Hi all. I hope you're enjoying the weekend.
It's been dead, dead, dead here at the Disciplinary Couples Club. I assume it's because everyone is out enjoying fun summer stuff, which is as it should be. Still, with participation this low, it's leaving me with less than zero motivation to spend a few hours writing up a post. And, I'm not really inspired to talk about anything in particular anyway. So, I probably won't be posting this week. I also have some plans for next weekend, which could mean no post that week either. I'm just going to play it by ear.
FYI, if you're looking for a summer distraction, the Spanked2realtears Tumblr has been doing a somewhat entertaining series of audio stories about a man who ends up getting disciplinary spankings from his attractive, single mother neighbor. Give it a listen if you're looking for spanking content in a medium (audio) that we don't deal with much here. https://www.tumblr.com/spanked2realtears. There are four segments in the series, each entitled The Spanking Mom Next Door. I enjoyed them, perhaps because I'm more audio than visually oriented. Feel free to comment on it below if you find it interesting.
Have a good week.
Hi Dan,
ReplyDeleteThose audio story segments are quite interesting! I am sitting here in the airport of your former stomping grounds and listening to them.
It has been very dead on the blog. I guess at least this way I don't have to worry as much about all that I missed!
-ZM
Kind of makes you wonder what all the other people with headphones are listening to, doesn't it?
DeleteI hate airport downtime.
Yeah, the deadness is kind of a bummer, though the reality is I've been pretty busy this summer, so I guess the deadness gives me a reason not to feel guilty about posting less regularly. But, I do miss good conversations.
I notice the pictures are AI art. Do you know of any good AI art generators for creating art along the lines of the subject covered by this blog?
ReplyDeleteL.
I don't know, but there are already hundreds of such pictures on the web. No real need to generate more. Unless you'd enjoy doing so of course.
DeleteL., I'm not sure which AI generator the author of that Tumblr is using, though I like it. One challenge is that most of the popular AI generators won't do adult content. I've managed to trick a few into doing something that it's fairly stock DD fare, like a woman sitting on a chair holding a brush, but any request that gets very specific in terms of implements, positions, etc., often draws a red flag. Bing's image generators seems a bit more liberal than some. Grok's image generator also seems a bit liberal. Though, even when they will draw things like women holding brushes or belts, they almost always seem to screw up the perspective, like making the brush enormous compared to the figure holding it. So, I do wish I knew which generator that Tumblr owner is using, as it seems to do a much better job than most.
DeleteAlthough, I also will say, I'm quickly getting kind of over AI art in general. I don't know exactly why, but there is something about it that feels very cold and, to me, is somewhat off-putting compared to either a human-made drawing or an actual picture.
I think both AI and "handmade art" have their places.
DeleteL.
Hope you feel more up to the task of continuing the blog in a few weeks. It has been a regular part of our check in, and has done a lot to enlighten us about how to practice real DD. The end result of that has been a major improvement in my behavior and our relationship. We took a break for a while, but now her role of being dominant has returned, which I welcome wholeheartedly. I am much happier when taken in hand, and over her knee, on a regular basis.
ReplyDeleteI'm probably will, though right now it's really more about other things being priorities. I usually manage to squeeze posts in anyway even when I'm busy, but the reality is that right now very few are participating anyway, and I don't feel like putting in the time for something that just hangs out there in the ether.
DeleteFair comment. I admit that I really haven’t had anything to contribute for the last few weeks. I’m not sure if it’s just that the last few posts haven’t inspired me, or that I feel I’ve said everything I could and don’t want to repeat myself. I’m sure it’ll tick back to again in the fall though. TG
ReplyDeleteAgreed. This isn't the first time I've felt like I've run out of things to say It's usually temporary.
DeleteAlso agreed. It seems I am often repeating things I have said before. However, I still find it enjoyable to read what others are experiencing. BTW, there seems to be another "DWC" site, which is different than the original. The title is "Spanking for Love, Not Punishment" and it's under something called "Lifestyle". It might be AI generated, and it never explicitly states that it is F/M, so it isn't clear. There is some good info in there, and it pretty much describes our relationship, which has morphed from disciplinary to maintenance. Has anybody else come across it, or know anything about it?
ReplyDeleteI haven't seen that. Do you have a link?
DeleteBeen awfully busy recently, and had some serious health problems (ongoing), but glad to be back to help. . . .
Deletehttps://crispme.com
This site presents itself as kind of a technology / news aggregator website that covers a wide range of issues, that described itself as:
"Your trusted hub for the freshest news and in-depth reviews on the latest developments in the tech and entertainment spheres. . . . Our team is comprised of experts who are deeply passionate about all things tech and entertainment."
There was a posting by "Admin" on that site about four months ago titled:
"The Disciplinary Wives Club: Spanking for Love, Not Punishment,"
located here . . .
https://crispme.com/the-disciplinary-wives-club-spanking-for-love-not-punishment/
"Admin" seems to lack a broad understanding of what the DWC promotes and how such relationships are supposed to function. There is also a profound lack of any reference(s) to the original website, Aunt Kay, and its history.
While overall positive, and potentially useful, the articles (like most articles on the website) early on introduces a "promo link" to a "time / work management platform" (i.e., "checkant" [TM]), and later another (i.e., "ilikecpmix" [TM] that the website widely promotes (and sells?).
(There are no references in the article that "The Disciplinary Wives Club" and "DWC" are trademarks of that club, owned by the corporation that Aunt Kay and Jerry originally founded.)
Sorry to hear about the health issue. I hope it gets better.
DeleteNot giving credit to the original DWC wasn't the only thing that bothered me about this site. Although they said it was a support group, there was no link provided, so that seemed like an empty offering. It also seemed that it was deliberately vague about what most of us think of when reading about "disciplinary wives". To all of us here, it is clearly a wife who spanks her husband. IF, great to hear from another generation. If I were taken in hand a long time ago, my life would probably have been much more stable, and I would have been a better husband.
DeleteToo bad that the affluence, chat activity, and I guess Dan's morale is going down, I was just beginning to dare start commenting after feeling like I have cought up on the contents on this wonderful blog, after which I don't think I'll ever be able to see a spanking video with the same eyes as before (in a good way).
ReplyDeleteMay have
Sorry for premature publish, I'm typing this on my phone which - as any fellow millennial will confirm - feels more detached, less official, and implying less self censorship than a computer. On the other hand, the Blogger interface kind of sucks here.
DeleteI was about to say, there's not a lot of domains where at 36 I can feel extremely young in comparison to the crowd, so I was thinking that here is also one of the few spaces where my presence might be rejuvenating.
Anyway, to the matter. My wife and I have been together (half dating, half married) for a dozen years. While my spanking attraction was clear from the get go and didn't seem to bother her in the slightest, it's only after I've stumbled across Dan's writing a couple of weeks ago that I realized there was a community out there where my ambitions about getting spanked seeking for peace of mind, a feeling of forgiveness, and a way to combat my anxiety and guilt issues which had lead me to various unhealthy ways of coping.
Upon seeing the concept of a disciplined husband, I immediately knew in my gut that that was a situation I needed to be in. Not too long after, I dare call myself a "beginner" or a "disciplined husband in the making.
I shared my (not very well kept) spankingtube profile as my url, if anyone wants to friend me there, be my guest, you can also send me a message saying that you came from here.
DeleteOr don't. Or just ask me anything here.
"Going down" may be the wrong way to phrase it. Most likely, it's just a seasonal pause, as people focus on summer vacations and other distractions. But, as you mentioned, the Blogger interface sucks, and I do think it's having an impact on readership and participation. My wife was having trouble viewing it a few days ago, and there didn't seem to be an easy fix like changing browsers.
DeleteAs for my morale, it's fine. It just doesn't seem like a great use of time to put energy into a new post when people are plainly distracted and have other things going on. And, my pauses in posting were about some of my own distractions, including more motorcycle adventures and other travel than normal. Though, the one that was supposed to have me busy over this weekend came to an abrupt halt this morning thanks to a mechanical issue; the second time in as many weeks that a trip was aborted on the first or second day. THAT definitely screws with my morale.
I don't know whether 36 is "extremely young" compared to the rest of the regular participants, but it's probably on the younger side for those crowd. Though, it's also just slightly younger than I was when I first discovered the whole concept of domestic discipline when I stumbled on The Disciplinary Wives Club website. So, I'm glad to see that at least someone else has discovered by DD by stumbling into this little corner of the internet.
DeleteNice to hear that your spirits are higher than it seemed to me from the post.
DeleteAnd maybe just a small precision: I was familiar with the _term_ DD way before, it just took me reading the "witness accounts" from you guys to realize there was a major overlap with what I was after in my spanking cravings...
36 is still old from my perspective! J. was about the same age and I am still well within my 20s.
DeleteL.
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DeleteStill in your 20s. The older ladies, including my wife, don't seem interested in contributing. I wonder if you were exposed at an earlier age to open discussion of such matters.
Tom,
DeleteI was introduced to F/M DD by J. in the run-up to our wedding. I struggle to remember significant discussion of it before then.
L.
L
DeleteWere you receptive to it from the start? How long did it take you to "take charge" and spank without hesitation?
Tom
DeleteI suppose it seemed unusual when I first heard about it, but we took the view that what happens between a married couple is their business.
I wouldn't say I got up to "full speed" straight away, but I'd say I did fairly soon after we got married, probably in the order of days to weeks.
Is that what you were getting at?
L.
Yes. A few days to weeks was very fast. And from what you've written it appears that you loved being a disciplinary wife and acted the part on a daily basis. You are still very young and I would guess you will eventually find a way to do this again. Meantime, I'm sure everyone values your contributions to this discussion.
DeleteTom,
DeleteYes, indeed! It was an intensive honeymoon and things progressed fast!
I had a great six or so years married to J., which were fantastic, but if they aren't repeated elsewhere, that doesn't necessarily matter. Good things repeated often turn out not to be as good the second time around.
I definitely enjoyed being a disciplinary wife! We were very adventurous physically in many respects! There was spanking, but there were other things too. Things moved very quickly from nothing to me expecting our fifth child.
L.
You have great memories and will always cherish them.
DeleteMy own wife initiated her role as disciplinarian, so there was no adjusting to the idea. But it took her a while to establish the routine of a spanking- what she'd say, how we'd prepare, what implements to use, how severe the punishment should be, how to end it and act afterward. From the start she liked the over the knee position and has stuck with it but other elements have changed from time to time.
Tom,
DeleteThanks for your thoughts. I definitely have some fantastic memories from this period with J.!
How did things change over time with your wife and the DD side of things? And were the changes gradual or sudden?
I can't recall much if any of the over-the-knee position with J.: it was mostly standing positions. Sometimes, he would stand up straight, sometimes he would bend over slightly, sometimes he would rest his palms against a wall. Sometimes, we didn't feel like getting out of bed and he would lie face down while I spanked him while sitting to one side.
L.
That will take a bit of thought. I'll answer your question later today.
DeleteTom,
DeleteLooking forward to learning more later.
L.
L
DeleteIn the beginning, the changes were sudden. She had gotten spankings herself, even in high school, but had never spanked a grown man. So she was nervous the first time, and not really sure I'd comply. But I lowered my pants and shorts as ordered and got over her knee. She later told me it was a huge relief when I obeyed. But she used a too light hairbrush and her hand, and realized they were having very little effect on me. She warned me that in the future I'd not get away so easily.
And as promised, she started using a heavy hairbrush and a short strap. And again was gratified that I accepted the punishment despite the real pain. As time went by, she got really confident, and by the end of the first year or so had added features like sending me to get the implements, and removing my pants herself. She has also added an element of unpredictability, so that I may not be sure whether the spanking is over or she's pausing for a scolding. Rarely, she has me get up for a "discussion" and then orders me over her lap for more punishment. She also went on to add erotic elements to the spankings, and quite frequently they lead to love-making.
I should have added that, as I've said elsewhere, her confident, stern, severe manner makes her all the more desirable to me.
DeleteL
DeleteGood grief. I just wrote a long paragraph in answer to your question and it has disappeared. I hit Publish and saw it there and it's no longer there. So, I'll start over
now and hope it actually gets published.
L
DeleteMy wife later told me that when she first decided to spank me she was fearful that I would not comply, even though I had acquiesced to heIr insistence on her right to punish. So, when she told me I was about to get spanked, it was a relief to her that
I lowered my pants and shorts and got over her knee. She used a too light hairbrush and her hand, and realized this had little effect on me. But she warned me that in the future I would not get off so easy, and sure enough the next spanking was with a heavy hairbru.sh and a short strap. This was really painful and again she was gratified that I accepted it. During the next six months or a year she refined her approach. She started sending me for the implements, removed my pants herself, required me to acknowledge my errors and thank her for the spanking.
Other changes were more gradual. For instance she has added unpredictability, so that I'm never quite sure that a spanking is over or whether I'll have to get back over her knee. And on the good side, she introduced erotic elements to the punishment, so there's some pleasure along with the very real pain. Quite often, a painful spanking is followed by love-making.
L
DeleteIt happened again. It disappeared. I've saved it and hope Dan can figure out why this is happening.
L
DeleteMy wife later told me that when she first decided to spank me she was fearful that I would not comply, even though I had acquiesced to heIr insistence on her right to punish. So, when she told me I was about to get spanked, it was a relief to her that
I lowered my pants and shorts and got over her knee. She used a too light hairbrush and her hand, and realized this had little effect on me. But she warned me that in the future I would not get off so easy, and sure enough the next spanking was with a heavy hairbru.sh and a short strap. This was really painful and again she was gratified that I accepted it. During the next six months or a year she refined her approach. She started sending me for the implements, removed my pants herself, required me to a
acknowledge my errors and thank her for the spanking.
Other changes were more gradual. For instance she has added unpredictability, so that I'm never quite sure that a spanking is over or whether I'll have to get back over her knee. And on the good side, she introduced erotic elements to the punishment, so there's some pleasure along with the very real pain. Quite often, a painful spanking is followed by love-making.
L
DeleteLooks like it finally posted. I have no idea why it took so many tries. While I'm at it,
I'll explain that my wife's family believed in spanking and she got several while in high school. But she had never given a spanking to an adult male. Her father spanked through her skirt with his hand, and would stop soon after she started crying. Her mother spanked on the bare, used a hairbrush, and was not at all moved by crying. So she managed a couple of times to avoid Mom and get spanked by Dad.
L
DeleteDisappeared again. Short messages to you succeed but long one disappears. Brief answer to you is that there were many sudden changes in first year as she took different approaches. Afterwards, gradual changes. Now pretty stable.
L
DeleteExamples. Initial spankings ineffective. She got a heavier hairbrush, added a tawse, spanked much longer, removed pants and shorts herself.
L
DeleteMore gradual change. Added erotic element to spanking, but increased severity.
Tom and "L":
DeleteSounds like Google's "IA Spam Monster" is having more "brain farts."
Don't bother trying to repost and having the same results.
Dan should be able to restore those Spam-Canned posts, when he has time.
Thanks
DeleteTom,
DeleteWith J., I varied many of the things you mentioned and I also varied the types of physical punishment given. We were very adventurous!
L.
L
DeleteA change that took place more gradually was her introduction of erotic elements to the spankings. These became more and more pronounced and make most spankings an astonishing mix of pain and pleasure. But she has stuck to the same basic implements - hairbrush, tawse, wooden ruler, and her hand. And punishment only on the bum, except for a rare slap.
L
DeleteNot so adventurous here. Biggest change was adding erotic elements to spanking.
Tom,
DeleteWas there any reason in particular for the punishment-only-on-the-bum rule? Have you ever experienced any punishments elsewhere beyond the aforementioned occasional slap?
L.
Well, she used spanking on the bum as punishment, and that's how she had been punished. And such spankings used to be commonly depicted in magazines and newspapers. And I suppose spanking on the bum has persisted through the ages as a punishment within families because it causes enough pain to be real punishment but does not do any permanent harm. And of course removing the shorts and pants, (or skirt and panties) adds embarrassment to the experience.
DeleteDo I understand that you targeted other areas of the body?
Sorry, forgot to include my name.
DeleteI should mention one variation. On the very few occasions when she has had a switch available, the over the knee position has not been possible as you can imagine. I had to stand and bend over while she used it with enthusiasm. But she still confined the switching to the bum, staying above the thighs.
DeleteTom,
DeleteYes, we did other physical punishments besides spanking. I'd definitely recommend this too!
But yes, spanking is good for the reasons you mentioned.
L.
Tom,
DeleteSome are probably off-topic for here, so maybe I could enlighten you elsewhere?
L.
Damn, I answered your question about bum only and it disappeared. Here we go again.
DeleteTom,
DeleteOkay. Hope you find a way round the filter.
L.
Short seems to work. Bum sensuous part of body. If she caresses when very sore, feels heavenly.
DeleteAnd she very often does, and leads to love making.
DeleteN.B.: A good thing about being a beginner at anything is that the first times of all kind seem to be more frequent before the experience sets in.
ReplyDeleteI a very "be careful what you wish for" way, it didn't take me more than a week to amass three counts of things I have myself picked to be spankable offenses, or more precisely automatic punishment triggers. My wife being a busy woman and two of the three counts having taken place during the preparation and first phases of our weekend trip to a different city, I needed up booking myself a triple header starting tonight.
Oddly I'm more curious than nervous. Never been spanked on two days in a row before as. bottom before. I suppose some nervous anticipation will eventually settle in, but for now my feelings towards that upcoming ordeal gravitate around an honorable feeling of owning up to behaviors I *do* want to get rid of. So the worse it is, the better it is, in a way...
The more scary part about back-to-back spankings I infer from old comments here is the postponed relief until the last one is done, but I forsee that this is going to be less of an issue given that I'm in it for several offenses.
A neat thing I'm happy about with out "beta test of DD rules" so to speak is that when multiple offenses accumulate since the last discipline session, they won't get treated as FIFO, but starting from the most recent. That seems like a good idea in order to discourage psychological numbness.
Anyway, if anyone is interested, I can tell you how it went after it's done. I mean, that seems to be a good portion of this comment section :)
Welcome "IF":
DeleteFrom cursory reading of your several initial posts, it appears you may have never actually visited the *original* "Disciplinary Wives Club" website. The original site is currently down (due to malfunctions, and subsequent "maintenance/updating " of HTML coding), but that site was well-archived on the "Internet Archive" (i.e., "web.Archive.org").
Dan has a link that that archived DWC website under "Links I Like," in the upper-right corner of this page. You can also go there directly with this link:
http://web.archive.org/web/20191219070354/http://www.auntkaysdwc.com/
Many a husband, and quite a few wives, have become well-formed and highly motivated by reading that site. Particularly the "Tips and Methods," "FAQ," and "Real Peoples [Accounts]" sections.
Maybe you and your wife would enjoy a joint (or private individual) visits.
Thanks for joining the conversation here and now, and later in the future.
IF - it's a pretty safe bet that most of us would be very interested to hear about your ordeal. Many comments don't necessarily stick to the topic, and we bounce off each other, which is one of the things about this site that makes it interesting and unpredictable. "Be careful what you wish for" has been part of the DD experience for most of us. A real disciplinary spanking needs to be hard and long enough to really motavate the husband to change his behavior, and it is almost never the fantasy he thinks it will be, and usually leads to him having much more respect for his newly empowered wife.
ReplyDeleteAgreed. The whole point of a "club" is participation.
DeleteAgreed with Norton. Some degree of latitude is necessary to get the full potential out of conversations and participation, in my humble opinion.
DeleteL.
Thank you Donn and Norton for your words of welcome.
ReplyDeleteSo far, my ordeal has been postponed by a day due to "life getting in the way" as Dan would put it. I'm familiar with the DWC materials but must admit to find your accounts here even more real.
As for being careful what I wish for, we've been building up to get to the DD level for quite a while, my pain tolerance or maybe lack of emotional reaction to physical pain being the major hurdle. But there has already been one occasion where she managed to overwhelm me enough to produce an "oh shit" moment of sorts, as well as me internally feeling that something in my head had just been straightened. So while I'm aware that I won't know what hating it on the spot precisely feels like until I'm sure I've been through it, I've been testing the waters as well as I could so to speak.
About the one occasion that I did feel like it may be the real deal (and I would positively consider the experience as such had there not be for my bloody impostor syndrome), I blogged here:
https://www.spankingtube.com/blog/44534/the-level-up
Mind you, it lacks the "proper" DD/DWC "jargon" as I only discovered Dan's Medium, DWC and this blog later.
FYI, I'm surprised it didn't happen this time, but putting links in the comments very often results in Blogger flagging it as spam.
DeleteThanks for the heads up. Will be more careful next time.
Delete@IF, Thank you for the link. I'm After reading the the blog account and photos, I realize am absolutely a lightweight. There is no way I would have ever been able to withstand that. I wrestle with this aspect all the time. Fear of severity, is always on my mind. Its the "Be careful what you wish for" syndrome.
DeleteGeorge
I enjoyed the stories, thanks and it is a shame that there is not more DD audio content available. There is some on Spotify (and a surprising amount of erotic audio material). As an example Wylde Podcasts - Spanking Stories are doing a weekly podcast / story which can be quite ‘edgy’ F/M, M/M and various combinations. The Library of Spanking Fiction also has some audio stuff. TB
ReplyDeleteThat's good to know. I'm an Apple guy, but it does seem like Spotify has a wider range of content.
DeleteHi Dan,
ReplyDeleteI hope you are getting a much-deserved break. I thought I would post some very random comments about the audio stories, since I found them surprisingly impactful considering that I normally don’t prefer audiobook or things like that. I have mentioned before the power of the spoken word, but that was more in the context of my wife saying something to me or perhaps others about spanking me, or perhaps being forced to ask out loud for a spanking. But apparently even hearing a spanking-related story is somehow powerful. I was surprised at just how many themes that we have touched on in the blog surfaced in these short audio stories. Maybe something in the comments on this will give some spark of inspiration!
I would encourage any who are interested in the audio stories to listen to the them first before reading my spoilers in the following posts!
-ZM
Episode 1 – Kinky curiosity
ReplyDeleteFirst off, the premise of the story – being spanked by a mom who spanks (or spanked) her children – resonated very strongly with me. In this case, Shannon was an attractive single mom who everyone in the neighborhood knew used corporal punishment to keep her kids in line, and Mark was a single guy who had a spanking fetish but no experience, who as attracted to strong women.
When Shannon approaches Mark explaining her need for quick cash and asking if he needed any odd jobs done, I can totally see why he offered to let her clean his house; with him having a thing for strong women, and having heard the buzz about how she spanks her kids, just having her around would be exciting for a guy with a spanking fantasy.
His plan to bring it up with her was pretty clever. By leaving a paddle laying out, especially a paddle with holes that is clearly for spanking, she certainly would see it, but she could have either said something about it or not. Several times others on the blog have mentioned having someone see a spanking implement that was left sitting out. Also, by leaving it in her hands whether to mention it or not, he was kind of doing the same as we have talked about when talking to our others about our activities, where we might kind of casually mention something, and if they latch onto it and seem interested, we tell more, or if not, we play the whole thing off as a joke.
Anyway, back to the story, I can fully relate to Mark’s heart racing as she was cleaning, wondering just what, if anything, she would make of the paddle. Probably even when she asked so directly, I still would not have been able to be as open as he was.
Her response is one that probably most of our wives or partners would relate to, when she simply couldn’t understand why anyone would want a real spanking. I expect that is the biggest hinderance to all disciplinary wives, and even when they agree to discipline us, it is what keeps them from going as hard and long as they might otherwise.
Probably like most others, I didn’t love the plot device that she agreed to spank him for $100 per session initially, though having said that, it did provide a plausible motive that tied in with the story and it wasn’t like she was having sex with him for money. Also, the author “fixed” that in later episodes.
The description of the actual spanking was good. Anyone who has actually been spanked as an adult can attest that the reality is quite different than the fantasy, and it hurts much worse than expected. And, as I recall, this was much more true the first several times, before your bottom gets used to being spanked.
Even on a tender, never-spanked bottom, having Mark in tears with ten whacks was a real stretch, especially when he didn’t have a close emotional bond with Shannon and when the spanking was just for the experience – so without any sort of guilt from wrongdoing. Having said that, who knows just how hard Shannon spanks? After all, she had plenty of experience giving real spankings just to correct behavior.
-ZM
"Probably even when she asked so directly, I still would not have been able to be as open as he was." I think that probably would be true for me too, at least with someone I wasn't already very close to. I was pretty direct with my wife after I found the DWC, but it was also incredibly nerve-racking.
Delete"Her response is one that probably most of our wives or partners would relate to, when she simply couldn’t understand why anyone would want a real spanking." For the first several years of our DD, I didn't realize that this was a hang-up for my wife really taking control, but it clearly was. I think she still doesn't understand it, but I think she eventually stopped needing to.
Yeah, tears that come too easily make a story less believable for me. Yet, that's something that has changed over the years. The DWC has several stories with scenarios that include what I now get are implausibly easy tears, yet I was very attracted to those stories when I first read them.
Regarding openness in telling someone outright, I would be held back at least somewhat by my inherent shyness when talking about spanking, even to my wife who has spanked me for years.
DeleteAs for tears coming too easily, while it doesn't help the believability of the story, I certainly don't mind tears being mentioned in a story, as they are one of my biggest hot buttons for the whole topic of spanking. Plus, who knows why he cried? Was it purely because of pain, or perhaps he was having some sort of catharsis or other emotional response.
-ZM
Episode 2 - Hooked
ReplyDeleteTwo months had passed, and we were told that in this time, Mark couldn’t stop thinking about the experience. He remembered the extreme vulnerability, humbling, and pain very clearly. He was trying to reconcile in his mind how much it hurt and how he shouldn’t want it again with the fact that he very much did want it again, even though he couldn’t understand why. All I can say on this is good luck! I have been trying to reconcile this for many years now!
At the same time, Shannon couldn’t stop thinking about the exhilarating rush that she felt in exercising such power over a grown man. We often talk here about how many of our wives really get a charge out of exercising authority over us, and not only that, some of our wives (mine included) actually enjoy giving spankings, not only the momentary rush of power, but also the sound of each whack and the bottom changing color.
For Shannon, her perception of spanking itself was changing. For her, spanking had been a very practical, matter-of-fact way to keep her kids in line, and nothing else, and when she spanked them, it was just another task done by a probably overwhelmed single mom. But now she was starting to experience a totally different dynamic where the power shift was much more evident. After all, moms already have all the power and kids have virtually none, but a grown man has much of the power in modern society.
Anyway, all thoughts aside, Mark eventually brings the topic up again with Shannon and asks if she is up for doing it again. She of course agrees, but this time she is not going to hold back. This plays to the ever present sub-plot that we all very much entertain in our own fantasies or relationships, where she ends up really grabbing onto the whole thing and we end up getting much more than we ask for.
The description of the spanking itself was similar to the first. All four episodes had some repetition in them. I am not sure if it was because it was written with the assistance of AI or so that each episode could more stand alone?
But what was different is that this time Mark had the previous experience seared in his memory, se this time there was a mixture of dread and excitement (I guess instead of uncertainty and excitement?) as he stood at her door. This made me think of the theme we have discussed here from time to time of being sent to a “surrogate” and what it would feel like standing at the door and either knocking or ringing the bell.
Either way, Mark ended up really spanked to tears in this episode, not only with a few tears, but well past that to openly crying or sobbing. Realistic? Maybe not, but certainly compelling, and somewhere I would like to be taken.
-ZM
We've discussed here many times how wives may start giving spankings as an accommodation to our desires, but over time they come to really embrace their power. What I would love to know is how many of them embrace it--or at least acknowledge feeling it--as quickly as Shannon does in this story. I am very sure that my wife enjoys the power of giving a spanking, but I think that took a while to develop.
DeleteThe whole scenario of being sent to a surrogate and having to show up at the door is a very powerful one for me. Similarly powerful for me--perhaps more so--is having to call the surrogate on the phone, at the wife's suggestion, to request a spanking session.
My wife got an immediate charge out of being in power, though she didn't necessarily openly admit it for a while.
DeleteThe surrogate thing is just very, very provocative. It is one of the few scenarios where when I think about it, I can almost feel all the feelings that would be involved.
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It really is extremely provocative - for me at least.
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ReplyDeleteIt has been interesting to see how things have developed so far. They started in a strictly disciplinary relationship. For Shannon, spanking Mark was basically therapy (and initially a way to make a few quick bucks), allowing her to finally confront and overcome some of the bad feelings she had harbored towards her ex-husband, who apparently didn’t treat her so well. For Mark, after his spanking curiosity was satisfied somewhat, it was mostly about experiencing her strict demeanor and control. And he had a lot of time to think about that and reflect, since her harsh spankings left soreness that lasted for days on end.
It was no surprise to hear in episode 3 that Shannon and Mark were now in a ever-deepening relationship. After all, spanking sparks intimacy, as we have said here time and time again. At least part of the reason is that it requires trust and also because it becomes a shared secret, and both of these are key ingredients in close bonds and intimacy.
One very interesting development in episode 3, however, is that Shannon started using spanking for her own purposes. This time, it wasn’t because Mark wanted a spanking, but rather because Mark forgot her birthday, despite her repeated hints about. In doing so, he made her feel overlooked, which brought back a flood of feelings from her previous marriage. This time, however, she took matters firmly in hand and gave Mark a series of daily paddlings of 50 strokes each (another theme we have addressed here) which left Mark totally broken and with a purple bottom.
When talking about the after effects of a spanking, the story also mentioned somewhat the post spanking dynamic that many of us have talked about here, where for the days after being spanked we find ourselves quite calm and contrite or almost submissive, while our wives tend to continue to subtly show their authority. I know that I find myself almost in awe at my wife’s ability to bring me to heel, as well as her much better self-control that makes up for some of my lack of self-control in some areas.
I think her starting to use her authority to address things that matter to her is also basically inevitable. Once your wife realizes the power she has to effect change, expect that sooner or later she is going to start using it!
For Shannon, spanking has now come full circle, from being a practical way to change behavior (of her kids) to the thrill of exercising power over Mark, and now back to a way to change behavior and experiencing even more of a rush of exercising authority with Mark. For Mark, the shift happened earlier; in the beginning it was all about spanking, but that was mostly until he actually experienced one, and now it is all about authority.
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Great points about the characters' respective arcs. Something I liked about Shannon's arc is that--unlike in many our DD relationships--from the beginning it's mostly about her interests, but those interests change. For most of us, DD begins with our wives accommodating our needs. Shannon's interest, on the other hand, begins as almost purely mercenary -- she needs money and uses Mark's spanking interest to get it. But, very quickly, she finds that it serves her erotic needs and her need for power, which maybe was something she hadn't really realized she had. Then, she rediscovers its very functional benefits. She's pretty empowered and self-actualizing from the beginning, though the motivations change a bit over time.
DeleteShe's pretty empowered and self-actualizing from the beginning, though the motivations change a bit over time. - great observation!
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Episode 4 - Discovery
ReplyDeleteThe final episode takes place a month later.
“Her strict demeanor, her willingness to wield the paddle for the smallest infraction, a forgotten errand, a playful quip gone too far, only deepened his feelings.” – I have mixed feelings about spanking for small things, but generally I need tighter guardrails that keep me from losing control, rather than just catching me after I have already spun out. But I am not sure how I would feel if my wife went too far with things, especially since even though I crave imposed authority, I also tend to buck authority in all forms.
For me, the most profound statement about their relationship was this: “For Mark, the pain was a price he gladly paid to be under her command.” I can totally relate to this. I want to be in a DD relationship, even though I never want spankings when they are given. But without the credible threat of spanking – which is only credible because spankings are in fact delivered from time to time – the whole thing just becomes her nagging, which is certainly not desirable. The pain of spankings is the price for imposed authority.
“But Mark carried a private embarrassment. Shannon, petite and half his size, could reduce him to a sobbing, trembling wreck with a few well-placed swats. The contrast, his broad frame humbled by her small, fierce authority, stirred a mix of awe and shame.” – I relate very much to this, even though at least so far, I am never quite reduced to a “sobbing, trembling wreck.” But still, I do feel at least some shame that my much-smaller wife can so easily use physical force (though admittedly mostly driven by my underlying fantasies) to control me, or perhaps even more so that I actually need her to control me.
Anyway, in episode 4, the relationship deepened for all to see even as the spankings that had initially sparked their relationship continued in secret, until one day Shannon was paddling Mark for forgetting to pick up her dry cleaning. Unbeknownst to them, Emily, Shannon’s teenage daughter, returned home unexpectedly because her debate meeting was cancelled. She witnessed him being paddled to the point he has openly sobbing, with his bare bottom “a deep angry purple.” She slipped away without anyone noticing.
This theme ties in very well with the blog, since in recent weeks the topics have been about how people deal with having kids around the house and other distractions, as well as how we feel about grown children knowing about the relationship. I guess in their case, I would say if they didn’t want the kids to know, don’t do it the way they did! I would prefer that our kids know nothing about this aspect of our relationship, but of course accidental discovery is always a possibility, so it is entirely possible that one or even all of them know or suspect something.
Naturally, I would prefer it not being one of our children knowing about our relationship. Also, I definitely prefer that the reason that someone knows is because we chose to tell them rather than because they accidently discovered this. This is because I really want them to understand the reason that she spanks me (for real discipline) and that it is only happening because I have requested this dynamic. If someone accidently finds out about our DD relationship, they could think my wife is abusive, and even if I explain everything to them, they could still feel that it was perhaps covering up for abuse. But if we willingly choose to tell them, especially since it is clearly not a cry for help, it changes everything.
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"I want to be in a DD relationship, even though I never want spankings when they are given. But without the credible threat of spanking – which is only credible because spankings are in fact delivered from time to time – the whole thing just becomes her nagging, which is certainly not desirable. The pain of spankings is the price for imposed authority." I totally agree. I don't think I really appreciated this about my motivation when we first started, but I now get it is the key to what makes the whole thing work.
DeleteI don't know why, but I am very comfortable with, were someone to discover it, them thinking that my wife imposes it. I think I am, at bottom, attracted to her being in control, and I've always said that I need the discipline to feel imposed, i.e. not just done at my request. Perhaps for that reason, I think that I am more attracted to "witness" or "others knowing" situations in which the third-party has the sense that the dynamic is being imposed on me.
From my perspective, I too am totally comfortable with someone thinking my wife imposes it and it is not at my request. However, I think that opens the door for someone to view my wife as a total bitch or even abusive, which are completely oppositive of reality. Obviously, the best answer to this, and the path we have taken with the few that we have actually discusses our DD with, is to explain that overall I want this, but she has total discretion about when to use it, even though I basically never want it at the time. So in other words, we explain consensual non-consent!
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"Her strict demeanor, her willingness to wield the paddle for the smallest infraction, a forgotten errand, a playful quip gone too far..." One thing I was thinking about as I re-read this is that she seems to show a level of consistency that is hard to achieve. I wonder how I would feel about my wife being much more consistently strict, and at the same time wonder just how much progress we might have made on different things by now had she been.
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I haven't thought a lot about whether others might think Anne was a bitch if they didn't know that I requested the DD relationship, probably because even if we were to become open with more people, I seriously doubt it would be with anyone who either (a) doesn't know both of us already and, therefore, knows what Anne is like; or (b) is in this lifestyle themselves.
DeleteYeah, the prospect of Anne being much more consistently strict is something we talk about *a lot*, yet it never quite seems to gel. I do think there has been a lot of recent movement on her being more *verbally* strict. A few months ago, I asked her to help me with being less careless on day-to-day matters. Although she reacted positively, I thought it likely would be one of those things we set as a goal but then wouldn't actually happen. Yet, there was a pronounced change in her focus on that issue. She started calling out instances of minor and more significant carelessness. Which is great in and of itself. But, so far it's really just been verbal; there hasn't been any actual spanking follow up.
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ReplyDeleteBut regardless of how finds out about it or who it is, I want their response to be similar to Emily’s. She teased him mercilessly, as teenage girls are prone to do. “Saw you crying like a baby while mom turned your butt purple.” “…or maybe I’ll just remind you every time you sit down funny.” I really like the thought of a third party openly teasing me like this and the feelings of embarrassment that would come with that.1
A side note, but this segment ties in very well with my life right now. I have mentioned several times my dear friend of many years, who I told several years ago about my wife holding me accountable and when she asked what happens if I don’t get things done, I jokingly replied “that’s when the spankings happen.” Since that time, we have speculated just how much she knows or doesn’t know, since she made several joking references to it, especially in the months following me telling her, though never mentioning spanking. Anyway, this week I was chatting with her and she made it quite clear – still with nobody saying it outright – that she does indeed know that my wife spanks me…
Finally, Mark tells Shannon that Emily saw the spanking and she is never going to let him live it down, and Shannon’s response was deep laughter and saying “Well, that’s what you get for forgetting my dry cleaning!” That seems very similar to what wives of guys on the blog have said. Either something about not giving her a reason to spank you, or “Why should I be embarrassed? I’m not the one being spanked!”
-ZM
"I really like the thought of a third party openly teasing me like this and the feelings of embarrassment that would come with that." I agree, though I had a somewhat negative reaction to it being a teenager. It's probably my own insecurity at play, but I don't think I'd like a teenager feeling they could lord something like that over me.
DeleteDid it change your feelings about your friend knowing, having real confirmation that she really does know what is going on?
I had that same reaction to Shannon dismissing his concerns. There is something really powerful about a wife having no sympathy for our embarrassment.
I agree that "teenager" is not an word near the top of my list for desired attributes of a witness, pretty much for the same reasons you said. However, I do think that teenagers, especially teenage girls, are quite brutal when it comes to teasing, so maybe an adult who is still channeling her inner teen is the answer!
DeleteAs far as my friend knowing, I guess it is a good thing. I certainly trust her, as she is my best female friend except for my wife of course. She currently lives in another European country, so I guess we will see how it feels when she comes to visit, probably sometime in the coming months.
"There is something really powerful about a wife having no sympathy for our embarrassment." - Exactly right. Or perhaps this could go even further by her enabling or intentionally causing our embarrassment.
-ZM
You're definitely right about the brutality of teenage girls. Though, they usually direct it at each other or their moms!
DeleteThe only person who knows us and about our DD is my best female friend. She's super accepting of it but, honestly, it would be kind of nice to have someone who knew about it and was more prone to tease and embarrass.
The whole teasing and embarrassing thing is why I said I will have to see how what (if anything) my friend says when she next visits.
DeleteWe were chatting online about my trip to America and I was saying that I probably gained weight there, so she was teasing me about how my wife will love putting me back on track, that it was too late for tears (when I used a tear emoticon), that she wished she could be there to be my wife's backup, and so on. So I guess my question is whether she will tease even more in person, or perhaps she will not mention anything at all, since the dynamic is different in person.
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Wow! She went a lot further than my friend ever has. Though, I can tell that while mine is interested in our DD lifestyle, it's the kind of interest that any real friend has in significant things going on in their friend's life. It's clearly not something that has any attraction for her personally. And, I think she probably doesn't get that teasing me in the way your friend did would actually be welcome, as I've never said anything that would give her that impression.
DeleteThe audio story of Shannon and Mark was the first time I have run across something that caught my attention like that. Although it seemed like a A/I generated essay/book, I found it incredibly interesting and I can't get it out of my head. I don't think I could share this with my wife as written, I would like to explore it further. Is Tumblr the place to find audio books, or are there better places?
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That's the first time I've come across a real audio-only spanking story on Tumblr. I'm not aware of any good sources for similar materials. It's too bad, because to me audio materials can be more powerful than visuals.
DeleteIf you're willing to share, why don't you think you could share the Shannon and Mark story with your wife?
FYI, I suspect you're right that it was A/I generated and A/I voiced, though I don't know for sure.
I wouldn't share it because of the parental tone entwined within parts of the story. Although its fine for me, I think it would introduce an aspect she would not relate to and probably would be a turn off. I do agree with you about the audio being more powerful than visuals. That actually took me by surprise!
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Hello all been a while since I checked in as well. We have some trips coming up this month as well and to be honest. I’m not feeling it either. DD has been lacking in our home as my wife has been in a crappy mood with a family situation, that doesn’t appear to be getting rectified anytime soon. This has affected almost everything in our domain. Secondly, I don’t want to repeat myself as well either. I can’t blame Dan for not blogging and the last few topics haven’t resonated as much with me either. Happy summer to all and enjoy your August.
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I've had a few times when my interest waned like this, but it tended to be for very specific reasons. Like, a couple of times I've had surgery and experienced a total drop-off in DD interest for a few weeks. But, honestly, I think this time it's just having a lot of other things going on. Summers have been pretty laid back for me in the past, but this year I seem to be on the go all the time. I've also damaged my body enough in different ways over the last few months that all four limbs are aching much of the time, and it's hard to feel very enthusiastic about anything when I'm hurting all the time.
DeleteWe’ve just ended our longest break ( about 7 weeks!) from active discipline since we started many years ago. By previous standards it was a relatively mild strapping but seemed to be much more painful I guess due to delay since the last time?
ReplyDeleteMy previous query about whether my behaviour could be modified to the point that DD was no longer necessary has been dispelled by my wife when she confirmed with some conviction, that she was convinced that she would always find a reason for punishment.
She has finally recognised and shared with me that having that power and executing a punishment was good for her sense of self, self-esteem, confidence and ability /willingness to accept some of my more self-focussed activities.
I had almost forgotten how much I enjoy that sense of clear headedness that comes after punishment. I’ve agreed that I will continue to strive to avoid punishment through more considerate behaviour; she has confirmed that expected standards will now be higher as I have proved that behaviour improvements can be achieved. She has expressed a desire to return to our previous punishment frequency ( averaged every 10 days or so.
In many ways I feel that this is a positive approach although it also feels like my task is slightly Herculean …TB
I am always shocked just how much more a spanking hurts if you haven't had one for a while. And I am pretty sure that it is not just that I forget.
DeleteAlso, I agree that if your wife gets something out of disciplining you, she will always find reasons; as your behavior or attitude improves, her expectations increase in lockstep, so the bar raises higher and higher.
-ZM
I agree with ZM. A spanking hurts so much more after a long break, and I too am very confident it's not just that you've forgotten how much others hurt. For me, a long break guarantees a hugely painful next session.
DeleteIt may be that a number of fans of the blog are concerned that Dan may stop and then the blog would stop… unless Dan has a succession plan in place? TB
DeleteNo, no succession plan. And, if I thought I was ready to stop, I doubt I would say anything definitive about. I've seen several bloggers "quit", then a year or two later they are back at least for some period of time. I tend to take my feelings as conditional and context-dependent, so even if I was seriously burned out, I doubt I'd ever just shut things down, knowing that there would be a good chance I would rethink it. If I ever thought I was really, truly done, I might invite someone to take it over. But, more likely I would support someone starting their own and encourage others to use that new blog as the place to gather, just in case I wanted to take mine up again in the future.
DeleteHonestly, given the arbitrariness of life on a free platform, if the blog were to stop, I think it would almost certainly be because Blogger shut it down. That contingency I have prepared for to some extent, with the WordPress blog where I've been double-posting most of the posts here. Though, that doesn't automatically migrate comments. I did try transferring the historical comments when I imported the blog to WordPress, and it did work -- but it's pretty klugy. It would take a lot of work for me to go through 10+ years of posts and re-format everything and correct all the issues that always happen when uploading from an archived version.
Dan, it's pretty impressive how your "dead blog" has generated so much response in such a short time! 22 of the comments so far were yours, but the other 43 came from others, and many were very compelling. Suggesting that story helped a lot, as there was much in it that we could relate to. I used to pay $100 to be spanked once a week for 3 or 4 years, so the story really reminded me of that. Now the spankings are free, and infinately more satisfying.
ReplyDeleteIt's definitely all relative.
DeleteI'm surprised it was only $100.
Dan and Norton,
DeleteI suppose this illustrates the value of choosing a partner who either already wants to do the DD lifestyle or can be won over like I was!
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It may be that a number of fans of the blog are concerned that Dan may stop and then the blog would stop… unless Dan has a succession plan in place? TB
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DeleteOr the value of being chosen by a disciplinary wife.
L, it has been my experience that out of the hundreds of women I have been with, there were none that even remotely aware of the lifestyle. Actually, I didn't either, until fairly recently, though it was always a lifelong fantasy of mine to be spanked for real by a dominant woman. DD seems to be one of the best kept secrets, and most people who hear about it probably lump it in with BDSM. It's a pity, because it certainly has the ability to vastly improve a relationship and increase intimacy. DD has improved my life in many ways I could not have even imagined before.
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Anonymous,
DeleteAgreed that it increases intimacy. It gives access to an intimate area for delivering the punishment, but it often results in less denial because of how it conclusively deals with things.
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The acronym “CYA ( cover your ass) refers to playing defense, avoiding blame, and escaping accountability. But DD turns the notion upside down because instead of covering your ass, you present it to a woman you love, respect, and trust. The vulnerability and openness produced by doing so, IMHO, is what creates the intimacy. My former GF often said that “spanking is more intimate than sex,” and I think my wife would agree.
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The last comment was from me.
ReplyDeleteIs anyone else enjoying the irony that after Dan declares no posting for the next few weeks, the comments are on their way to being at least the second most commented post this year. Sheer genius!
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Basic Psychology: "Denial" stokes "Interest," in almost all areas!
DeleteHa!
DeleteIt's interesting, though unsurprising, the extent to which engagement feeds on engagement. I was feeling zero desire to post and, honestly, not much interest in DD itself, until ZM weighed in with a series of thoughtful comments on what was probably an AI-generated story. It proves that you get out of something what you put into it, and that's certainly true of the discussion here. It also helped me get more internally engaged with the subject again.
DeleteThough, alas, I won't be posting this weekend. I have visitors coming in from out of town and will be hanging with them all weekend. I'll likely try for a post sometime next week. Although some of the lack of posting is lack of interest, there have been lots of other times I kept up posting even during lulls in my own interest level. This pause really is more about distractions and priorities. I'm usually not that busy during weekends during the summer, but July and August have been much more heavily scheduled than usual. It's a good thing in some ways, as it signals that after four years of retirement, I have a fairly robust social circle, much of it built around shared hobbies and interests. The only problem is, most of the other people in that circle still have these annoying things called "jobs", which means their free time revolves around weekends. If it continues like this, I might have to rethink the presumed day of the week for new postings. Or, maybe give up on the idea that there will be a set day or range of days, though I do see a value in predictability, like Hermione posting her topic every Saturday.
It is certainly ironic that this "no new post this week" not-a-post has gotten so much traction, but in reality, that was still in large part because Dan provided the links to the tumblr audio stories.
DeleteAll it takes for there to be good discussion is for people to show up and comment on what others have already written. Naturally, Dan replies to almost every comment (which is certainly appreciated, especially considering that it is quite time-consuming to do so) and that in itself keeps the blog quite lively. But I think it is a bit unfair that we look to Dan to create a long, well thought out blog post every week, since that is quite a chore. Rather, as long as anyone contributes almost anything at all, and if others reply, it can turn out being a very dynamic conversation.
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ZM, well put - The post this week is a great example of that.
DeleteDonn Said: ” Basic Psychology: "Denial" stokes Interest, in almost all areas!”
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Is this the dynamic driving the ( apparently) growing interest in orgasm control? And on this subject, it would be interesting to know how common orgasm control is among female-led DD couples utilizing spanking as discipline. Casual internet reading suggests the possibility that couples using spanking generally don’t use orgasm control ( in particular, a cock cage). In contrast, where spanking is not used, some formal orgasm control ( like a cock cage) is more common. Does anyone have an opinion about this
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Alan,
DeleteOne of the understandings J. and I had was that things would be directed into spankings and the quid pro quo was that there was no denial, as everything was addressed with the spanking, so makes sense to me.
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Alan,
DeleteWe had an active life in that respect and denial was never considered, as shown by me expecting our fifth very quickly. The spanking (and any other physical punishments) beforehand ensured everything was dealt with. J. often said there was nothing comparable to having a sore bottom and then trying for the next one. He said his military colleague also said words to that effect. I agreed pretty much whenever he asked, so long as there was a spanking beforehand when I had a free rein to do what I wanted. J. always saw it as a good deal.
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A little update:
ReplyDeleteSo it seems that my and my wife's college majors as well as current jobs gave us some "professional deformation" type of baggage even when it comes to spanking. We both touch at software development and since I proposed a list of offenses automatically triggering a spanking (for now, stuff I at least kinda want to get rid of in my life), the first bunch of offenses created a backlog and a logjam. Interesting to know that there's always something to be spanked for, but the con side is that I can sense that the backlog is hardly ever getting empty again. We'll see.
For now, first two of my transgressions have been accounted for, exactly a week ago, in two separate sessions. I taped them on my phone, not for publication of any kind, but it allows me to count swats ex post, as well as having an idea of how long it took. (And I admit it's fascinating to see yourself getting thrashed.)
So the first session was with a short leather folded strap on a handle and didn't do much damage (no vocalize, butt merely pink). Not for lack of trying though: she gave me 200 in rapid fire.
The second session later that day was more remarkable, as a combination of two paddles made me yell aloud and I could feel the tactile consequences for a couple days. First paddle: simili leather stuffed with apparently a hard plastic rib, 81 swats in just over a minute before the paddle shell gave in and the rib started to slide outside (sucks to lose an implement to wear and tear, but I know where to get a replacement from a physical shop in my town for mere €20 so that's not a big loss). Then she switched to the small wooden paddle with holes - it's a one-cheek paddle, and the only implement type she didn't manage to damage over my butt yet despite using it likely the most times out of all the tools.
I got 48 rapid fire with that one, and I was yelling/moaning/shouting/swearing in tongues/whatever type of vocalization you want to imagine by the fifth one. I WAS kind of disappointed that it didn't last longer, but the pain had been dealt all right.
What's interesting is that "meh" swats and the "ouch" swats had only implement for difference. On the video, I can see that she was swinging everything roughly with the same angular velocity. That's new data for my engineering mind so to say...
Today is another day when we are both working remotely, so let's see if the backlog will shrink and my butt will glow...
The type of implement does make a huge difference. I've had a leather paddle similar to what you describe, purchased at an adult "novelty" shop, and regardless of the vigor of the swing, that thing was never going to produce anything more than some light reddening. If you are interested in leather implements that are both high quality and really bring the fire, look at The London Tanners. They are pricey, but they will last for your entire spanking life.
DeleteWe have never filmed a session, but I have no doubt it is fascinating to see yourself in that situation.
Yeah I've heard about the London Tanners. It's kind of on my bucket list, but then, a lot of things are with higher priority. But we'll see one day :)
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