Saturday, January 20, 2018
The Forum - Vol. 236 - Disobedience and Repeat Offenses
Disobedience is essentially a prideful power struggle against someone in authority over us. It can be a parent, a priesthood leader, a teacher, or ultimately God. A proud person hates the fact that someone is above him. He thinks this lowers his position. Ezra Taft Benson
Hello all. Welcome back to The Forum. Our weekly gathering of men and women who are in, or interested in being in, a Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationship. I hope you all had a good week.
2018 is off to a, what is the right word -- self-contradictory -- start. As I wrote the last couple of weeks, I have been in this mindset in which I want to let my bad boy run free a bit more than usual. Yet, in some ways my behavior has actually been better than usual. At the end of the year and spilling into 2018, we had one of those very indulgent vacations comprised mainly of lounging around, eating too much and drinking too much. But, I had decided to that once we got back to reality, I was going to try to really reset things where physical health was concerned. So, I went on a fairly strict diet regimen. Sort of "paleo lite." I eliminated pretty much all bread and grain products other than a very little rice on a couple of vacations, all processed foods, and anything with added sugar. Basically, I ate meat, fish and vegetables. And, the really biggie -- no alcohol. I set a goal of not having a single alcoholic beverage for two weeks. Miraculously, I made it. And, I lost a hell of a lot of weight, proportionally, in that two-week period. Enough so that I was planning to maintain it for another week and maybe two.
You know what's coming, right? Yep, right after I made the inner goal of continuing on that healthy trajectory, I fell off the wagon resoundingly and dramatically. A work dinner turned into too much wine, followed by someone in the crew wanting to have just one more . . . culminating in rolling in at 2:00 am. That led to a thoroughly unproductive Friday. But, in all honesty, that hardly distinguishes it from most of the rest of the week, since I am just really struggling with committing to being productive at work right now.
Two things made the drinking incident doubly disappointing. First, she had given me a really hard spanking just the night before. It had been sort of a general "catch up" for bad behavior and for disobeying an order from her at a holiday party back in December. Second, this latest incident also involved disobedience, because as dinner was starting she sent me a text telling me I was to have no more than two drinks. The funny thing is, I don't recall making any conscious decision to disobey her. Instead, I had one glass of wine. Then, the waiter refilled that one and I drank that. Then, I promptly forgot all about her command. The result is I am in for at least one spanking this weekend, on top of a bottom that is still sore from the last one.
So, how are repeat offenses and disobedience handled in your household? Although I am dreading the spanking I have coming, intellectually and as an advocate for Domestic Discipline and FLR lifestyles, I feel like disobedience needs to be in a separate category of offenses and should be treated especially seriously, because it potentially undermines the entire premise of the relationship. It's not just another kind of bad behavior but, rather, violates the whole agreed-upon chain of command. Thus, it should be dealt with especially severely. Is that the case in your household? Does disobedience carry with it some extra-special consequences? Additional spankings? Harder spankings? Punishment entirely different from a spanking? Tell us all about it.
I hope you all have a great week.