Friends (and Others) With (Spanking) Benefits (The Club - Meeting 551)

“There are very few honest friends — the demand is not particularly great.” — Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach

Hello all. Welcome back to The Disciplinary Wives Club - Tribute.  Our weekly on-line gathering of women and men who are in, or would like to be in, a Domestic Discipline relationship.

 

I hope you all had a good week.  Mine was uneventful on the behavior front, though hectic and a little challenging on the medical front.  Covid symptoms continued to plague me.  I saw a doctor and got some relief with those, but then ended up with more testing to address some new areas of concern.  This getting old shit isn’t for wussies.

 

 

Thanks for the quality discussion around whether our DD offenses have a shelf life. I suspected we’d get a very wide variety of answers and we did, including Jackson’s wife who will go back and take care of things from years past on one end of the spectrum, and Spanked Cowboy whose typical wait time is measured in minutes. 

 

For this week, I’m going to do something a little different, though I’m not sure it adds up to much of a topic.

 

When I write a weekly entry, I usually have identified a topic and have ideas for various angles on it.  Prior to and during the writing process, I will go to my collection of spanking memes and art to look for examples that seem a good fit for the topic and sub-topics.  Sometimes, reviewing the memes and art gives me more ideas for angles to explore.

 

Sometimes, however, I’ll see a meme or drawing that speaks to me in some way but doesn’t fit neatly into any fully-baked topic idea.  I want to use them but can’t always think of a good way to do it.

 

I had that happen recently with some memes that dealt with a theme I would describe as “friendship and DD”.  They address, in one way or another, “friends with benefits” situations, but in this case the “benefits” include spanking.  One of the first I came across with that theme was this:

 

 

The idea of an adult friend who was empowered to provide spanking discipline pushed some buttons for me.  Being married to a wonderful Disciplinary Wife, I don’t need a friend to provide that service, but if I ever found myself single, I’m pretty sure I would strongly prefer a “friend” arrangement such as the one depicted above to visiting a pro.  The trick, of course, would be in finding such a friend.

 

I also saw this one, involving a spanking relationship going back to childhood:

 

Here's another in that same vein:

 

 

I was never fortunate enough to have such a friend, but kids play “doctor” and "house".  It doesn’t seem much of a stretch that in areas where spanking is openly practiced that it might spill over to kids experimenting with spanking-themed games.      

 

That never happened to me, but it might have been more likely in the town I was born in and left while I was in elementary school.  It was rural, and chockful of both spanking and religious conservatism, which seems like an ideal recipe for kids exploring naughty stuff.  In fact, to this day some of my cousins bring up spankings from when we were kids or inject it into the conversation in other ways.   

 

 

And, while I was never spanked by or gave a spanking to a friend, it was very common for us to know about each other’s spankings, and in retrospect it seems like under the right circumstances that could have led to some interesting exploration or at least communication.  

 

There was also this one, which I’ve used a few times and really like (other than the typos).  It seems clear from the text that it’s a “spanking from a friend” scenario, though it’s not clear whether she’s the recipient’s friend or his wife’s.  Or both.

 

 

A few weeks ago, I had an exchange with Aunt Kay’s husband about the olden days of the DWC and how some of Kay's friends in the group had been given the authority to make “independent spanking decisions” over him.  That too pushed a lot of buttons for me. It reminded me of how vulnerable it could feel when I was a kid growing up in that rural town, where everyone seemed to have the authority to spank everyone else’s kids.  It was assumed that teachers and principals could do it without any notice to the parents, other than the note that went out after the paddling and was almost guaranteed to result in another spanking at home.  Imagine if that were extended to adults in our lives.

 

 

Although the idea of someone having “independent spanking authority” is fodder for some fantasies for me, it doesn’t have to go as far as that person doing the spanking.  Several years ago, one of our regular commenters, Danielle, was in a consensual cuckolding relationship, in which her lover and her husband were friends, or at least friendly.  They were doing some common activity together, and the husband did something sloppily.  The other man reported it to Danielle, with a straight-forward suggestion that she should spank the husband for it.  She did, and the husband had to call the other guy and tell him that he had been spanked.   

 

That whole idea of someone having a relationship with Anne that might involve telling her I should be spanked definitely does something for me.  I’m not sure why, though it may go back to that bygone school-age culture in which parents felt totally comfortable calling other parents to rat out bad behavior, knowing it would almost certainly be taken care of with a thorough spanking.  

 

 Like I said, I don’t have much of a topic in mind here, beyond the general one of friends with spanking privileges.  Have you ever been spanked by someone who was a friend but not a wife or maybe even a girlfriend?  If with a girlfriend, did any of you experience that in high school (or earlier) or college?  Were any of those non-marital spanking relationships disciplinary in nature?

 

I don’t anticipate many have had such experience, but you never know.  But, in the interests of generating some broader discussion, what about other non-marital spankings?  Many of us who are in our 50s or older grew up in areas where spanking was common. 

 

And, of course there are all the classic subjects of spanking erotica and spanking fantasies.  Without limiting the possibilities, what categories of people have you been spanked by other than parents, girlfriends later in life, and wives?  Friends? Teachers? Principals? 

 

 Coaches? Mentors?  

 

 Nuns, priests, other church figures?

 

 

And, of course, there are all those mother-in-law stories and memes.

 

 

My own experiences are pretty limited.  Given how prevalent it was, I would be shocked if I had not been spanked by at least grandparents, uncles and aunts. Yet, I can recall a lot of spanking threats, but not that many real spankings.  And, I had a few very hot aunts; I am confident I would remember those had they happened.  The same with school.  Lots of threats, but I don’t recall it actually happening.

 

In many ways, that’s too bad, and not just because I would have been left with some titillating memories.  Looking back, it was in high school where my behavior started to go off the rails.  By the time I graduated, I was engaging in all sorts of excessive behavior.  Those excesses were reinforced and extended in college and, to some degree, in my various professional roles.  Yet, I didn’t discover DD until my late 30s.  I suspect I would have have had a more painful but less anxiety-ridden second and third decades of my life if I’d had more people in it who felt free to turn me over their knee or make me drop my pants for a hard paddling.

 

I hope you’ll share whatever experiences you’ve had with friends and others with spanking benefits.  Or, if you don’t have any experiences to share, which if any fill your fantasies?

 

Have a great week.