I was hoping that a week off from blogging would yield a flood of new topic ideas. By that measure, the week was a failure. But, the family commitment that led me to take a little pause did get me to thinking about at least one Domestic Discipline topic. It's probably not new, strictly speaking, but I don't recall addressing this particular angle.
But, the impact on the couple isn't really what I want to focus on this week. Instead, my question is, does the desire to maintain the secrecy of the DD or FLR aspects of your relationship change once the kids grow up and become adults themselves? More to the point, should it? Particularly if both parties feel that DD or FLR has been a benefit to their own marriage, isn't that the kind of helpful hint you might want to pass along to your progeny as they go out into the world and face their own marriage and relationship challenges? And, I'm not limiting the possibility of such communication to moms passing on a bit of relationship advice to their daughters. While most of the art that I've found on this topic depicts mothers advising their daughters on the benefits of being a spanking wife in a DD relationship, if you had an adult child who was challenged when it comes to personal behavior, or one who might profit from some enforced boundaries, wouldn't you want to pass that along? Many of the men in these relationships took an honest look at their own behavior and decided to ask their wives to use DD to help them improve. While I don't think I have ever once seen a DD story or drawing with this as the context, it is not hard for me to imagine a caring parent taking their misbehaving adult son aside to counsel him that perhaps he could profit from a strong wifely hand?
Up to this point, I've been more open than my wife is to letting our kids in on the DD aspects of our life, whether my telling them about or or just being more open in her displays of control. While there have been flashes of such openness here and there, as a whole she has not been very open to it. But, we and our kids are points in our respective lives where nothing we do is very likely to damage a developing and largely unformed psyche. And, my wife is very close to our kids. It really wouldn't surprise me if, at some point in the future, one of them might be facing a relationship or personal behavior challenge, and she might decide to impart some words of maternal wisdom. Or, mothers and daughters sharing in the way they often do, maybe someday a few years from now they are out having a nice lunch and a couple of glasses of wine later she decides to spill the beans. Stranger things have happened.
What do you think? Can you see yourself telling one of your adult children about your DD or FLR lifestyle? Why or why not? What would your reaction be if your wife did so on her own?
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