“What cannot be altered must be borne, not blamed.”- Thomas Fuller.
Hello all. Welcome back to The Disciplinary Couple’s Club. Our (more or less) weekly on-line gathering of men and women who are in, or would like to be in, a Domestic Discipline relationship. I hope you all had a great week.
Remember how I said in my last post that one of my resolutions/aspirations was to make sure I didn’t backslide on some of the behavioral gains I made last year? Well, it didn’t take me long to blow that resolution. Though, technically I was probably a little behind schedule, since the second Friday of January is officially national “Quitters Day,” the day on which most New Years resolution makers are most likely to give up. https://nationaltoday.com/ditch-new-years-resolution-day/ In this case, it probably earned me a spanking; the first of the new year.
My other resolutions are also off to a bad start, though getting off to a good start on those wasn’t entirely within my control. I had hoped to back into the gym and into some new athletic endeavors and get the new year off to a strong start on at least that front. I also wanted to start some volunteer work. Unfortunately, it ended up taking me almost one full month to shake the Covid symptoms. Fingers crossed, I think I’m finally ready to really get started on 2022, a full month late.
One thing that did seem to get off to a good start for the new year was the discussion here at the Disciplinary Couples Club. We covered a lot of ground – resolutions; differences in “alpha” and “beta” (though I’m not wild about that term) male approaches to Female/male discipline; “hotwifing” categories; M/m spankings; how to accommodate DD with kids still at home . . . Good stuff.
However, one thing we didn’t get a lot of was suggestions for future topics. If you have thoughts about things that might be good for a group discussion, please let me know, either in a comment to this post or by email.
Glenmore did have a suggestion for a topic:
When a spanking should stop sounds like an interesting topic and linked to a subtopic of what is the objective of the spanking? To cause immediate pain, or to be feeling the effects for days after, or both. Very often if a spanking stops too soon the effects disappear very quickly, which is a source of frustration for her as she feels she did not do a good enough job.
We’ve talked in the past (multiple times) about how long spankings take, or “should” take. Though, it never seemed to get much response. But, Glenmore’s angle on it is slightly different; not so much about duration per se but about what exactly does, or should, bring one to an end.
So, that is this week’s topic. Is there something that usually brings a spanking to an end in your disciplinary routine, and does it depend on the objective the spanking? I can think of many possibilities. Perhaps she has a particular number of swats in mind? Or, maybe she uses a timer?
Maybe she’s going for a spanking that is long enough to make him sore for several days and knows from experience how long that takes? Maybe he cries and that is the signal that the spanking should end, or that it should go on a bit longer but not too long? Or, maybe her arm just gets tired?
For us, it seems to be the condition of my butt that most frequently brings a spanking to an end. While I need to lose some bodyfat in other areas, I don’t have much on my ass, and I do a lot of leg and glute work in the gym. I think the skin, stretched tightly over my buns with little fat to absorb and distribute the force of the swats, contributes to small breaks in the skin, resulting in minor “spotting.” Although it truly is minor, it often leads Anne to stop a spanking that I think she otherwise might have continued.
I also used to believe there wasn’t much point in continuing a spanking after my butt got numb, which it almost inevitably did with heavier wooden paddles. I’ve started rethinking that lately, however. A few weeks ago someone pointed out that even once the butt goes on, a longer spanking may result in that “you aren’t going to be sitting comfortably for a week” deep soreness.
I’m genuinely not sure what would happen if Anne were to decree that a spanking would not end until I was crying real tears. As I’ve said, it has never happened so far. But, then, she has never given the “this spanking won’t stop until you are crying” approach a try. I do think that because of the numbness issue, in probably would require multiple sessions with minutes of downtime to let the feeling return.
How about you? What typically brings your spankings to an end? Does it depend on the objective of the spanking (punishment vs. maintenance vs. preventative, etc.)? And, for the husbands, do you think the spankings stop too soon, not soon enough, or just right? I'm not sure the answer to that one is all that obvious. For example, some of us are perversely attracted to the idea of crying, and even if you really, really want a spanking to stop when it is in process, I don't think it is all that uncommon to feel some disappointment if it ends before tears or while he is still comfortably within the limits of what he can take without breaking down and really submitting or surrendering fully to her.
I hope you all have a good week.