We wrapped up one of our polls a couple of weeks ago. This was one of the more sexualized we've done, asking whether you typically get an erection before a disciplinary spanking. We had 88 responses, and here are the results
Summing it up, about 80% of men at least sometimes get an erection before a disciplinary spanking, and over half get one almost always. I am among those who get them almost always, even though I am also one of the few who didn't really have a spanking fetish before discovering Domestic Discipline.
So, what is this about? While some spankings can undoubtedly be erotic, this poll focused specifically on erections before disciplinary spankings. Those spankings you know are going to be extremely painful, hard to take, and that might even leave you in tears. Yet, at least one part of our anatomy seems to find that situation exciting.
Without getting too graphic, I still remember my reaction when I first discovered Domestic Discipline, and during that first three or four days when I was discussing it with my wife, whether we might explore this, and what it would look like. I literally lost hours of sleep stirring and stewing about what might be coming. The butterflies in my stomach were so strong, I literally felt ill at points. I was genuinely scared, particularly regarding the prospect of possibly being humiliated by being brought to tears. Yet, during those days, part of my anatomy was displaying a more or less constant state of excitement.
I still don't really know how to account for this. How is it possible to get excited by something you genuinely dread? Also, does that erotic charge frustrate the disciplinary purpose? Several weeks ago, I listened to some materials by a spanking-oriented "therapist" and professional disciplinarians named Jacqueline Omerta, who discussed a real spanking that was delivered to one of her clients with the goal of getting to real tears. But, it didn't happen. In her view because the client was too turned on. Her opinion was that the sexual aspect of a spanking was fundamentally incompatible with getting to the state of real remorse and submission required to get to that state of sobbing release. I can't really say, because I have not gotten to that state of tears. But, I do feel like that element of extra energy, whether it is erotic or something else driving it, does make the spanking at least somewhat easier to take.
Thoughts on all this? Do you typically get an erection before a disciplinary spanking? Does it go away once it actually starts? Do you think it is simply eroticism driving it, or something else?
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