Saturday, November 2, 2013

The Forum - Question of the Week 25

Hi all,

I hope you had a productive week and didn't do anything too "naughty" that would earn you a good beating this weekend.  Unfortunately, I cannot say the same for myself.  Definitely a fairly naughty week. On to this week's question:

A common theme in F/m domestic relationships is that the man often is NOT a natural submissive, particularly out there in the day to day work world.  In fact, it seems that many participants in this lifestyle are very "Type A" personalities who often turn to DD to balance things out.  So, my question is this: If you are naturally domineering, how do you go about fostering a more submissive approach with your significant other?  If you are used to domineering others, how do you develop an inner sense of vulnerability that allows you to accept discipline and use it to effect actual change?

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  1. For myself, being in charge is work and I find that my home life should not be what my work life is like. My wife would be very good in management, but does not want that, her home is what she manages and very well.
    I find it stress relief for her to be the manager. I especially find it proper to be standing naked, getting scolded, and then over her lap for a spanking, one that last long afterwards. I need not find a reason to be spanked, she finds them on her own. Nothing works better than the wife to take care of the household and its members.
    Standing, facing the wall, bare red bottom on display, being treated like a naughty little boy, works for me. She will give me a bath like a naughty little boy, go to bed early, and never is sex a part of this, that is seperate.

  2. I am the alpha type to the T but when my wife becomes assertive and exercises her authority I easily slip into the obedient role without much thinking about it. The more assertive she is about exercising her authority the more obedient I become. Sometimes she can control me so much that my legs begin to shake when I stand in front of her getting scolded. We have also developed some simple rituals that work for her or me or both of us and those rituals help put me in sub space quickly. Maybe the simplest is her confidently taking down my pants and ear marching me to where I am to be spanked. Another is being sent for her brush with instructions to bring it to her. Another is holding my chin in one hand and making me look into her eyes as she scolds me. Corner time which she uses only before spanking also works to make me submissive. Sometimes when in the corner she will come over and put a hand on my bare bottom while scolding or hand spank me while scolding. Emphasizing that she controls my bottom is especially powerful even before my pants are down. All of these and some others make the transition to obedience almost auto pilot

  3. Before we married my wife made it clear that once married she would be in total control of our home and I would focus on my new business. For the first few years my wife was my employee. She set an example. She never questioned my orders and worked hard. When she made an error i corrected her and she accepted my lecture.
    Once the business took off she devoted herself to our home and took charge. I accepted it . Followed her rules and because i am a man and tend to want to control things, discipline was introduced. I came to rely on that and her control at home. I will answer the other questions that will explain things in detail
    thanks again for this site.

  4. Further to my entry of earlier today my wife reminded me to add that along with her tawse and riding crop,she has also acquired a Martinet a small leather whip,which if I am particularly disobedient,she uses on my penis,with an obvious long sex ban.


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