The Forum - Question of the Week #36

Hi all.  Welcome to the Forum #36.  This week's question is one that has been explored a bit before, but it's worth talking about again now that we have a few more active participants.  This week's topic is, how do you get a Domestic Discipline relationship started?  How do you go about letting your significant other know of your interest in it?  How do you persuade them to give it a try? And, how do you progress from the beginning stage to make DD a real part of your day to day life?  I hope this topic gets the attention and responses it merits, because if the statistics in the poll I've posted for several months now are any indication of what is going on out there, we have a significant number of men who are interested in an F/m lifestyle, but far fewer women share that mindset.  Or, perhaps fewer of them spend significant time finding and reading DD-oriented blogs.  Or, maybe many women are so conditioned to being on the losing end of unequal power in society, that it just never occurs to them that they might be able to put their bad boy husbands over their knee. In any case, it seems to me that there are many men out there who very much want to try this lifestyle but are not sure how to make that happen. So, please share not only your tips, but also your stories.


As always, please take a moment to visit the Guestbook or add a story (fictional or non-fictional) to the User Stories section.  I finally learned how to us Blooger's tab feature, so those sections are now accessible from tabs at the top of the page.  I'm also playing a bit with the templates to try to find something a little less grey and dreary.  Let me know what you think about the new background and color.  Have a great week.

Dan - Disciplined Hubby

The Forum - Question of the Week #35

Welcome back everyone.  For those in the United States, I hope you are enjoying the start of your three-day weekend.

This week topic is "Oops!" moments.   By which I mean, moments when you realize you just did something that might have led to another person discovering your domestic discipline and/or spanking lifestyle.  Maybe you forgot to clear the browser history on your computer before someone else used it.  Maybe you accidentally used your real name in a blog post or email that you meant to be anonymous or you intended to use a pseudonym.  Maybe you went walking through the gym locker room naked, with stripes or bruises on your bottom, after you forgot too quickly about the previous night's disciplinary session.

As always, please leave a comment in the Guestbook (the post immediately below this one).  And, please consider contributing a fictional or non-fictional story.  You can access our user stories via the link in the Links section on the right side of this blog. 

Have a great weekend!

The Forum - Question of the Week #34

Welcome back to this week's Forum.  And, thanks for the flurry of responses to last week's question.  I don't think we've ever reached 20 comments before.   A small milestone, but a milestone nonetheless.  Of course, some of the increased activity seems to be the result of moving to a comment format that allows for posting replies to individual comments.   My blogging skills are basic, to say the least, and I hadn't realized how to change that setting until recently.

So, here we are again.  This week's question is about motivations for participating in this lifestyle, specifically, "What's in it for them?"   With "them" being the person in your DD relationship who has the disciplining role.  The HOH.  The "top," if you will.   Given that our focus in on F/m relationships, I'm usually referencing the woman as the discipliner, but I'm always interested in hearing from people in DD relationships of any sort.   So, what's in it for the party wielding the paddle in your relationship?  What is it that attracts them to the DD lifestyle, or at least makes them open to meeting your desires for one?  Is it a sense of power?  An erotic rush from wielding that power?  Does it satisfy their inner "control freak"?  Or, does it merely result in a better behaved partner and a more harmonious home?

As always, please take a moment to fill out the Guestbook, below, if you haven't done so before or have something new to talk about.  I've added a new question to allow people to give a few details about who they are, if they are comfortable doing that.   Also, please keep our "user generated story" feature in mind, which is accessible from the Links section to the right.  Please consider submitting one of your stories, real or fictional.

The Forum - Question of the Week #33

Hi all.  Welcome back, and welcome to 2014.  I begin the year with a sense of humility.  Something this blog has taught me is that I have absolutely no ability to predict which topics people may find interesting or worthy of a comment.  As I said in my last post, I'm big on resolutions and written goals.   Others out there -- apparently not so much, since the topic got only a handful of responses. Or, perhaps people were otherwise engaged with holiday activities?  In any event, for those of you who made resolutions for 2014, here is hoping you keep at least a few of them and that the upcoming year is fulfilling and productive.

This week's topic is somewhat related to my less than fully successful attempt to get a discussion going around 2014 goals and changes.  As I said in the last post,  I did set several DD and FLR resolutions for myself, one of which was to move a bit toward acting in public in a way that might suggest that She wears the pants in the family.  This would be much less than a public announcement that we are in an FLR relationship.  More like subtle hints that she is the one in charge.   What do people think about that?  Any hints on things we might do?  How open are you about your own FLR or DD relationship?

As always, please take a moment to put something in the Guestbook (see the post immediately below), and please think about submitting something for our user-generated story feature, which is accessible by a link to the right of this post. 

Happy 2014 everyone!

DH