Saturday, November 1, 2014
The Forum - Weekly Topic #63
Hi all. Happy belated Halloween! I hope you all had a great time last night, whether with the kids or engaged in more "adult" activities.
I thought we had a great discussion last week. Some of the couples have clearly taken discipline to that "next" level, where it is all about the discipline and punishment, with most of the eroticism removed. At least for the person on the receiving end of the paddle or strap or cane.
And that brings us to this week's topic. Things like requiring an orgasm before discipline or denying sex afterward are clearly designed to make sure that a disciplinary spanking is really punishment. But, that is from the receiver's perspective. What about the giver? What does the Disciplinary Wife get out of the disciplinary relationship, and is it based at all in sex or eroticism? And, does it change over time? For example, maybe a wife starts out in DD by complying, somewhat skeptically and tentatively, with her husband's request to be disciplined. Maybe it begins with her trying to give him what he thinks he needs or what she thinks will help the marriage. That's the way it started out for us. But, over time, that has changed. While I don't think my Disciplinary Wife fits into the category of "Sadist," because I don't think she enjoys inflicting pain or watching someone else receive it, over time she has very much to come to enjoy the power associated with directing me to go to the basement, strip naked, and present myself for a spanking. And, while most of her delight in it seems to be connected to the exercise of power and authority, it does increasingly have a sexual component.
But, for others, perhaps the desire to dominate and exercise authority has been there from the beginning. And, a few are true Sadists.
So, what motivates your disciplinary wife to be that disciplinarian, and what keeps them at it year after year. And, how has it changed over time, if at all?
Have a great weekend!