Thanks to everyone who weighed in last week on the topic of tears. The one group we didn't hear from much was the disciplinary wives. A few posted comments, but none posted anything on the question I asked about how bringing the husband to tears affects them. (Merry wanted to weigh in on the question but has not yet brought her partner to tears.) I would still love to hear from the Wives on this, and also anything they would care to share regarding their own journey on this issue. Did you set out wanting to make your husband cry? Were you reluctant to do so? How does it feel now -- empowering, satisfying, or something else. So, in the interests of hearing more from the wives, I want to leave the tears topic open for another week.
Following up on another topic that was suggested a few weeks and also was suggested by DWC Fred's most recent comment, let's talk about prompt behavior correction. Is spanking immediately after an offense the goal? If so, what are the impediments to making it happen? Kids? Jobs? Other interfering events or people? What ways have you worked out to get around those distractions and interferences? Conversely, is prompt punishment really an unqualified good? What role does anticipation play? Is it better to order a punishment and let him stew on it for awhile? I wasn't spanked that often as a kid, but I definitely remember the anxiety that accompanied my mother announcing, "Just wait until your father gets home." Is there a value in allowing for that time to think about consequences, letting the anticipating build?
I can really argue this one from both perspectives. I do feel like spankings might work better as real behavior correction if the consequences for bad behavior were more immediate. On the other hand, there is a certain emotional tension that comes with knowing I will be spanked sometime soon, but not knowing exactly when.
So, please share your thoughts on immediate punishment, making it happen, and whether it is, in fact, what should happen. And please continue to tell us anything you want about tears. I'm really hoping to hear more from the wives on this one.
Welcome back to a way to initiate prompt behavior correction.