Hi all. Welcome to this week's edition of the Disciplined Husband's Forum, our weekly gathering of men and women who are practicing or curious about a Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationship.
I hope you all had a great week. I can really feel 2015 winding down. It has been one of the busiest, if not THE busiest year I have had in my adult life. It has been a roller-coaster start to finish and, for the most part, that is really good. But, in all honesty, I am not unhappy to feel the pace slow a little as the holidays come upon us. I hope you all also have had a great year, and one of the highlights of mine has been the weekly conversations with you all.
In addition to the frenetic pace, 2015 was a year of transformation, both personally and in terms of my DD relationship. As I have talked about a bit in past posts, we have been practicing DD for close to a decade, but the overall dynamic really didn't change much over that time. Corporal punishment was used for offenses, but that was really the extent of the exchange of power and authority. That changed this year, and it was really the result of this growing little community. My interaction with commenters and bloggers who were in Female Led Relationships involving a more substantial transfer of authority got me interested in going down that path, and while we are not very far along it yet, there has been progress.
With this change in the underlying nature of our relationship and, to some extent, the focus of this blog, has come more interactions with people who are in more classical Dominance and submission relationships. While what they are doing is similar to what we have always talked about on this blog, the vocabulary is a little different. When describing the roles in DD, I have tended to use labels like Disciplinary Wives and Disciplined Husbands, and I still feel like the latter is a good descriptor for what I am. But, I am increasingly engaging with people who use more D/s style labels. Dominants. Submissives. Tops. Bottoms. TIHs. Many of the "subordinate" parties, for lack of a better word, have adopted the label Submissive. I'm not there yet, and part of me really rebels at that label, even though it is increasingly where I have chosen to try to take the relationship.
All this is very long-winded way of asking, what terms or labels do you use to describe your role? Are you a Dom, a submissive, a Leader, a Disciplinary Wife or Disciplined Husband? Also, do you have a name or title you use with your significant other? Ma'am, Mistress -- something like that?
I hope you all have a very, very happy holiday!