tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post7625868295396541193..comments2024-03-28T21:45:05.911-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 109 - What is "Punishment"?Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-79275286974392759872016-06-05T16:59:11.108-07:002016-06-05T16:59:11.108-07:00Hi David. Good luck to you both. Seems like it w...Hi David. Good luck to you both. Seems like it will be an eventful summer!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-16930632615242904562016-06-05T08:15:24.983-07:002016-06-05T08:15:24.983-07:00I have had some really hard spankings, but so far ...I have had some really hard spankings, but so far none that have been for pure punishment. I think that is going to change over this summer. My wife is a teacher so she has the summer off. My wife informed me she is going to use this time to "whip" me into shape. I have always craved punishment spankings from a very strict woman, however I am very scared of the agony I will have to go through. Spanking hurt!!!Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08363729646839642487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-65462053631519773152015-11-13T12:46:02.730-08:002015-11-13T12:46:02.730-08:00i think the main things to a "punishment"...i think the main things to a "punishment" spanking are that my Wife ups the intensity and displays emotion. She will toss me on the bed, grab the paddle, and (often) throw me over her knees. She will hit alot faster and harder than usual! From Her actions and demeanor, and often direct comments, i can tell She is emotional about things. This is not a "maintenance" spanking (which frankly i'd of course prefer, but She finds too hard to schedule). sara e (cross dressed hubby)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-10137297807980558512015-10-31T08:00:12.947-07:002015-10-31T08:00:12.947-07:00Thank you!Thank you!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-24375100332129350012015-10-30T14:14:35.501-07:002015-10-30T14:14:35.501-07:00Amazing blog! Great shares..Amazing blog! Great shares..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-14406180288233815592015-10-24T15:19:26.999-07:002015-10-24T15:19:26.999-07:00Hi Anonymous. It's great that you had some fr...Hi Anonymous. It's great that you had some frank communications and that she took things from there.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-49867097276281303062015-10-24T13:57:42.836-07:002015-10-24T13:57:42.836-07:00When it comes to imposing real punishment thru spa...When it comes to imposing real punishment thru spanking my wife now makes sure that when one of these sessions is over, I suffer the effects for a number of days. This change came about after a discussion between us as to why after she administers a spanking as a result of my "failures" I only seem to improve for a couple of days. She felt that even "punishment" spankings were just pandering to my kink. I was honest with her and explained that her so call "punishment" sessions were really not that effective as there were just too lite and if she was looking for long term improvement or attitude change, it had to be administered hard and long enough to where it hurt so bad I didn't want to face another similar type session. In other words, there had to be an element of fear put into me after it was over..<br /><br />Since I am usually fully restrained, face down on our bed there is plenty of time for her, as there is no way I can get away until she feels she has done enough. Upon raising these spankings to a higher lever she had to over come her natural inclination to stop when she could tell that I was really desperate when pleading, then begging for her mercy. <br /><br /> After enduring one of these sessions, there always is a significant change in attitude for quite some time. I become highly modivated to do as I am instructed, without question. As a result of this change, punishment spankings have diminished significantly over the past few years. We still enjoy her administrating erotic spankings, but I have learned to avoid upsetting or disappointing her in case she feels the need to be more severe. She is a happier wife nowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-74783999528859076832015-10-23T05:56:22.376-07:002015-10-23T05:56:22.376-07:00Regular scheduled maintenance spankings is somethi...Regular scheduled maintenance spankings is something we tried for a while and then discarded the practice. I can absolutely see why it is valuable for many couples and I applaud them.<br /><br />For us though it felt like a ritual without the juice of real discipline. And she doesn't need a formal "maintenance program" if she simply senses a spanking would help my overall well-being (or hers). Maybe that's our version of "maintenance" hmmm.<br /><br />Someone wrote that in their home they have a differentiation between "Guidance" and "Punishment". I never thought of it that way. Thank You! It has given me a new way to look at things. I'll be keeping that in the back of my mind as life moves forward and I ponder the subtleties of her motivations for giving me a sore bottom.<br />Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-8418792283754273672015-10-22T16:43:56.024-07:002015-10-22T16:43:56.024-07:00Surprisingly yes. I had bruises and broken bliste...Surprisingly yes. I had bruises and broken blisters. It got worse as the week went on. DWC Frednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-61945641936332439862015-10-21T18:46:24.498-07:002015-10-21T18:46:24.498-07:00Hi Fred,
Could you get enough of a swing going sp...Hi Fred,<br /><br />Could you get enough of a swing going spanking yourself to make it really hurt?<br /><br />DanDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-2826385174756320952015-10-21T18:45:40.157-07:002015-10-21T18:45:40.157-07:00Hi TB. Those rituals sound very much like our pre...Hi TB. Those rituals sound very much like our pre-spanking routine, including me trying in vain to escape the inevitable.<br />Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-5404091061372793802015-10-21T18:43:19.459-07:002015-10-21T18:43:19.459-07:00Hi Jan. Interesting approach. I would think that...Hi Jan. Interesting approach. I would think that being in front of witnesses wouuld make it even harder for me to cry. It is hard enough f(too hard, in fact) for me to cry in front of her. In front of witnesses?? I would be too mortified to add to it by crying!<br />Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-65684437593065005332015-10-21T17:09:44.530-07:002015-10-21T17:09:44.530-07:00I think I've said before, all spankings are p...I think I've said before, all spankings are punishment. Usually this means a bare bottomed spanking that results in tears 75%of the time. When I repeat an offense I will receive multiple spankings to tears.<br /><br />This last week we had a situation where I earned multiple spankings for an offense, but my wife was out of town. Sometimes with her on the phone and sometimes alone I was required to spank myself every day. Especially with her listening it was truly hard. As I described pulling down my pants I was nearly in tears. That was punishment. DWC Frednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-67442889200381568322015-10-21T06:58:40.919-07:002015-10-21T06:58:40.919-07:00In our house all spanking is punishment although i...In our house all spanking is punishment although it can be harder or longer depending on the misdemeanour… Spanking is always linked to a specific ‘crime’ - (lack of ) respect, the No 1 failing or poor attitude or moodiness. It almost never happens when she is angry but some hours or days later. She seems happy to keep me in suspense and enjoys my immediately improved behaviours/attitude in the lead up to punishment as I vainly try to escape the inevitable.<br /><br />Because whilst I love that we have the DD type relationship, my fantasies around it, the ‘before’ and the ‘after’, being controlled by someone much weaker than me – I really do not like the actual event (understatement!). The ritual is well understood by both of us. She will announce that we will ‘be going upstairs’ in a tone that I know and which starts the nervousness. She may send me up to ‘get ready’ – which means removing my trousers, underwear, shoes and piling pillows on the bed – after I get out the paddles & strap – and get in position. <br /><br />She will normally lecture/scold and ask for my explanation. She will start with the oval wooden paddle (so well used that the varnish is coming off!). No warm up these days as she has worked out that it lessens the impact and then on and on up & down whilst (as she says) she paints my cheeks all over, a very bright red and then dark red, usually finishing with some vigorous strapping. I am always right on the edge by the time she stops, begging and agreeing to anything and I love the calmness that starts when she rubs the cream in after. But often she will repeat the process 2 or 3 days later ‘to ensure that I really get the message’ – which I DO as I will still be quite tender from the first correction…<br />TB<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-51744806024810883022015-10-20T04:55:11.483-07:002015-10-20T04:55:11.483-07:00Dear Dan, This is Jan. I have a sure fire way to ...Dear Dan, This is Jan. I have a sure fire way to make the tears come on. just put him over your knee and spank him in front of witnesses. A dose of petticoat punishment never hurts and just makes him more submissive and he bawls like a teenager who was long overdue.<br /><br />P.S Halloween is coming and he knows he will have to get dressed up in female attire for the party. Every year there are more wives making there husbands dress up. One or two girls always bring a paddle or whip. Good for the guys the never been used yet, JanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-5176260826825322722015-10-19T17:55:02.294-07:002015-10-19T17:55:02.294-07:00Hi GK. I was wondering where you disappered to. G...Hi GK. I was wondering where you disappered to. Good to have you back.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-11212605608161296922015-10-19T17:54:04.205-07:002015-10-19T17:54:04.205-07:00Thanks, Anonymous.
DanThanks, Anonymous.<br /><br />DanDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-83594140708966327512015-10-19T17:46:30.894-07:002015-10-19T17:46:30.894-07:00Thanks, Anonymous.Thanks, Anonymous.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-68263480885758525512015-10-19T17:34:33.988-07:002015-10-19T17:34:33.988-07:00Milking before hand always a good idea. Yes it hu...Milking before hand always a good idea. Yes it hurts. Yes it's punishment. I'm still aroused however. I would not want to be messy. <br /><br />Yes aroused so to some it's not punishment. But to us it's very real. To me very painful. irusernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-85419783870465579652015-10-19T15:10:49.160-07:002015-10-19T15:10:49.160-07:00Hi Dan,
It's been a while since I've bee...Hi Dan, <br /><br />It's been a while since I've been online. No real reason apart from being busy with work etc. Good to be back.<br /><br />In our house real punishment is a wholly unpleasant thing that I'm subjected to if I do something that either breaks our rules or upsets Mistress. It means a good dose of the cane and the minimum number of strokes is 36. There is no warm-up, we use a Dragon cane (denser material than the normal school cane) and all the strokes are hard, though I'd say I'm not sure Mistress administers them all with the kind of full force I know and fear she is capable of. <br /><br />She does however cane quite fast so there's no time to recover from each stroke. I'm quite vocal during a punishment session (often begging for it to stop) and often am whimpering while my eyes or full of tears. <br /><br />Like you I've not actually been caned to tears yet, though I've been close to weeping several times. From what I've read, tears are not so much to do with pain of a thrashing but the emotional effect of punishment and I've noticed my worse whimpering, where I'm right on the verge of crying, is when my punishment is for a significant upsetting moment I've caused. <br /><br />Perhaps on those occasions the punishment is more severe or perhaps I'm making more connection with my faults and my correction, and feeling real contrition. I confess to not full understanding the psychology of corporal punishment.<br /><br />When I have been whimpering, my bottom lip trembling and tears in my eyes immediately after punishment - and I'm fighting to control myself from crying, I think both Mistress and I are both hugely embarrassed by the situation. She always tells me to pull myself together and I respond, unable to let go in that moment.<br /><br />I think a little hug and a gentle verbal reminder from her why I've just been caned at that point might tip me over the edge but I suppose I'll never know. <br /><br />Getting back to your original question of what constitutes punishment, Mistress and I both acknowledge that once you have both agreed to adopt corporal punishment as a way to maintain discipline in the home, any punishment for real faults had to be a wholly unpleasant and very painful experience for the wrongdoer if it is to have any real corrective effect. Anything less I would term as spanking games. There's nothing wrong with that of course, but I think if anyone intends to inflict punishment on their partner, then it has to be with a degree of severity.<br /><br />Regards <br /><br />gkRespecting Mistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00283458872041706615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-53654509128982288862015-10-19T13:26:44.954-07:002015-10-19T13:26:44.954-07:00I only receive punishment spankings and they are t...I only receive punishment spankings and they are the result of severe misbehavior on my part. They are always administered with me naked and my wife decides what implement she will utilize. Sometimes she will start with the wooden paddle and then finish with the leather belt. She only finishes when I am sobbing in tears and my bottom is blistered. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-57000670880158867932015-10-19T08:37:31.355-07:002015-10-19T08:37:31.355-07:00We have usually two types of spankings. The most ...We have usually two types of spankings. The most common are punishment spankings were I am restrained and spanked with a variety of implements. That is probably 100-150 strokes. I I usually cry to some extent, and most often she says that she I deserved more. The other spankings are usually quick for little things that might be borderline to her, where I get maybe 5-10 with the paddle just to get my attention. Kind of a warning shot. --EasyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-44042003904898874872015-10-19T07:47:08.620-07:002015-10-19T07:47:08.620-07:00Thanks, Anonymous. The distinction between guidan...Thanks, Anonymous. The distinction between guidance and punishment is helpful.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-3595569509937861682015-10-19T06:24:15.524-07:002015-10-19T06:24:15.524-07:00Lot of difference between punishment and maintenan...Lot of difference between punishment and maintenance spanking in our household:<br /><br />On a basic level: Number of strokes: Maintenance - never more than 20; Punishment - begins at 50 and is more typically double that.<br /><br />Implement: Maintenance - Hand only, over the knee. Punishment - flogger and cane judiciously mixed, with me either on all fours or tied over a tall stool<br /><br />Duration and severity: Maintenance - Normally no longer than a couple of minutes, hard enough to hurt but lightened by some affection and concluded by a ruffle of my hair. Punishment - Often, around 20 minutes, resulting in pain that despite my best efforts, makes me break down in tears eventually. The evidence of those tears is required by my wife to consider stopping. The atmosphere is invariably cold and businesslike. No unnecessary words from my wife, who is always fully dressed on these occasions.<br /><br />The idea is always to separate punishment as guidance from punishment designed to prevent any repetition of the offence.It works, is all I can say. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-58622229133810188972015-10-18T19:32:52.600-07:002015-10-18T19:32:52.600-07:00Thanks, Anonymous. Lots of caning on the Forum th...Thanks, Anonymous. Lots of caning on the Forum these days.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.com