Sunday, May 22, 2022

The Club - Meeting 400 - Conversations

Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it. -- Maya Angelou

 

Hello all.  Welcome back to the Disciplinary Couples Club.  Our weekly gathering of men and women who are in, or interested in being in, Domestic Discipline relationships. I hope you had a good week.

 


 Our has been a little cloistered, thanks to the weather.  While areas around us are burning down, here it’s been cold and wet. Which kind of sucks.  I’d really like to get out on the motorcycle, but I’m kind of a fair weather rider.  Hopefully things will warm up soon.

 

 

Anne and I went out to dinner last night, and something related to Domestic Discipline sort of came up.  I say “sort of” because it didn’t get a chance to get off the ground.  We went to a relatively fancy restaurant to celebrate an event.  After a glass of wine, Anne told me she had planned to talk about something related to . . . then she pantomimed the movement of a hand delivering swats.  She left it at that, because we were seated uncomfortably close to another couple who had kids at their table.  We were both quite sure they would have been able to overhear anything we said, because we could hear pretty much every word of their conversation.  So, she dropped it and we didn’t take up the topic again after we left.  

 

It seems a little odd, but we do seem to have our most open and exhaustive talks about discipline and spanking when we are out to dinner.  Or, in bed.  But, the bedtime conversations are always a part of foreplay, and that colors the conversation.  When the talk is about DD’s role in the relationship and it is a genuine conversation, it almost always seems to happen over dinner.  I honestly don’t know why, given that we now have an empty house and plenty of time together to discuss such things.

 


It got me thinking about conversations around DD and their ability to get things started or take things in a different direction.

 

I’ve talked multiple times about how Anne and I got started in DD, but for the benefit of any newcomers, it began with a very candid conversation.  We had played a little bit with erotic spankings, but she put the brakes on after she decided that giving me “play” spankings for real offenses was rewarding bad behavior. 

 

A few months later, I found the Disciplinary Wives Club website and became more than a little obsessed with it.  I kept the obsession to myself for two or three days, but I literally couldn’t get the whole thing out of my head.  I finally felt like I had no choice but to raise the prospect with Anne, even though I had no idea how she would react.

 

Once I finally got my nerve up, I broached the subject when we were in bed, with the lights out, on the verge of going to sleep.  That setting was no accident. I was so nervous, I didn’t want her to be able to see my face, which I’m sure was a deep shade of red. I think I began with some very innocuous lead in, like, “So, I found this interesting website a couple of days ago.  . . ."   But, I moved very quickly into a high level overview of what the DWC was about. Given her concerns that our erotic spanking activity had reinforced bad behavior, I emphasized that what distinguished DD from erotic spankings was, in essence, that the DD spankings were “for real.”  There was no playacting. According to the stories, the spankings often ended with real tears. 

 


I think I emphasized several times that the spankings depicted on the DWC website left the husbands chastened, reddened, very sore and possibly in tears.  The goal was to make the paddling bad enough that I would really, really want to avoid another at all costs.  I also told her that I recognized that my behavior was often hurtful or inconsiderate but, because of the way we were both raised, she did not feel she could do very much about it other than pout and engage in other passive-aggressive behaviors.  The conversation was very much about us consciously deciding to empower her and dis-empower me, in order to bring a sense of balance to the relationship.  

 


At some point, she asked me whether I was suggesting this as something we should actually do. I think I gulped a little, then after a long pause admitted that I felt like it was something I’d like us to try. I told her I felt like I was drifting and really did want some help behaving better, and I also reiterated that I thought it would be good for both of if she had more control and I had less. Or, at least it was worth giving the power exchange a try.



She didn’t say much. In fact, it was a very one-sided conversation and, as I said, the whole thing took place in bed, in a darkened room, which meant I could not see her face or otherwise judge her reaction.  The conversation ended with her rolling over to go to sleep, after telling me to send her the website and she’d try to take a look at it.

 

I did so, leaving a note on the counter in the bathroom with the url for the Disciplinary Wives Club website.  Honestly, I didn’t think she would even look at it.  Mentally, I predicted—with perhaps more than a little hope and wishful thinking—that she would just forget about the whole thing or reject it out of hand as being too close to the erotic spankings that she’d already banned.  I was still in that frame of mind when she called me at work later that day and said she had looked at the website.  My heart jumped up into my throat, as I nervously asked what she thought.  She said very simply, “Well, if you want to try this, I guess you better go buy me a heavier hair brush.”

 

Here we are, close to 20 years later, and that conversation is still burned into my brain in a way that eclipses any other discussion we’ve had about DD.

 

What are the most impactful or memorable conversations you’ve had about spanking and domestic discipline?  Perhaps it is an origin story, similar to mine.  Or, perhaps it was a time you suggested spanking to someone and they didn’t take you up on it.  Or, maybe it was one of those rare situations in which the other party initiated things.  Maybe someone suggested you needed to be spanked but it wasn’t in the context of an actual relationship.

 

As you can see, I’m trying to leave this more open-ended than some of our previous discussions along these lines, which almost always centered on origin stories.  Instead, lets open it up to any conversation you’ve had about domestic discipline that was especially meaningful or consequential.

 

Note: We seem to be getting more anonymous commenters than usual, without any name used.  Even if posting anonymously, please add a name to your comment so we all can keep track of who we are responding to.

 

I hope you have a great week.

 

55 comments:

  1. The most memorable conversation on this topic for me also is an origin scenario. I was involved in a divorce from my second wife when I met my current Dominant Mistress. She on the other hand she had been widowed just over two years which ended a very vanilla, male-led marriage. We met and began dating, long distance, with me in Las Vegas and her in Georgia. My divorce finally ended successfully for me and my trips to Georgia became more routine. After about 6 months she asked me to move in with her. I deferred and knew it was time to explain my position. I had been in a FLM with DD household and that was what I wanted. Slowly I began to explain the attributes of an FLR and began discussing how things would work. She was aware of the lifestyle but had no experience at all. Being a schoolteacher, I knew she had dominant tendencies. The more we talked, the more we moved closer to drafting an agreement. We came up with house and behavior rules and agreed on how discipline would be carried out. She agreed to give it a try, but realistically I had much doubt. She invited me to spend Christmas with her and I did for 2 weeks. She went back to work, and I went back to Vegas, but not for long. We had agreed to my moving in and I began closing down my Vegas connections and moving. On the day I carried in my last box of stuff, she closed the door behind me. She said flat out, "If we are doing this, we are doing it right. Take off all your clothes, you're getting spanked right now to start things off. Now STRIP". I obeyed and took a very long and hard spanking and thus ended the original conversion and started my now 12 year long FLR.

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    1. "Being a schoolteacher, I knew she had dominant tendencies." I love that, and I wonder whether it is a profession that really does draw dominant women.

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    2. My wife is also a Teacher , I dont think they are necessarily all dominant women but they are trained to take charge and applying discipline.

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    3. My ex-wife is a teacher. She was not the least bit open to DD or FLR, but that is because of her hyper-conservative upbringing, as I have outlined here before; pretty much anything other than missionary style with the lights off was considered deviant and repulsive by her (including such relatively mainstream things such as oral, etc.).

      While she wasn't the least bit open to DD, she is however a very in-control, take-charge person who is very responsible and she can be quite demanding. She expects a lot from herself and from everyone around her. She also has no problem with being assertive and she certainly doesn't lack confidence in many situations. In the same way, she follows through with things, so if she says it, it will be. Had she
      been interested in DD or FLR, I am sure she would have found it easy to assume her role and would have led with confidence, fairness, and firmness.

      I don't know that she is the perfect representation of a teacher, but considering I have known many, many teachers over the 25 years we were married, I would say that she is pretty close to the average.

      -ZM

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    4. "Confidence, fairness, and firmness." Good mix,

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  2. It was during the engagement. My now-wife and I were chatting in a café where the noise was sufficient to make our conversation was available to others. She said to me to not take it the wrong way, but that she wanted to raise the idea of spanking me (after getting married) whenever she felt it was necessary. I asked if the spankings would hurt and she said they needed to in order to be effective. She said she would allow me some time to think about it. I took the time and eventually said I wanted to go ahead with the plan after the wedding.

    When the wedding day came along, I got cold feet because of what had been agreed regarding spanking: my best man found me hiding in the toilet area, gave me a good stiff talking to for being gutless and persuaded me to go through with it (and I'm glad he did).

    Throughout the ceremony and reception, I found myself thinking about the subject endlessly. Eventually, the reception finished, we travelled away and we were in the bridal suite at the honeymoon destination. She carried out the spanking and it hurt even more than I anticipated. We went to bed that night with the accumulated niggling issues solved and since then, we have been blissfully happy..

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  3. You never told us what Anne wanted to talk about at the restaurant. I'm curious.

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    1. I don't know (yet). Like I said, neither of us brought it up after we left the restaurant, and so far she hasn't said anything. I figure she'll tell me on her own schedule, if it's still on her mind.

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    2. I admire your patience Dan! I would be so curious I wouldn't be able to wait.

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    3. I am curious, for sure. But, it's one of those "Be careful what you ask for" things, right?

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    4. I suppose the two of you could have continued pantomiming to continue the conversation? Now that would be interesting...

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    5. "... then she pantomimed the movement of a hand delivering swats." - Hahaha. My wife does exactly this. In particular, her friend who "audibly witnessed" the spanking, always does this when she has talked to my wife about spanking, so my wife has always done the same thing when telling me about the conversations with her friend, like "and she was doing this with her hand,"

      Regarding not picking up the conversation again yet, I understand the inherent tension between being curious about what she wanted to talk about but not necessarily wanting to bring it us, since it could have a painful outcome.

      -ZM

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    6. The painful outcome is part of the reluctance. I'm also just trying to create some space as she moves into this next phase, so she can take things where she wants. I get the sense that this time she really is interested in ramping things up, but we'll just have to wait and see how things play out.

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    7. ...or perhaps the reluctance on her part is that you will not want to 'ramp it up'.Could be a catch 22?

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    8. At this point, I don't have any reason to think there is any reluctance on her part.

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  4. My story is a little different. We originally met on line before it was a usual thing, on an early spanking website. I was dominant and she was submissive at that time but we quickly started to switch, then she became more dominant. We were both second time around and not looking for anything long term, but knew within six weeks that that was going to change. We bought a house that wasn’t yet built and I moved in with her briefly while we waited for it to be ready. Shortly after we moved in I made an insensitive comment about the state of her desk (not normal behavior for me) that really upset her. I don’t remember which of us suggested it but we agreed that the cane was going to come out and be used much more severely than our normal play. I think we were surprised at how much better it made both of us feel - in different ways. That was more than twenty years ago. We have felt since then that this has helped us have a really good marriage, When necessary it clears the air, helps her work off any anger or annoyance and alleviates my guilt when necessary. If I’m honest, I feel that I should be on the receiving end of discipline more often than I actually am these days, but we’ve been following this practice ffor over twenty years and have a fantastic marriage, partly I think because of it.

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    1. "I think we were surprised at how much better it made both of us feel - in different ways." I totally get that. Thanks for sharing.

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    2. Indeed Dan. Not enough people appreciate the value of things being dealt with quickly and moving on quickly.

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  5. Don't you hate it when restaurants cram tables so close together you feel like you are all at the same table?
    My wife and I used to have lunch together at a local restaurant when she was filling out a 'report card ' for me.
    She was actually quite brazen about it , and once even filled out the report card at the table!
    We would discuss my behaviour and of course the spanking to come afterwards.
    There was something quite thrilling about doing this in a public place even though there was nobody close by , although the eaitress would drift by and we would pause the conversation.
    Perhaps knowing I was in for a spanking after lunch made it exciting for both of Us?

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    1. Sorry Dan , this comment is mine. Sometimes I am not signed into google when I comment....my fault!

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    2. No problem, Glen. Also, regarding the tables set up during our conversation, the source of the problem was we were in a booth. The benches were high-backed, but it was doing nothing to block the sound from the adjoining booth

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    3. Dosn"t sound like the perfect place for whatever 'reveal' she had in store for you Dan ! Good luck!

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  6. Similar story she knew I was into spanking from the beginning but my fantasy was about me spanking her which she occasionally induldged me a little for foreplay but after finding the DWC site I realized this would be good for both of us. I showed it to her and asked her to take control of me. It has been less than easy but she has been working diligently to improve my behavior. We both know that when I am feeling sorry for myself I'm in need of a hard paddling over her knee

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    1. "We both know that when I am feeling sorry for myself I'm in need of a hard paddling over her knee." This hasn't been a thing for us, though perhaps because I'm not really that good about letting it show when I's stressed or down.

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    2. My saga continues, still feeling sorry for myself. I asked for and received another paddling over her knee then last night she put me over the ottoman and gave me a very sore bottom then time in the corner to think about it when I told her I was still depressed she sent me to bed early. My issue is that the punishment is not when I exhibit the bad behavior but when I get impatient and ask for it. It hurts and I fear it and know I need it but I think it would be more effective if it was more immediate and not prompted by me

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    3. I often get to feeling sorry for myself, and that has triggered punishments before, especially if feeling sorry for myself somehow leads to me being grumpy and/or taking it out on others.

      "My issue is that the punishment is not when I exhibit the bad behavior but when I get impatient and ask for it." - My punishments are almost never delivered even close to the time they are earned. It is not me asking for a punishment that triggers one (since that never happens), but rather just circumstances allowing it at a time that corresponds with her feeling like giving one.


      My wife has used corner time quite a bit, but much less frequently recently. She still uses corner time, but it is not as much a part of punishments as it used to be. Probably part of that is because she often used it in between rounds of spanking, and recently she has not done many long, multi-part spankings.

      As far as being sent to bed early, she has not really done that one, though one time she sent me to bed and told me she would come and get me after a while, so it was kind of like corner time but banished to bed without phone or anything like that. However, she for some reason LOVES the idea of early bedtime as a punishment, probably because I am such a natural night owl. It is one of the few things that every time she hears about it (usually me reading something), she laughs out loud and says that she is going to do that sometime.

      -ZM

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  7. As someone who has less experience with this, and who has already told his origin story, and whose conversations about this with his wife tend to be indirect and full of shorthand specific to our marriage, it's hard to make a good contribution. Something for us to work on.

    I do love those moments in which these awkward conversations suddenly become viable. They're similar for us: lying in bed after a period of silence or small talk about the day, at certain types of restaurants (with distanced tables), near the end of a long walk that you'd really meant to have already filled with the conversation you'd meant to have...

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    1. "near the end of a long walk that you'd really meant to have already filled with the conversation you'd meant to have." While the setting wasn't the same, that's the way our first few conversations felt. I desperately wanted to bring DD up, but I kept internally hemming and hawing and trying to get up the courage.

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  8. Dev and I resolve issues with a spanking. We’ve had arguments over many things like everyone else. When we make up a spanking has a sense of closure and forgiveness. We just recently returned from a Rhine river cruise. All was great but intend to get very anxious on travel days. We need to be at certain places at designated times and she’s always slow. I get stressed and say things. On our return this happened several times. Finally in Munich she had enough and said we would have a long discussion when we got home. We got home late and nothing was said. The next day all was fine till she said “ I want to talk to you out in the woodshed”. I pleaded to stay in the house but she was determined. Thankfully it was raining a bit and no neighbors were out. When I entered the shed she was seated and waiting. I assumed the position and the lecture began. She then picked up a long handled wooden tire brush with a 9 inch round head. Pants came down and paddling began. The first one took my breath away and I saw stars. It just got worse after that. I’ve never experienced this kind of pain before. She said she wanted this to be one to never forget. I don’t know how long it lasted but she had to help me get up. It hurt to stand. It hurt to walk. It truly hurt for several days. The bruising was clearly evident. I rate all sessions on a 1-10 scale. The worst I’ve ever gotten was an 8.5. This was without question a 10 ! It was hard to endure but we has closure to the problem and we’re good again. This may not work for everyone but for us it does. She said she enjoys giving a spanking but doesn’t like the hard punishments. Sometimes this is exactly what needs done. It’s not easy for either of us but it cleans the plate and all is forgiven after. JR

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    1. "The first one took my breath away and I saw stars. It just got worse after that. I’ve never experienced this kind of pain before. She said she wanted this to be one to never forget. I don’t know how long it lasted but she had to help me get up. " For someone who doesn't like giving the hard punishments, it sounds like she's pretty good at it!

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  9. Hi Dan,

    I have already told my origin story several times, so I am not sure that I could add much to it here. However, one particular conversation that was part of the whole thing I remember vividly. I had already told her about spanking, and I think she might have even spanked me a bit at that point (I really don’t remember the exact timeline) but if so, it was more just a play spanking.

    Anyway, it was a foggy night so she was unable to go back to her hometown so she ended up with an unplanned overnight stay, and we went out to a restaurant for coffee. It was really late, so not many places were open. I told her for the first time in great detail that what I really wanted was real spanking for real offenses, and I even introduced the concept of it possibly being a bit like a boot camp to teach me self-discipline, reading a document that I had written for my former wife trying to convince her to try this. She was very open to it, but had many questions, and we talked and talked about it until the restaurant kicked us out because they were closing. Over the following weeks I sent her quite a few things to read and we continued talking about it until she had a clear understanding of everything.

    I think restaurants are kind of a natural place to talk about this because they remove the possibility of anything happening right then. The same is basically true talking late at night in bed. It is quite a bit easier to talk about something that is a little more hypothetical. If you are at home alone in the middle of the evening and start talking about spanking, the situation could pretty easily transition to you being bare bottomed with her holding a paddle in hand, so there is some comfort in talking about it when you know that nothing will happen immediately.

    -ZM

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    1. "I think restaurants are kind of a natural place to talk about this because they remove the possibility of anything happening right then. The same is basically true talking late at night in bed. It is quite a bit easier to talk about something that is a little more hypothetical." This. That really hits the nail on the head. Particularly when I first proposed DD, part of me genuinely hoped she wouldn't take me up on it. Based on the descriptions on the DWC website, I felt like I did have some idea of what it was I was asking for, and I knew that I might come to really regret doing that asking,

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    2. Again, Bad_boy, I think we're in a similar spot-

      "reading a document that I had written for my former wife trying to convince her to try this."

      I did the same thing, editing together the 'best of' Disciplined Hubbies and some FLR sites with my own thoughts and feelings. Do you still have your letter? I have mine.

      "Restaurants remove the possibility of anything happening right then. It is quite a bit easier to talk about something that is a little more hypothetical."

      Ha! Same here - I read my letter to my wife during a long road trip - while she was driving!
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    3. Hi Crimson,
      I do still have the letter, albeit not in printed form. I have it as a document on my computer and threw the printed one away long ago. I will have to go back and read it, since it will be interesting to see how my perspective has changed, if at all, since I have now experienced this lifestyle. Also, it will be interesting to see how the reality has matched the expectation.

      As far as not talking when anything can actually happen, it is pretty natural for me, since I always want this lifestyle at every time EXCEPT when punishment is imminent, at which point I do everything to try to delay or avoid punishment.

      -ZM

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  10. I also wanted to write last week about the whole empty nest thing, but I was too busy (actually in the states for a super quick visit to celebrate a graduation)!

    Though I have written quite a bit before about the whole empty nest thing and how activity seemed to go down, rather than up, I just had a recent thought.

    The time that the nest empties often coincides with the time that menopause kicks in (at least for my wife and presumably others and at least to a certain extent). Also, while it is in a way a relief to have kids growing up and starting to be on their own, there is also quite a bit of emotion that accompanies that and some worry. Furthermore, retirement can enter the situation. All of this adds up to a time of change, unstable hormones, and emotional turmoil, which can easily play a bigger role in reducing the frequency that things occur, despite the new-found opportunities.

    Tomorrow, we will become non-emtpy-nesters for the next several months, so I guess it will be interesting to see just how this all plays out!

    -ZM

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    1. You could be right about those life changes, including hormones, though I think you really hit the nail on the head a week or so ago when you talked about how having more flexibility around timing can, paradoxically, make it easier to put it off and then it just never happens.

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  11. My most momorable talk was this Xmas. I was a very bratty husband in weeks before and my wife promised me I will get a switch from Santa. I haven' t taken it seriuosly. Gosh, I was so wrong! Just imagine all family, kids, her and my parents on the Xmas table, we open the presents and my first is a silver riding crop. And then all these questions her and my parents and her comme ts that Santa knows best and there will be a usage of it during Xmas! I was never more ashamed than that day.

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  12. Hi Dan,
    "We seem to be getting more anonymous commenters than usual, without any name used. Even if posting anonymously, please add a name to your comment so we all can keep track of who we are responding to." - Agree fully. And you can see just from looking that the totally anonymous comments range from pretty good to downright ridiculous.

    It is all up to you, but since you kindly asked people to at least add names on their comments and yet they (or more likely one "he") seem to not be doing so, I would just start deleting anything that has no identifiers. It is your yard, so your rules should apply.

    In a perfect world, we would not need anonymous comments at all and everyone would create a google ID to log in with, but I guess I understand why some might be reluctant to do that because of privacy concerns. But at the very least, it would be good if people would pick one name and only post under that one name.

    -ZM

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    1. "And you can see just from looking that the totally anonymous comments range from pretty good to downright ridiculous." Yep.

      I really, really wish that the people posting the fantasy drivel would just go write their own fucking blog. Oh, wait. The primary offender for the last few months already has his own blog! One in which he claims to be a member of a church and a community where DD is widely practiced. Please. Go. The. Fuck. Away.

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    2. Sorry Dan but a couple of those anonymous comments were mine.

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    3. Hopefully mine were in the pretty good category!

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    4. I realize I should post using a consistent Google login because it makes the community better. I just get nervous that I'll accidentally do it with a much more identifying account. It's happened before. That's why I stick to incognito and use the same initials.

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    5. MW, to be clear, not logging in but adding initials or a name at the end is totally fine. It's the fully anonymous comments with no name, initials or login that are kind of a pain and that do seem to be correlated with posting fantasies and similarly unhelpful content.

      For what it's worth, every once in a while I have seen that someone posted using an account that I suspected they didn't want to use. In those cases, I've quickly deleted the comment. On at least one occasion, I accidentally posted on someone else's blog using my "in real life" account. Sent me into a panic then. It might not today.

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    6. Hi Glenmore,
      "Hopefully mine were in the pretty good category!" - yes, they certainly were. I didn't mean any offense by calling them only "pretty good." I guess I automatically take off a little credit just by there not being a name attached. When you know it is a regular poster, then every comment fits into a framework of what they have written before. When there is no name, I read the comment with a certain skepticism since there is always a good chance it is just some poser typing out his fantasies with one hand while playing with himself with the other.

      -ZM

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  13. Just to get us back on track , I'll mention a comment my wife made after giving me a lunch time spanking which still sticks in my mind for some reason.
    I had my back to her , getting dressed to go back to work after one of our lunch time report card sessions and obviously had a blazing red bottom on display.
    "I wonder what the ladies in your office would say if they knew I just gave you a spanking and your butt was nice and red?"
    She was obviously quite proud of her handiwork and I did feel myself blush when I sat carefully at my desk in the presence of my female assistant.
    Back late from lunch with a red face and wincing when I sat may have got her wondering?
    Anybody else have some post spanking comments from a proud wife?

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    1. It is a pretty interesting feeling when you can feel your bottom still hurting from a spanking and you are in the presence of others. It feels embarrassing somehow, even though they are of course oblivious to the state of your bottom. Since they don't know, I guess it is not exactly embarrassment, but it still feels something like embarrassment.

      I can't remember any specific comments my wife has made, though I know she has made some over the years. I guess none have really stuck in my mind. However, one thing that is the pattern pretty much every time: she spanks me, she stops because of the amount of visible damage, right after she doesn't want to see the damage, later she wants to inspect her handiwork, and almost always she is disappointed that all the damage is already gone!

      -ZM

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    2. I agree about it feeling embarrassing even though others can't see it. Two instances come to mind. The first was soon after we'd started DD. She made me come home over lunch for a session with a new strap. After I went back to work, I was acutely self-conscious about sitting there on a very sore bottom. Similarly, a couple of years ago, she gave me a "preventative" spanking before some social event. Once again, I felt very self-conscious and, yeah, kind of embarrassed through the whole thing.

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    3. This very thing happened with me yesterday, as I was spanked before church (which currently meets in the afternoon because we are sharing space with others), so I was quite conscious of my somewhat sore bottom. It could have been worse, since as usual, she stopped when she saw the first tiny droplets of blood, so there wasn't all that much damage. BTW, I think these blood droplets are quite interesting, since if you wipe them off, there usually is no new bleeding at all. It is almost like the pressure of the impact is just forcing a tiny amount of blood through a pore or something like that. Anyway, that often seems to happen somewhat earlier than much bruising or longer-felt damage sets in.

      -ZM

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    4. I've had identical experiences with blood. She will stop because she sees some minor spotting. If I wipe a kleenex over it, it's virtually undetectable.

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    5. Greg here,
      My wife will , just to further embarrass me, after thorough punishment spanking with the long handled bath brush will march me over and stand me in front of the full length mirror and make me see how red she has turned my ass. Extremely embarrassing to be sure! No punishment is ever over until this ritual is performed

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  14. That’s a reasonable request above. I published the comment early in this thread that starts : “my story is a little different”. I don’t have a Google account and don’t intend to get one but I’m real, have been practicing this lifestyle for twenty years , only discovered this site recently, have commented a few tires in recent weeks and may well comment again in the future. I’ll sign future comments. TG

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  15. By the way, Dan, congratulation on 400 Disciplined Husbands posts! If your wife feels it's appropriate, I wish you 400 painful spanks!
    CrimsonKing

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    1. Thanks, CK! 400 does seem like an accomplishment of sorts.

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  16. The comment related to annonymous comments was just after my announymous post related to Xmas. Sorry for posting earlier without the name, or login, but few timea earlier when I tried to post with the name it was not published. Somehow doing it annonymosly helps in not being treated as spam.

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