Hi all. Welcome back to The Forum: Disciplined Husbands & Disciplinary Wives. Our weekly gathering of men and women participating or interested in Domestic Discipline and/or Female Led Relationships. I hope you all had a great week.
Last week's topic was about one specific variant of the theme of "openness," namely how open people would be sharing their DD lifestyle with their adult kids. It was a good conversation and, as I anticipated, there were widely varying views. It also ranged into some related areas, such as vindictive spouses letting out the secret during divorce proceedings (a risky move, given that using a paddle in DD fashion could be an assault under the laws in some states -- hint hint to anyone who might think of engaging in such a despicable breach of trust) and, on the other end of the trust spectrum, Peter overcoming his embarrassment to trust a friend in need with the secret to his marital success.
This week's topic is somewhat related. A few weeks ago, Alan observed that it would be good if sometime in the future society was comfortable with a woman being openly in charge and her man being openly submissive. Men are certainly doing their part to hasten that day, with our behavior seemingly going from bad to worse. The plain fact is, the statistics are clear that women are increasingly beating our asses in the race of life, pun very much intended. Women are being admitted to college in greater numbers than men. They are graduating from professional programs in rates greater than men. Just a generation ago, women had virtually no presence in American law schools, but they now graduate in numbers greater than men. Books are even being written about the bad track men are on. A fascinating one to add to your summer reading list is The End of Men: And the Rise of Women by Hanna Rosin. It doesn't leave much doubt about why women seem to be increasingly comfortable saying, "My house, my rules."
Now, all of that is probably music to the ears of the crowd who reads this blog. But, should it be? Would a society that was more openly Female Dominated be a good thing? And, to Alan's comment, what about openness in general about This Thing We Do? Maybe surprisingly for a guy who writes a blog devoted to promoting DD and FLR relationships, I am pretty firmly on the fence about whether more openness would be a good thing. On the one hand, tolerance of other lifestyles is almost always a good thing. But, I'm not really talking about tolerance, so much as genuine acceptance and adoption of DD and FLR lifestyles. The fact is, while the perceived need to keep these things private does inhibit us in publicly expressing our FLR bent, I kind of like the secret aspect of it. Dictionary definitions of "kinky" include "relating to, having, or appealing to unconventional tastes especially in sex." Well, who the hell wants to be conventional? And if everyone starts doing it, then it is by definition, conventional. For me, I am not sure that being in this lifestyle would have quite the same appeal if everyone else was doing it and if it was fully accepted by everyone else out there in the vanilla world.
So, that is today's topic: Would more openness to and greater adoption of DD and FLR lifestyles by the wider society be a good thing? Is it something you want? Or, is part of the attraction to DD and FLR that they are, in fact, not the norm and that there is something unconventional, and dare I say naughty and kinky about them? If the taboo were removed, would that necessarily be a good thing for you and your DD and FLR relationship?
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