Helen also wanted to address erotic feelings specifically, and I can say that there is little that turns me on more than thinking about my wife becoming stronger and more powerful. While we haven't really taken things very far in a D/s direction in the bedroom, she is taking charge more and more in bed and is becoming more physically aggressive, which I absolutely love. I continue to believe that I am not really a "spanko" at heart, in that it is not really the spanking per se that turns me on so much. It is her exercising authority and getting more and more comfortable wielding power.
How about you? What feelings do spankings and the power exchange aspects of your DD or Wife Led marriage elicit in you? And, please, as hard as it is for us guys to even identify our emotions sometimes let alone talk about them, let's try to take Helen's suggestion and talk about the actual feelings involved, not the goals or benefits.
Have a great week!