassing as the former.
Regarding pace and length, Anne tends to be pretty deliberate, with swats coming relatively fast, but not as fast and unbroken as in the video. I do sometimes think that
"fast and furious" might do a better job of causing me to really break down.
That's the thing with asking for "stricter" - it almost inevitably ends up applying to things that she sees as a big deal but you may not. I would put a lot of Anne's "pet peeves" in that category.. Though, I would also note that once she says she's going to spank for them, I tend to stop doing them relatively easily. The exception is pet peeves that also involve a big element of carelessness or absent-mindedness, like leaving the garage door open or not locking doors when I leave. In those cases, I'm not downplaying or intentionally blowing off her concerns. Rather, I just forget.
I share your sentiment on getting spanked for minor offences which are really due to absentmindedness Dan , and how selective she can be as to what constitute a spanking offence.
DeleteShe had been reprimanding me for weeks about spending too much time on my phone , which I agreed with so made s point of tracking my use and even offered to accept a spanking for going over my target. Instead she gave me a pass on the basis I was doing something about it and had actually reduced my use.
The next evening we were going to sit outside and she was really mad because I had made myself a cup of herbal tea and did not make one for her.
To me it was no big deal as it was just a spur if the moment thing and didn't think to ask her.
However when I did the same thing a couple of nights later she was really pissed and afterwards she brought out the paddle snd spanked me for it.
I'll make sure to remember from now on but found it odd that she considered such a minor thing to be a spanking offence while giving me a pass on my phone use.
Seems like you have your next topic Dan. That is, what seemingly innocent behavior on your part, whether absent mindedly or simply forgetting to ask, has been a pet peeve of your wife who spanked you for it. Did the behavior change! I thinkk every husband has changed behavior becuase of this. bottoms up
DeleteRed
For us, the excessive phone/device use goes in the opposite direction. Anne is glued to her phone and iPad pretty much anytime she is at home and isn't asleep. I honestly think that, for her, it qualifies as an actual addiction.
DeleteFor absent-mindedness, I'm actually OK with being spanked for a lot of it and, in fact, my comments to her about it are what led to some of her focus on it. Although everyone is going to forget something or do careless things sometimes, I feel like I do create a lot of problems for myself, and sometimes others, through pure absent-mindedness, and I think it's one of things that spanking is likely to actually help with, as a spanking has a wonderful way of concentrating your attention on what put you in that position. And, there is no off-setting benefit to the behavior, as there is with things like drinking too much or being too boisterous in a conversation.
Red, that does seem like a good one. Thanks!
DeleteApologies for all my typos. Makes me look foolish! I am starting to be spanked for sending messages with typos on whatever media Cindy sees that I have written something. Red
DeleteNo problem. I'm very bad at catching typos in my posts, as Anne has noted.
DeleteHello all, my favorite pic or meme is the one with the older women, “I’m going to teach you a lesson”. It resonates with me growing up and having a no nonsense Mother and a female kindergarten teacher and my friends Mother, who tanned my bottom. Although I don’t find her attractive, I’m attracted to older women and find them incredibly sexy. A long flowing dress or knee length skirt with hose does it for me. My wife knows how intoxicating it is when she dresses how I described. I was punished again for raising my voice. I actually didn’t agree with this punishment because in fact my wife, hurt someone’s feelings indirectly. I explained the situation to her and of course became a bit animated. I was correct but unfortunately raised my voice, and that’s exactly what I wanted my wife to hold me accountable for in the first place. She paddled my bottom hard and I gritted my teeth throughout the punishment because I felt it unjust. There in lies the dynamic of DD that sometime I struggle with. I want to be held accountable for my actions, but when in a discussion with my wife, where she is wrong, she doesn’t see it that way. She at times see her side only. Although I did ask for this, I do want to get to the level of E., I want my wife to be more strict and if I need a thrashing multiple times a week, then so be it. My wife is not interested in grounding either. We have done corner time and I thought about approaching mouth soaping at one point. I’m not sure on that as a way to control my mouth. Thoughts on that within the group is it something that has been used? Iwe have had a few discussion about her raising her strictness level. It’s something that I feel I need and hopefully after our discussions and my vulnerability showing, she will step up her holding me accountable and not letting me off the hook at times.
ReplyDeleteT
T
I suspected you might like that one. I share your attraction to older, authoritative women and spanking memes/pics/drawings with older spankers.
DeleteI totally get your desire for more strictness, but your thrashing for raising your voice illustrates the challenge. The more they start internalizing strictness, the more you lose input into what is or isn't "just" or "deserved". And, of course, that's kind of the point. I'm sure when you were spanked by those strong, no-nonsense women as a kid, there were times you probably didn't agree with it. If you're like me, that's part of the attraction, even if it doesn't feel attractive at all as it is happening.
We've never down mouth soaping.
I agree, you want a certain level of strictness, but I also feel of course at times it’s unfair or not realistic. I’ve been around so many strong women growing up. I actually don’t see that very often anymore. I see more of the helicopter Moms that make excuses for their children. I had a AA female Mom who lived across the street for awhile. She was devoutly religious and did not hold back the strap. I admit I’ve always wanted to be thrashed by her.
DeleteT
Anne was a teacher. It was stunning how many parents did nothing but make excuses for their kids' behavior and performance problems.
DeleteT, My former would mouth soap followed by a good spanking. My current has not and I doubt she ever would. At the beginning we both agreed that all punishments would be bare ass spanking. We have discussed and are nearing implementation of me being spanked for raising my voice. Like other issues, she would adopt the policy of swift discipline. I would be spanked very quickly, very hard and very often, sometimes for very minor offenses. As I learned to control my voice, discipline would of course taper off.
DeleteThe expression the apple never falls far from the tree perfectly explains some kids behavior.
DeleteRed
"I would be spanked very quickly, very hard and very often, sometimes for very minor offenses."
DeleteThat does sound like THE prescription for addressing entrenched bad habits.
You are correct Dan. Bad habits can be broken and spankings are an excellent tool to accomplish it.
DeleteThe memes that work for me need to be believable, and that means older women, openly displaying dominance by sitting down and holding a paddle. The best example of that was one I believe Red sent of a very serious, middle aged woman with the caption being "I would rather have a spanking than an argument" The one of the older woman who is smiling and sitting with a hairbrush in her hand looks very realistic. The caption included in that one is " I am going to teach you a hard lesson over my knee" It's concise and seemed authentic, as opposed to all the ones of the beautiful young women are pretty to look at, but lack authenticity. For me, the themes that the words in the captions suggest are often over the top, too long, and not anything I would want. Examples like mouth soaping, grounding, calling friends, belittling language, etc. You and T mentioned that you don't like it when your wife spanks you for something which seems silly or unimportant to you. That isn't a problem for me, as I want her to feel entitled to spank for any reason she chooses, and it doesn't need to be something I think is important. Most of my spankings are for forgetfulness or carelessness.
ReplyDeleteI won't put words in T's mouth, but I didn't say I don't like it, if by that you mean I don't want her to do it. I think what we both said, in essence, was it's more of a struggle to accept it when it's something that is important to her but may not be to you, or where you just think she's wrong about a situation.
DeleteDan,
DeleteYour correct, it’s definitely more of a struggle when it’s not important to you. With the regards to Norton below. I still can’t fathom getting sparked over and over for forgetting to push in your chair. I guess I’m just built a bit differently. Maybe because of my upbringing w a single Mother. I don’t forget to put the seat down, or push in a chair, or close a door ect ect.
Maybe it was just ingrained in us growing up to do the right thing or else. I remember getting the lecture prior to arriving to a non relatives home. Respect this house or when we get home there will be consequences. We didn’t touch anything and we were on our best behavior.
T
Understood. My point was that I just don't have that same struggle. No right or wrong here, guess we are just wired a little differently. I still get numerous spankings for not pushing in my chair, which is completely unimportant to me, except I will get a spanking if I don't do it. If I do anything she doesn't like, that is reason enough, which works for both of us.
ReplyDeleteAlthough we are in our late 70s in my minds eye I am in my late teens and my mental image of an “ older woman” is in her 50’s the age of my mother in law when she gave me my first adult spanking.
ReplyDeleteYeah, many of the women I identify as "older" these days are probably about my age.
DeleteGrounding has never been a tool in her tool box but strange enough it did come up about a week ago. I dont remember the whole scenario but I had asked to go somewhere and she agreed but when I started to stray and act up a little she threatened to not let me go so I made the comment: "you mean I would be grounded" and she replied yes! So maybe in the future I could see her grounding me to the house if I get grumpy!
ReplyDeleteThat's an interesting development!
DeleteThe problem with grounding as a punishment for me is, I'm an introvert. So, for me, "You have to stay home and can't go to that crowded event with other people" isn't exactly punishing.
Of course, for "introverts" (like myself) alternatives to "grounding" could be "loss of privileges."
DeleteFor me personally, loss of "leisure computer time" for even one day would be VERY punishing. For you Dan, possible loss of "recreational" MC riding for a month could be similar, if not worse.
Did we just come up with a new subject for a future discussion?
(Al here)
ReplyDeleteHi Dan and fellow club members. I've been out for a couple of weeks traveling once again - we've had a busy summer in our retirement. Both our major trips this summer were road trips so she packed - and used - implements on both the trips.
As to the meme, alternative disciplinary measures (beyond spanking and anal discipline) have never appealed to either of us - whether it be grounding, corner time, writing sentences - or chastity devices, feminization, etc. So that aspect did not resonate with me personally. Nor (as Dan also commented) did the "little man" comment , Comments whose purpose is to belittle or humiliate are a turnoff for me - and thankfully Susan doesn't find them tasteful either. On the other hand - comments that empower Susan's authority to spank at will are very much a turn on - such as Dan's example of "Are we clear?" Just a few days ago, Susan and I were having a minor difference of opinion, and I asked her why her idea was any better than mine. Her reply - "because I'm the one with the paddle". And, I just said "yes ma'am" and let it go. :)
While I've never has to report to anyone that I've received a spanking, Susan has on a number of occasions informed others (the few who know I'm a spanked husband) that I have a spanking coming or have received a spanking. I recall looking at her phone once (we have a full transparency policy) and noting a text to her that said "Is Al in a better mood yet?" to which she replied "He is now - since he got a good spanking". Which was embarrassing to read - but also quite hot because of how it empowered her.
I also related to the threat of daily spankings - as I have been sentenced to daily spankings for a week on more than one occasion over the years when she felt my attitude was beginning to slip - including earlier this year.
And, by the way, that was a helluva video that felt a lot like home. My wife tends to spank hard and fast (although not quite that fast - I tried to count the number of whacks and could barely keep up - around 130, I believe). I would probably put it on my "Top 5" list".
--al
Hi al. Glad to hear your summer has been active. I love Susan's very straightforward response to why her idea was better than yours.
DeleteRegarding others being informed of a spanking, I can think of only one time that it's happened with us. I actually alluded to the underlying incident in the post. We had gone out to dinner with a couple we are friends with, and the wife is the only friend I've told about our DD lifestyle. Anne thought I dominated the conversation at dinner and was too loud and assertive. At one point, the husband and I went off to get a drink at the bar, and Anne told the wife that she was going to give me a spanking for my behavior. It's not something I look back on with embarrassment, largely because at the time I didn't agree with Anne's premise, and that was one of the few times we were at odds about whether a spanking was deserved. For some reason, my resentment (at that time) about being punished at all trumped any embarrassment about the friend being told.
Yeah, that was quite the video. Her pace was quite a bit faster than Anne's.
I think I would have a bit of a problem if my wife and I had a difference of opinion on something, and she stated I’m the one with the paddle. I guess of course it depends on the circumstances. I agree with both of you guys in the belittling or little man comments. They are a major turn off. My wife would also not be into chastity or grounding. My wife likes sex too much to have me locked. That is a whole topic in and of itself. I guess it could fall into DD. Dan, is that something you’ve experienced or anyone else on here? My wife had a few glasses of wine and punished me one evening. She then did stimulate me a bit aggressively. She use commanding words which I believe she would not have used, if not for having a few glasses. Afterwards, I was extremely turned on. The maternal tones and statements are the ones that resonate the most with me.
DeleteT
At one point I bought a chastity device, mainly out of curiosity. I tried it on, took it off and tossed it in the trash. It just wasn't for me. I see it as distinct kink, more aligned with Femdom than with DD, though I'm sure they overlap for some couples. One of the big issues I have with it is the data seems very clear to me that, for males, fewer orgasms correlates strongly with higher cancer risks.
DeleteDan,
DeleteI read about that somewhere as well. I also agree that it seems to be more related to FLR than DD. I think I would have a problem being locked for an extended period of time. It’s interesting that you actually ordered one and tried it out. Did Anne ask about the device or did you do it on your own? The only thing I could think of is if the spankings were sexual for someone, it might prevent them from acting out. I think more of BDSM or like you pointed out strong FLR.
There was a commenter on here who had a blog that included a lot of chastity material. I'd exchanged some emails with him, and his description got me interested enough to look into it further. But, as I said, it wasn't for me. It isn't something Anne has ever expressed an interest in.
DeleteI too have never gotten too much into the chastity thing, though the degree of control that it brings to the game is quite compelling to think about. The only way I could see my wife using it is as part of a punishment, where either she says I am to be locked a certain number of days, or perhaps I have to earn my way out of it by begging her to punish me or something like that.
DeleteWhile it is a hugely popular topic on Tumblr and so on, I think about 99% of it is just fantasy with no basis in reality.
-ZM
I can see how some women might come to really get off on the the control it embodies.
Delete(Al here)
ReplyDeleteT wrote: >"I think I would have a bit of a problem if my wife and I had a difference of opinion on something, and she stated I’m the one with the paddle. I guess of course it depends on the circumstances"<
Just to clarify, her comment was actually said in jest - as the issue at hand was of minor importance. Although - it does reflect her comfort level as a disciplinary wife - but we've been a DWC couple since 2001, so probably not unexpected.
Except in disciplinary issues surrounding my behavior and attitude, we have always been a "modern partnership marriage" with each of of us contributing in various ways, and making the "major decisions" together.
"Because I am the one with the paddle" is basically the same topic T and Dan were describing above, as they both had trouble accepting spankings they precived as unfair or for trivial reasons. In our house, is if she feels motavoted to spank for any reason, I have no desire to challenge her, and want her to be dominant. Ms.Terrapin said a while ago, when she realized that she didn't need to be fair, it freed her up to stop second guessing herself. Basically, she assumes the role of a strict mom, and she could stay out late every night if she wanted to, but that didn't mean he could. Of course, you would have to really trust her, and if she really was unfair or selfish, you would probably soon resent it. A future topic could be "what is more important to you in your relationship with your dominant wife - fairness or dominance? That may be an oversimplified question, but it might generate some discussion.
ReplyDeleteHi Dan,
ReplyDeleteGreat subject. I love, love, love captions/memes. I actually far prefer them to videos because they provide only a setting and allow my overactive imagination to fill in all the details. It is kind of like preferring a book to the movie that it is made into.
I agree that this one packed in a lot of themes, including the disciplined husband getting more than he bargained for (her taking it further than he envisioned), her "whatever it takes" mindset implied by turning to every day spankings, her use of grounding in addition to physical punishment, and him being forced to tell his friend about it, which goes beyond incidental embarrassment of someone finding out and instead ensures that everyone will know about it.
Love it!
-ZM
I agree on memes vs. videos. There are a few videos I've been attracted to but, given the level of my interest in the subject, it's surprising that there are so few. 99% of the spanking videos out there don't do much of anything for me.
DeleteMost spanking vids don't do much for me either, but the one you posted above really works. It comes across as very authentic and realistic, which is what most of us spankos want to see. In a similiar way, most memes with a beautiful young model and a caption about spanking don't ring true either. Both memes and videos that are believeable usually have an average looking, mature woman who is clearly displaying a dominant, no nonsense attitude.
ReplyDeleteThe primary problem with spanking videos supposedly about DD is that they exist to start with. Imagine that you are in trouble with your wife, so instead of just spanking you, she decides to video the whole thing. DD is best done at the time of infraction, and the focus should always be on the two people involved, not a camera. Anyway, most spanking videos just don't do much for me. On the issue of memes, I have no problem with beautiful young people, since I have only been spanked ever by people younger and better looking than me. What does add significantly to the quality and believability of a meme is if the woman is holding a brush, paddle, or something, rather than just looking like someone from a JCPenney catalog.
ReplyDelete-ZM
I agree on the staging, though whether it resonates with me still seems to depend mostly on the technique and demeanor of the spanker. I've posted a few videos here of a woman (heavier set, not particularly attractive - definitely not a model) who gives some very realistic OTK spankings. The scenes obviously are staged, yet her technique is so true-to-life and the spankings so realistic, I do find them compelling.
DeleteYou're right though that the first tip off that a disciplinary spanking isn't "real" is that it's being filmed at all. Yet, people are so obsessed with capturing every minute of their lives, I don't doubt that there are some people in this lifestyle who incorporate filming into real spankings, whether for their own use or because they are "creators" trying to make money. It's kind of everywhere these days. There's a popular adventure motorcyclist I follow on YouTube. A few months ago, he posted a video of a recent trip in which his riding companion took a serious spill and had to be helicoptered out. At one point, it occurred to me, "WTF, this guy is seriously injured, and at some point you clearly took the time to stage a camera and film him waiting under a makeshift tent for the helicopter to show up." From my own recent accident, I have a pic of me on the side of the road waiting for search and rescue to take me out. Most of us are more than a little obsessed these days with documenting every second of our lives, including the painful parts.