Saturday, March 1, 2014

The Forum - Question of the Week #36

Hi all.  I hope you had a good week.  Mine got off to a bit of a rough start.  In fact, it's been kind of a rough month from a personal behavior and personal growth perspective.  Looking back at all those resolutions I set in early January, I have gotten completely off track on almost all of them, which reflects a personal, but also a disciplinary, failure. 

Which leads me to this week's question.  Are you leading a real FLR or DD relationship on something close to a 24x7 basis?  Are you aspiring to such a relationship?  Or, are you aiming for something in which FLR or DD plays an important but lesser role? Or, is it just "funishment" and you're fine with that?

I hope you all have a great weekend and a good week ahead!  As always, please take some time to fill in the Guestbook (see tab above) if you haven't yet or if you have something new to say.  The Guestbook has a question relating to new topics, and I would really appreciate hearing any ideas you may have.  I seem to be going through a period of modest writer's block and am struggling a bit to come up with anything very interesting to ask.

Dan

9 comments:

  1. A committed 24/7/365 FLR is more a state of mind than anything else. Family, friends, work and so many other things can interfere with portions of the lifestyle but once the stronger the relationship is, those things don't interfere with the emotional or mental aspect of it. Ours seems to work despite so many other distractions. Good Luck.

    Suzanne

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    1. Hi Suzanne. Thanks for the comment. If I may ask, has your relationship always been 24/7/365. I would love to hear how you and your husband got to that state of mind.

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  2. Dan, The answer is that we'd like it to be 24/7! But like you, we get side-tracked by outside influences. The good that that's come out of a recent boot camp weekend, where we reaffirmed our commitment to DD, is that I now have to submit to to Mistress' authority at all times. What used to happen is that along would come an outside influence that ate into my time (and headspace) and I'd bunk off DD. That just damaged Mistress' confidence so what we've now agreed is that no matter what, after working hours I'm 'in service' and subject to DD. So even if I'm working late etc, Mistress' authority comes first. Of course it helps that both of use are savvy enough to realise that we have to work to live so we have to be flexible. If we didn't work, we would embrace DD 24/7. As far is 'funishment', we used to play CP games with role play and uniforms etc - but that's in the past.

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    1. Our impediments sound almost the opposite of yours. We agree frequently that I am always to be subject to DD and that she is to always be in control. I am willing to submit like that, even when it is hard. The real issue is getting her to follow through on doing her part on consistent, regular basis. The inertia that I bring to the equation isn't a lack of commitment but, rather, a business travel schedule that gets in the way of spending any time together, let alone DD time.

      I would love to hear more about the boot camp weekend, if you are willing to share.

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  3. I am in most definitely a 24/7 FLR-DD relationship with my wife; I wear a collar ...really a thin chain and pendant, around my neck, as a symbol of being Her collared slave.
    I told Her I have 'issues' with the connotations of the word 'slave' so She has modified it to call me Her 'slub' (combo of slave and sub). I work full time, She works part time.... we have 'real' lives, but my non-work time is dedicated in service to Her...with lots of DD for 'funishment' and discipline and occasional punishment.

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  4. 24/7 is our goal. Like so many goals, we often fall short. I feel that if this is what I feel is the right way for us, then it is up to me to make sure that i maintain our focus. It seems her control works best when I take on duties and
    chores and perform them to the best of my ability. I feel for her to follow through means I must inspire her with my need for her control.

    peter.b

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  5. When Future Wife picked me up and took me to dinner twenty years ago She said She was looking for a younger male servant (She was definitely a Cougar before it was fashionable). She said this was not a game, She would expect obedience at all times and She would beat me periodically to keep me in line. She told me I would feel pain. On our second date She gave me a firm beating and made me sleep naked on Her floor. Thereafter She summoned me at Her whim used me physically or sometimes just had me wash dishes or do Her laundry. Eventually She moved in and then one day ordered me to marry Her. At our wedding I took a vow to love honor and obey, we were pronounced Woman and husband and She caned my naked behind that evening. To this day Her word is law. However, at times She may indulge me or solicit my opinion. There are times She uses me to conclusion and other times where after satisfying Herself She will say "We're done." She may beat me every day for a week and then not apply Her firm hand for a month. However, I am ALWAYS subject to Her whims. So I would say I am chattel 24/7 365 even if She chooses not to directly exercise authority at all times.

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  6. I would be grateful to be in a completely FLR relationship. In reality, it is an on again, off again situation. Maybe the future will bring something closer.

    I do think I've provoked an immediate reaction, however. My lifelong sweetie is acting as an election worker as we speak. I sent her a totally inappropriate text that generated a relatively quick reply. It is one of the very few times she has told me to be prepared for real punishment.

    I will be naked from the waist down, implements set out, and ready to assume the position as soon as she comes home. I hope it is the next step to a relationship that I want and need.

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  7. It is real, FLR, really started when I was seeing an older lady, I was in my 20's. We enjoyed sex, but she also at times treated me as a son, and when naughty, a trip to the bedroom, and trouble sitting followed. She introduced me to a friends daughter, I did not know this person knew of the spankings, but I was soon seeing her more and my older lady friend was helping the relationship on. One particular day I did something stupid and prior to bed that night she told me this was going to be addressed in only one matter, I looked at her and could say nothing. She put a chair in the middle of the room and told me to stand before her, I did as told and this was the first of many otk spankings to come. Being in just my pj's the bottoms were pulled down and over her lap I went. She told me she knew of the spankings and when she got done with my bottom I told her she spanked harder, she smiled and off to the corner I went. Nothing weird in this relationships, all spankings are done in the bedroom, all private, she bares my bottom, and starts with just her hand and then the hairbrush. She saids I have improved, but along way to go.

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