So, have you noticed that the name of this blog seems increasingly like a misnomer? What began as a small group of like-minded men has really opened up lately, with a substantial jump in the number of Disciplinary Wives participating actively in the conversation. It is a great trend, and we welcome them all.
Last week, one our anonymous commenters raised an interesting question that merits a full topic. We often talk about the differences between erotic spankings, maintenance spankings, and punishment spankings. But, I don't think we've ever really discussed what a punishment spanking consists of for each of you. I'm sure that this varies tremendously from couple to couple as a result of all sorts of factors, including natural pain tolerance, experience and comfort level with delivering a truly hard spanking, and a host of other factors. So, let's talk about what a punishment spanking really consists of for you.
I will kick this one off. My wife does not do non-punishment spankings, so they are all very hard. Typically, she will use somewhere between three and five implements, including a leather strap, a wooden "fraternity"-style paddle, a bath brush, a "loopy johnny" and, more recently, one or more really brutal rubber straps. The number of swats varies, but usually no fewer than 30 per implement, and often double that. When it is over, my bottom is swollen and red, with prominent bruising. While that has been the condition of my bottom since virtually our very first disciplinary spanking, the intensity and number of the swats have increased substantially over the years. When we first began, sixty or seventy swats seemed terrifying. Today, that is just a warm up. My bottom also doesn't bruise as easily as when we first started this journey. Early on, any session with the wooden paddle would leave large, ugly bruises. Now, the bruises are smaller and seem to fade faster. Regarding duration, I've never timed one of our sessions. While they seem agonizingly long at the time, I'm sure that in reality they last 10 minutes or less from first swat to last, though the ritual of getting ready, preparing the room, laying out her tools, undressing, etc. makes the entire event last around 20 to 30 minutes. Mine do not end in tears, no matter how long or hard the spanking. So far, I just can't let go enough to get there. I also do have a higher than normal pain tolerance, though I think the inability to cry is more a function of emotional resistance than pain tolerance.
So, that is what a punishment spanking is for us. How about for you? What characterizes a "punishment" spanking specifically, in terms of severity, duration, number of swats, implements, etc. Please share!
Have a great weekend.