Saturday, March 8, 2014

The Forum - Question of the Week #37

Happy Saturday to you all.  Sorry for being a little late in posting today. This week's question comes from one of our readers:

"Are written contracts a good idea? We tried it twice but it didn’t work for us but know another couple who use contracts successfully and read about many others. Contracts made us self-conscious and my wife (who went to law school) thinks they are inappropriate for discipline so we use a anytime any place for any reason system which works well for us."

How about the rest of you?  Have you entered into a contract spelling out our your DD relationship will work?  Think doing so is a good idea?

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  1. When we started, we had a written "Dominant/submissive" contract. Then we upgraded to a "Mistress/slave" contract. After we married, we modified it to a "Strict wife/submissive husband" contract. Since then.... well, now, we operated under known verbal guidelines.
    I don't like 'contracts' since I don't believe there's any way that they are legally binding, but I do believe written rules or guidelines are a good idea.

  2. In the beginning we spoke of a contract,and at one point actually tried to create one. We both finally agreed that if I were to accept my wife as Mistress and head of our household, then her word and desires were the rule. When I displease her I am always aware at once and am prepared to submit. I trust her and my trust has never been violated.

    peter b.

  3. No "written" contract, but an "understanding" that has developed over the years - and that is well understood (and regularly enforced)...

  4. We have one. True, it may not be legally binding, but it sets out in clear terms what we've both agreed to. It may be more symbolic than anything else....but it's a powerful symbol nonetheless. On at least two occasions, I was reminded of what I agreed to when I was being obstinate over something.

    I also find it helpful to have the contract to look at on occasion. As the submissive partner, it is hard to be obedient all of the time. It also is very easy to obey orders we like but equally easy in our society to underplay the dynamic when we don't like something. The contract helps me remember the genuine commitment. Rosa may be loving and playful, but she isn't playing at being in charge. She doesn't hope I'll listen. She fully expects me to obey....period. She understands her responsibilities and she adheres to honorably discharging her duties as 'boss'. It is therefore understood that I will take my responsibilities just as seriously. That signed contract is a good reminder of that.


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