Not having thought of any topics myself, I am going to take Fred's timely suggestion that we talk about rules. Many of us in disciplinary relationships maintain some list of bad behaviors that are likely to earn a session with her (or his) paddle. When we first began this DD journey, we tried to build in some formality, with a list of prohibited behaviors, which was accompanied by a presumptive minimum number of swats for each offense. Over the years, some of the formality has dropped away. Though, I'm not sure the number of rules, officially recognized or otherwise, has dropped much. In fact, this last year arguably included an increase, as she had never before punished me for things like not doing the dishes.
In Fred's comment, he included the following list of rules/infractions:
Must control temper(very serious if wife is recipient).
Demean or criticize wife (on golf course or in public -very serious)
Must be considerate.
Must be nice to wife's friends (including some I don't like)
Must not dominate conversations when with others
Must limit alcohol to two drinks when out.
Must not drive after drinking more than two drinks.
Must treat wife and other respectfully.
Must go to the gym at least twice each week.
Must not start smoking again.
Must not interrupt wife while talking on telephone.
Must do specific chores around the house.
Must listen to wife when she wants to talk to me.
Must not treat wife like a secretary.
Must not drive unsafely or too fast when with wife, family or friends.
Must never be critical of own children when with others.
Must not be overly negative or grumpy especially if it affects wife or others.
Behavioral indiscretions that I should know better than engage in.
Our list would be pretty similar, though perhaps a little more vague. Things that will usually earn me a paddling include:
-- Too much alcohol (more than 2 or 3 drinks)
-- Showing her disrespect
-- Not doing various chores around the house.
-- Doing or saying something inconsiderate that hurts her or the kids' feelings
We talk about things like not working out regularly, and work-related behavior like losing my temper or getting into a quarrel with someone I shouldn't, as qualifying for a spanking. In reality, however, those things never really seem to result in punishment independently, i.e. they are punished only as one more item on a list that includes something that has an immediate impact on her.
How about you? What rules govern your disciplinary relationship? What are the big "no-no's" that land you on the Naughty List?
I hope you all had a great Christmas! Enjoy the rest of your weekend.