A Real Life Opportunity for a Witnessed (by Video) Spanking (Club Meeting 532)

“One person's embarrassment is another person's accountability.” - Tom Price

Hello all. Welcome back to The Disciplinary Couple’s Club.  Our weekly gathering of men and women who are in, or would like to be in, a Domestic Discipline relationship.  I hope you all had a great week.

 

 

I hope you all had a great week.  Mine was OK, though for the first time in a while I had “one of those nights” in which a few drinks with a friend became a few too many.  So, a spanking probably is in my near future.  Aside from that, I’m enjoying our fall weather that is starting to inch its way toward winter.

 

Just a short follow-up on the topic of spanking pace.  After I wrote the post, I came across this captioned photo, which describes almost perfectly the pace Anne used in one of the spankings a couple of weeks ago:  A regular pace of swats landing every second or two, punctuated with short flurries of very fast swats.  As I said in the post, I found those flurries to be very, very painful and effective.

 

For some reason, I haven’t been in much of a DD mood lately, which happens sometimes. It almost feels hormonal, and I feel like my hormones are, in fact, a little off right now, probably thanks to some recent bouts of insomnia.  And, since it hasn’t been on my mind that much, I didn’t have much inspiration for a post this week. 

 

So, instead of my usual abstract or broad-based topic, I thought I’d relate a recent discussion I had that might lead to a novel (for me) and potentially embarrassing spanking experience.

 

A couple of weeks ago, I had a text exchange with Aunt Kay’s husband, who went by the name “Jerry” within the DWC and posted here for a while under the name Tomy.  He noted that these days I’m the only one he ever talks to about DWC and spanking-related stuff.  I told him that it’s surprising to me that after the DWC website went defunct, and after Kay’s passing, all the participants seemed to scatter and that he's no longer in touch with any of them.  I told him that, while I have come to understand how contextual most relationships are, it still kind of surprised me that there wasn’t more ongoing contact among the core group within the DWC, because what they shared had been so intimate and transgressive, it seemed like that was the kind of “naughty shared secret”, as Kay once put it, that might cement stronger bonds.  That seemed particularly the case where men had been spanked in front of each other or sent to each other’s wives for a spanking.

 

 

That led to me admitting that something about that live, in-person experience within the confines of a small, intimate group like the DWC, is something I sometimes really regret missing out on.  I also said that, while I’m not quite as obsessed with the fantasy of a witnessed spanking as some others here are, it is something that I have fantasized about, although for me that fantasy would have to hew pretty closely to a real disciplinary spanking. In other words, being spanked for no real disciplinary reason at something like a spanking party probably wouldn’t do much for me. 

 

I also acknowledged that, given that I have been writing a DWC-oriented blog for over a decade, it’s not like I probably couldn’t figure out a way to arrange for a witnessed spanking if I really wanted to, so the lack of such an experience was kind of on me.

 

He responded with, “Zoom anytime”, which I took to be a suggestion we continue our chat on a Zoom call, which we’ve done before.  I suggested we try to hook up with a video call that afternoon. 

 

But, almost immediately another possible meaning of his text occurred to me.  I was a little reluctant to raise it, but I took a breath and sent a follow-up query: “It occurred to me belatedly that I might have missed another meaning of your Zoom suggestion, i.e. a possibility of being spanked over a Zoom session, with you witnessing?  Was that what you meant?”

 

He responded, “Yep, that is what I meant,” followed by a smiley emoji.

 

 

I was not sure how to respond, because the offer had come so unexpectedly that I hadn’t yet had time to process it.  But, ultimately I told him that I would at least raise it with Anne and get her thoughts.

 

Although I did intend to bring it up to her, I thought it was pretty likely that would be the end of it, as Anne has always been a more private person than I am. 

 

We had a check-in a couple of days later. I had committed to myself that I would bring it up, yet I still came pretty close to chickening out. Finally, at the end of the conversation, I told her about Jerry’s offer and how it had come about.  She definitely looked surprised, but she also had this very amused look on her face, which I think was not so much about the offer itself but about my obvious embarrassment about it.  She has said many times that, given my confidence that borders on cockiness (she would probably say more than “borders”), she enjoys it when something about our DD and FLR relationship or plans to extend it make me unsettled or nervous.

 

 

Without giving me her thoughts, she asked me how I felt about it.  I tried to be honest and told her that, while the idea embarrassed me, I had told Jerry that I wished I would have been a part of the real DWC and might have experienced being spanked in front of others in the lifestyle.  I also told her that I felt like it was my own paranoia about confidentiality that had caused me to miss out on those kinds of novel experiences and that there isn’t much objective risk these days, given that both of us are retired and nothing really hinges on what anyone else might think of our lifestyle choices.

 

I finally asked her what she thought.  She was noncommittal, but it wasn’t a “no”.  She said she’d think about it.

 

It’s been a couple of weeks, and I haven’t pressed the issue. As I said, I haven’t been in much of a DWC-related mindset lately, which is probably part of why I haven’t brought it up again.  Also, I’m scheduled for a medical procedure in a couple of weeks, and will involve some substantial recovery time.  So, even if she were to say she is open to it, I doubt it would happen soon, in part because I think she and Jerry would need to have a live discussion to talk about how to do it and how to put an actual session together without a lot of notice, given that for me this works only if the spanking were for something real and followed fairly closely after that behavior.

 

 

Anne is going to do what she’s going to do, but what do you all think about this?  Some of you have been spanked in front of witnesses, so I’m sure what the prospect of a spanking viewed over video may seem pretty mild by your standards.  And, I admit that it being over a video does attenuate the embarrassment I feel thinking about the prospect, as does the fact that Jerry lives far away from us and, thus, isn’t someone I see live on a regular basis.  I feel like that is a big part of the embarrassment associated with most real witnessed spankings in real DD relationships; the witness is often a friend or family member who you are likely to see from time to time, and every time you see them you’re going to be wondering whether they have an image of you over your wife’s knee.

 

 

So, without defining the topic very precisely, what do you think?  Any advice on whether I should do it?  If you had a chance, would you ever do it?  What about being on the viewing end? Would you ever want to see someone else get spanked, whether in person or over video?

 

I hope you have a good week.