The Club - Meeting 425 - Wives Spanking Other Men

“Moral indignation is jealousy with a halo.” - H. G. Wells

 

Hello all. Welcome back to The Disciplinary Couple’s Club.  Our (mostly) weekly on-line gathering of men and women who are in, or would like to be in, a Domestic Discipline relationship.

 

I hope you all had a good week.  Mine was okay, though I became one of the statistics proving that it takes most people about two weeks to blow through all those New Year's resolutions.  

 

Though, it’s probably the case that in a justly-designed world, New Year’s resolutions would not take effect until mid-January. It seems to take the holiday season a couple of weeks to fully wind down after January 1^st, and my fails last week definitely reflected having family and friends around more than usual.  Oh well . . . time to pick myself up, dust myself off . . . and give 2023 another try.

 

 

Another thing that kind of blew last week was Lisa Marie Presley’s death.  He was one of the first musical artists I knew and loved as a kid.  It’s definitely making me feel old that his kid died and was close to my age.  Of course, the passing of celebrities in 2022 drove that message home over and over again. It wasn’t that more celebrities and important sports and political figures died than in any other year. Rather, it just seemed like there were more of them who were personally meaningful to me and played a prominent role in my cultural life.  I suspect it’s something I better get used to.

 

On that cheery note . . . despite the holiday distractions we got a fair amount of interaction in discussing Donn’s topic asking whether the men here are attracted to domestic discipline because they have a need for it or, rather, because it is useful in some way.  The answers were all over the map and served mainly to emphasize something that a decade with this blog has really driven home for me – human behavior and desire is complicated, and there really is no one prevalent path that leads us to this thing we do.  Although, I do think for most—though not all—there is some sexualized “need” involved.

 

This week’s topic is tangentially related—probably very tangentially—to the issue of sex and domestic discipline, combined with our seemingly inexhaustible need to discuss “others”, whether those others be witnesses or participants.  I’m really not sure why this topic popped into my head, but it did, so here goes:

 

If your wife had the opportunity to spank another man, how would you react to that?

 

I haven’t given a lot of thought to this one, because the opportunity has never arisen, and I’ve never had any particular reason or desire to try to create such an opportunity.   I also wonder whether it's something that other men who are into DD find either threatening or distasteful, because it's not a scenario that appears very often in spanking art and memes.

 

Yet, in some ways it’s odd I haven’t thought about it much, given the role the Disciplinary Wives Club website played in the formation of my domestic discipline desires.

 

While a scenario of one wife spanking another’s husband isn’t depicted frequently on the DWC website, it is depicted prominently.  The first two entries under the “Fiction Stories” section involve a wife imposing a domestic discipline spanking relationship on her husband as punishment for him looking too longingly and obviously at a friend’s legs.  After giving him his first disciplinary spanking, she takes him to the friend’s house a few days later so the friend also can spanking.

 

A few weeks ago, we also talked about the DWC “Real People” story entitled Military Duty Calls,  in which a wife doing a tour of duty leaves her mother in charge of disciplining her husband while she’s away.  It includes a scene in which the mother-in-law discusses the situation with her husband, who not only approves of her surrogate disciplinarian role but ends up getting spanked himself after his wife raises the possibility with him.

 

 

The reason I see this as tangentially related to last week’s topic is, for me at least, it raises the question again of just how much are domestic discipline spankings inherently bound up in sex.

 

In my basic wiring, I’m not nearly as jealous as Anne.  Still, if I were to learn that she was sleeping with another man, I’m sure I would feel jealousy and anger.  That’s how most men would react, right?

 

Yet, I don’t think I would feel much jealousy about my wife spanking another man.  While I acknowledge that there is erotic energy underlying my own fascination with domestic discipline, it’s an energy that doesn’t seem troubled by the possibility, however remote, that my wife might spank another man.

 

And, is it so remote?  I think it is pretty unlikely, yet it’s also true that other DD relationships—including Aunt Kay and her husband Jerry (aka “Tomy” to some of you who interacted with him here on this blog or on his) DD relationship—began with attending spanking parties.  And, as the DWC developed into something more like a real club, other wives sent their husbands to Aunt Kay for spankings, and Jerry was sent to other women to be spanked.

 

So, if your wife had an opportunity to spank another man, what would you think and feel about that?  What would she likely think and feel about it?  If you would be open to it, is that consistent or inconsistent with the extent to which you see disciplinary spankings as being inherently sexual?

 

I hope you all have a great week.