Hello all. Welcome back to the Forum. Our weekly gathering of me and women who are participating or interested in Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationships. I hope you had a great week.
I find myself pretty tired at the end of mine. Work has been insane, my sleep patterns are once again all out of whack, and here I am on a Saturday morning, awake at an insanely early hour for no reason. Spankings aren't really stress relievers for me, but right now I kind of wish they were. This morning's insomnia resulted from residual anger about something that happened at work yesterday, which leads me to this week's topic.
In the last couple of weeks there have been some comments about anger, i.e. do or should our Disciplinary Wives spank in anger. Marisa extended it a little and talked about being bitchy during a spanking, hence the quote above, which I've posted before but it's one that's worth repeating. Merry, on the other hand, says she never spanks in anger.
My wife is somewhere in the middle. She rarely spanks in the heat of the moment, but on some occasions her frustration is still pretty palpable as she swings her paddle or strap.
Personally, I like it when my wife displays emotion before or during a spanking. I think it is part of her learning to express her emotions and gain the confidence to say what she means. I want her to know that it is OK to hurt not just my bottom but my feelings, because it may be that the reason I am bent over getting by bottom strapped or paddled is because I hurt hers. During our last spanking, she lectured me while I was facing away from her, and I think that gave her the freedom to cut loose a little more than usual, and that in turn helped me get into a more submissive mindset. Also, my ego is pretty strong, and I need more than just a cold, clinical application of the paddle to break down my defenses and really accept accountability. It also helps me to accept her authority if she is expressing herself like she really is in charge. So, while I do understand the need for making sure that anger is under control in order to avoid things going far, I am fine with the anger being present and openly expressed.
How about you? Do you prefer "all business," or are displays of anger and emotion something that helps establish your roles or help you get to the emotional state you need.
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