Hello all. I hope you had a great week and are either already enjoying or soon to be enjoyng a great three-day weekend (for those in the U.S.). I was tied up most of the week and haven't even gotten to most of last week's comments. So, I think I am going to take a little pause this weekend, including from the blog. But, just because I am being lazy, don't feel like you must do the same. Please feel free to continue last week's discussion, or start a new thread here on anything you want to talk about (within the bounds of reason and good taste.)
Update: I did get around to answering most of last week's comments, leaving a few follow-up questions or observations.
Have a great weekend and be safe.
Dan
Update: I did get around to answering most of last week's comments, leaving a few follow-up questions or observations.
Have a great weekend and be safe.
Dan
Taking up the new thread idea, here is one to explore if anyone is interested. A very dominant women told my wife that she thought a woman who has once spanked a man could always do it again if she wished . My wife has asked me if either of the two girlfriends who previously spanked me ( one for a long time and very seriously) could do it again.I honestly answered no but since have thought about it and wondered. I get weak knees when my pants are taken down or I am scolded and I wonder what would happen. Another version of this question is could a dominant woman who knew you were spanked use that knowledge to control you. I believe that authority is held exclusively by one woman at a time and although other women have controlled me in the past only my wife does now. But I wonder if any dominant woman could spank a submissive man if she decided to do so. Any thoughts or experiences are very welcome
ReplyDeleteAlan
It's hard for me to say, as I'm not really submissive by nature. Submitting to DD is something I have voluntarily entered into with my wife. It isn't really a dominant-submissive dynamic based on me feeling submissive to women in general or to dominant women.
DeleteDan
ReplyDeleteHope you have a great holiday and again THANK YOU FOR THIS BLOG....
anna
Hi Anna. Hope you and Peter have a great holiday, too!
DeleteThis is in reference to an anonymous posting, a couple of topics back, which ended:
ReplyDelete"I would never tell anyone and I assume other guys who take a bare paddling say nothing either"
which elicits something I've long wondered about:
How many guys who are spanked by their female SOs are (would be) willing to admit to it (talk about it) to someone else, outside of some very immediate circle.
I mean, whether while talking with a friend or a group of friends, in a bar conversation, in the work place, at a party ... any kind of vanilla setting.
I am trying to imagine the kind of look you might get, if you just blurt out to a guy, "Do you have sex with your wife?" so imagine the look you'd get if you asked, "Does your wife give you spankings?" I mean, really, which one is more intimate?
Merry has said some things, but I just don't think anybody has believed her.
One time I had a friend over at the house, playing chess, with our spanking bench in plain view in the living room, and Merry said, 'Oh that... Shilo gets on that, so I can spank HIM. You didn't think I get on it, did you?"
The friend just smiled and we kept on playing.
So, for sure, it's a private matter, so it's not something that gets casually dropped into conversation.
I'm not there yet, but I think in the future it will depend on what exactly I am revealing, and to whom. I can see disclosing being spanked it was something like a bunch of people talking about kinky sex practices over that one happy hour drink too many. I think there is enough kinky sex out there in the popular media these days, that experimenting with just about anything is no big deal. But, would I reveal that this isn't really kinky sex for us, but part of a bigger relationship change involving domestic discipline -- I don't think either of us are there yet. Most of our friends are associated with work in one way or another, and we are both in careers where there could be repercussions if that aspect of our relationship was freely known. But, once retirement comes around, who knows?
Delete@ Dan:
DeleteKinky sex? ::giggles:: I don't spank Shilo for kinky sex. But I do agree that depending on what your position is outside of DD or BDSM that it's best to keep it hidden. I mean, I'm very active in my church community, and I know that if 'they' were to discover how I live my lifestyle (Polyamorous, DD, enforced chastity and BDSM) that they would no longer want me to be a part of the church.
Hi Dan - hope you are enjoying the holiday weekend!
ReplyDeleteI was out of town for a couple of days and just got a chance to read your followup comments to last week - and noticed that you mentioned the "age" of the DWC site. I don't have an exact date - but I have a couple of files in my archives from 1999 that reference Aunt Kay and the DWC - thought it was about 3 years after that when my wife and I began our DWC style arrangement. --al
Al,
ReplyDeleteI believe Aunt Kay counts her initial web efforts to 1994. I discovered it around 97 or so. and it was going strong then.Its too bad it has fallen off the grid but while it endured it was a great source of good information from people in every stage of the lifestyle
Alan
It's back up but, unfortunately, no new content in ages: www.auntkaysdwc.com/abegin.htm
DeleteThanks for the info, Al. I knew that it was well established when I found it in 99 but did not know how long it had actually been around. After my wife read it in 2002 and we began the lifestyle, we emailed Aunt Kay asking to join her private email group for confirmed DWC couples only - which was referenced on the DWC site at that time. (you had to be willing to give her your phone number so she could call and talk by phone to both of you so that she would know that you were a real DWC couple). She emailed us back - but said that the email list had been deleted by Yahoo some time back. However, there was a new one just getting started and she would be happy to call us so we could be on the list when it started. So - we did end up talking to her a couple of times and were on the new private Yahoo email group. Unfortunately, Yahoo deleted the group once again within a year or so. Aunt Kay was quite firm about what she would allow to be discussed on the Group (spanking only - not sex for fetish) - and ended up banning one guy who refused to obey the rules. He then reported the site as obscene to Yahoo out of revenge - and they deleted it. So that was the end of the private email groups. The site did remain active with new items and an active guestbook for a few years after that - but had gone almost inactive by 2008 or so.
DeleteIt is disappointing that she lost the original domain name as she did (her explanation is on the new site) - but at least she did reopen it with the original materials - which is still quite useful for many. --al
Oops - surfed back by the Forum and realized that I had addressed my earlier post to "myself". Of course, "al" is a pseudonym so I don't think of myself as "al" - hence the name confusion.
DeleteThe note was intended as a reply to "Alan" (pseudonym or otherwise).
--al
Hey all. Since this is "anything goes" week.......I'm going to take the opportunity to mention that dan has very generously linked my writing and artwork website, "Collected Submissions" in his margin. Those who remember the "famous" KDPierre chastity cartoons from the 90's will be pleased to see a lot of new work. Fans of my writing on LSF will also be pleased to see new pieces and pieces not available on LSF there.
ReplyDeleteIn addition, I have started a companion blog for the site, also called "Collected Submissions". It has been up since the beginning of this month and there are several posts and a new cartoon. My blog is not like Dan's....so there's no competition here...LOL. It's a place where there will be updates and announcements and topics to ponder. The url is:
http://www.collectedsubs.blogspot.com
All are welcome! I am a BDSM/DD practitioner in an FLR......but while those topics might arise more frequently.....everything kinky is fair game. Please stop by.......and please participate! The blog has been up 12 days with multiple posts.....and I haven't elicited a single comment. be the first!