Saturday, April 25, 2015

The Forum - Vol. 86 -

 Hello all.  I hope you had a good week and are enjoying the weekend. 

This week's topic comes from one of our Disciplinary Wives.  Anna suggested this topic:

"As a wife I would love to know what the ideal or dream scenario men find they think of most [regarding discipline]. That would include place, positon, verbal abuse or not, verbal warnings or not, weapons of choice. Position of choice and to me as a woman what sort of after care would they find would be best for them."

So guys, when you think about your ideal disciplinary relationship or scenario, what does it look like?  Let's also broaden it a bit to include our Disciplinary Wives' ideals and dreams.

Have a great week.

Dan

43 comments:

  1. I have a couple of scenarios, one that does happen but that I would like to have some enhancements to and one that might never happen. the first one is my wife informing me that I have failed to do something or did something without telling her and she instructs me to go to the spanking room, strip and assume the position over a pile of pillows and she will be along soon to deal with me. She should suggest that I select a couple of implements for her pending use to deal with me. When she arrives, she ties my wrists to the headboard and ankles to the footboard, thus restraining me from trying to move when the spanking implement is being used with the result that my bottom is deep red and difficult to sit on. That is the scenario that I would like to experience. The other scenario that may never happen is to be spanked by my wife and her sister, each alternating between spanking and holding me down. I guess I am interested in a safe scenario that has me restrained and spanked thoroughly.
    Baxter

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  2. I will try to answer using Anna’s specifics.
    Position, definitely over her lap, probably leg locked for some of the spanking. That used to happen but now days much more likely is over the edge of the bed, bent over the bathroom sink or over the kitchen island. The cane is rare but bent over for that too.
    Verbal abuse – that is no part of my ideal spanking or reality. But serious scolding does work well with me and was part of my ideal. To maximize the scolding my pants have to be done or naked and I like to be made to repeat the points of the scolding and to explain why I need to be spanked. Also for some reason having her cup my chin while being scolded is powerful and makes me very obedient.
    Verbal Warnings - I think they are a big part of really loving discipline where a woman spanks because she cares and tries to avoid punishing if possible. Nonverbal warning are important too like eye warnings and putting a slightly too firm hand on my bottom when being warned to behave. But warnings should be limited to one, after that it loses credibility
    Weapons of Choice – the hairbrush or very similar tool is my ideal and that sometimes is used but not for really serious punishment. That for several years now has been the bath brush which is not part of any fantasy and I really avoid if possible. The strap which she uses sometimes is not a turn on at all.
    Position of choice. If that means location, my hope was always that I would be spanked anywhere she decided and that has really happened. I have been spanked in every room, one the deck, in the backseat of a car and on a hiking trail.
    After care – I love what she does now which is rub an ointment into my bum if the spanking has been severe and let me calm down while telling me she is proud of me, loves me and that I took my spanking well ( if I did) That’s not so much a ideal as what actually happens. I also like the fact that she usually doesn’t give me corner time after a spanking because it is over and she wants to move on.
    One other point and that is that is that an ideal scenario eventually becomes what you experience and what is important beyond any of the detail is having a loving partner who really takes charge and makes me feel under control and after punishment purged of any guilt
    Alan

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  3. Most of my thoughts about "ideal" DD scenarios focus more on her attitude and demeanor than place, positon, etc. I don't know whether I would characterize it as "verbal abuse," but I do want her to be very verbally controlling and authoritative. "All business" might be the right phrase. Regarding positions, over a desk or table is always a compelling thought. She has never spanked me at my office, but it is something to explore.

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  4. As someone who is not in such a relationship, for me the ideal is more about the significant other's personality - enjoying their position of leadership and doing it responsibly, feeling satisfaction when and after punishing, their always being an implicit threat of punishment in the air, switching (not entirely capriciously, somewhat rationally!) between being very sweet and loving and then demanding.

    Punishment is intimate, someone is being compelled to demonstrate their vulnerability to another. So, for the specifics: OTK, completely private, lots of scolding (I tend to associate verbal abuse with contempt, which I won't have any of), some light thin stingy implement administered over a long period of time, some sort of aftercare, I suppose, but aftercare is mostly about feeling the acceptance of the disciplinarian, and I don't have a particular vision on how that would best go.

    Jake

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    1. Hi Jake. Thanks for joining. I think your first paragraph sums up what a lot of us are looking for, and some lucky ones have found.

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  5. Gosh, my dream scenario that I would never, *ever* want to actually come true would be humiliation, I think. As in, having to stand in the corner while my husband's friends are over, and then being called over to him to remove my underwear and go over his knee for a spanking with a small paddle. Lecturing on my behavior would be involved at first, but then it would turn into a hard spanking that would leave me wailing and bouncing all over his knee, putting on quite the show for his friends, I'm sure.

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    1. Hi Autumn. I think it's great that you have that kind of dream scenario, while drawing a very logical line about doing it in reality. BTW, if I haven't said it before, I very much admire your balls in being open about your spanking relationship.

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  6. I am wondering where you are located. I would like to meet like minded ladies. My bf has experienced DD more then once.

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  7. Since starting FLR years ago I believe we have what we both desire. For punishment I'm told there are some things she has to correct. I'm sent to get the implements out and present myself to her. She scolds me then asks if I feel a spanking is in order. I always say yes Dear. Then she will tell me the position, usually for punishment on the bed flat or over pillows. The spanking is over when she feels it's over. For maintenance she usually says it's time for a reminder of my position. Again I get the implements out and the conversation starts with who is in charge who is submissive and what each means and why maintenance is needed that is something I have to tell her. For play she will say she wants a good sex session but first I need a warm up spanking. Maintenance and play have taken place in every room of the house and in the woods.
    archedone

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  8. For me its fleeting images rather than a coherent scenario. Standing with my pants down in front of her for a lecture, being scolded and spanked in front of a witness, being made to prepare a "punishment enema", bringing her an instrument of correction, asking her to spank me because I have been a bad boy and deserve it, being spanked until I am out of control, promising anything and begging for her to stop, being stripped and put in the corner, having to tell a friend she spanks me, having to confess in detail my "sins", and overall being psychologically overpowered by her dominance and control. being led to a spanking by the hand. Some of these things have happened but they all make up a kaleidoscope of images I have of the ideal spanking

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  9. Dan

    Let me begin by saying thank you for the credit given me regarding the topic. After reading the topic for the
    week yesterday, it led to a great topic of discussion last night with Peter. We had a " date nite" and so we
    had the time to have a glass or wine or three and we agreed that one of our last sessions was the "ideal" in that it was spontaneous and effective. I will let Peter describe it as it seems he recalls details better than I.
    I will say it was truly cathartic for me.
    Anna

    Peter here and this occurred a few sunday's ago. I had gone into my office to put finishing touches on a project. When I left sunday morning I said I would be back for lunch. I got lost in what I was doing and lost
    track of the time. Anna called at 2p.m. to ask how much longer. I was annoyed that she called and before she
    could speak I said something like "I'll be there when I get there" and hung up.Before I could call back to say
    I was sorry I got a call from my boss and got lost in what he was asking for. I didnt call back.
    About an hour ,more or less, Anna stormed into my office. She stood on the other side of the desk, in her hand
    was the black leather belt. Calmly she said " If you want to have a home to come back to get your ass over here. Before I could get around the desk she was there pushing over the desk and what felt like one movement
    pulled my sweats down and began assaulting my ass. They were not random or out of control swats. They were measured and deliberate. At that moment my head swam with a thousand thoughts. First and foremost it
    hurt like hell. Her silence also told me that I had pushed her too far. Now and then the belt would land on a portion of my upper thigh and once when i tried to put my hand there she took the hand and put it back on the desk. " Dont you dare !" she said with conviction and meaning. It seemed to go on forever and my mind was
    sailing through my past rude behavior to her, to my boys, my mom etc. I didnt cry tears but emotionally I was
    sobbing with regret. Finally it was over and i stayed there in position. She grabbed my shoulder and turned me around and stared at me. " If you ever do that again know you will not have a home." With that she turned and
    left. Leaving me alone with my guilt and sorrow for being so thoughtless was almost worse than the bruises tha
    were on me for almost a week. It was the most effective to me because it was so real and I knew I was wrong and she had drawn the line that I will not cross.
    After Anna and I both agreed it was one of the most effective session because she was able to act at once,.So often with a family, the punishment has to be delayed often for a several days. I didnt need a lecture I knew what I did and why I was being punished.
    Peter

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    1. Hi Peter and Anna. Great real life example of the ideal. The emphasis on punishment happening in near real-time, and the very business like, no nonsense approach resonate.

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  10. Hi Peter,
    There is just so much great material in this I am not sure upon what to comment. For anyone, man or woman wanting to know how to make DD work, read Peter's ( and Anna's ) note closely because this is it. Clearly outrageous male behavior practically crying out for discipline, a firm, resolute, but in control wife determined to effectively punish the behavior, followed by quick sharp, painful punishment that is not delayed. This is not easy either for the wife who administers or the husband disciplined but it works in spades
    Alan

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  11. My ideal spanking for my husband has to do with attitude and obedience. Other things like location, his position and the tool or tools I use aren’t very important (although I do like to use a strap and the sound it makes) I want him to submit immediately when I decide a spanking and to be obedient and cooperative through the whole thing. I truly hate resistance and him trying to talk his way out of it or lessen his punishment. Wiggling and some noise are expected. He doesn’t have to be a hero but must keep position and not fight the spanking. I also expect to see some improvement in behavior as a result of chastisement. Not every speaking is a magic wand but he better show improvement and awareness over time. I also expect him to show appreciation for my efforts. He gets no sex for a week after a punishment but my own needs are not ignored. Sometimes we get very close to this ideal but he still needs to work on some things.
    Holly

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    1. HI Holly. Thanks for the comments. We talk a lot on the Forum about the attitude the men want from their wives. It's great to hear about the attitudes one of them expects from us. Thanks!

      Dan

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  12. Hi Dan and Anna –
    Wow, great question. My ideal spanking would begin with my being directed to the bedroom to find and layout Mistress’s implements of discipline. Then I would remove my clothes and kneel in the corner to await her arrival. She would take her sweet time in coming to the room. I would be able to hear her watching TV or chatting on the phone with a friend. I would have to wait without knowing how long I would be required to kneel in that corner with my nose against the wall. Alternatively, she may decide to come to our bedroom but simply recline on our bed and relax, perhaps read a book while all the time I am silent and kneeling, awaiting my Mistress.

    When she is finally ready she tells me it is time. I position myself on the spanking bench and she proceeds to restrain me. This is followed by her placing a gag in my mouth to keep my yelping down. When this is done, she may again choose to wait and enjoy my predicament. Finally the spanking begins. I see several sets of swats, maybe 10-15 at a time, after which she takes a short break. She does not tell me in advance how many sets she has planned. I am totally in the dark as to her plans for me. After say 3-4 sets she is done. At the point she keeps me restrained while she does what she likes for the next 10-20 minutes. She finally returns and releases me. At that point I am to kneel in front of her, kiss her feet, and thank her for disciplining me. She forgives my transgressions that led to the spanking and sends me back to the corner to contemplate my behavior. She sets a timer for a certain duration of which I am not aware, could be 10 minutes , could be 60. I am to remain in the corner, not allowed to touch my backside, until the timer rings. She leaves the room and continues with her day. When the timer rings I dress, pick up the room, and go on with my day, knowing that I have been duly punished and chastened.
    Sometime during the next day or so Mistress will require me to discuss my behavior, why it caused me to be punished by her, and how I intend to change in the future so that I will not be so severely disciplined in the future.

    I know this is not likely to happened, at least not in the near future. But a guy can dream, right?

    paul

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    1. Hi Paull You never know. You're ideal sounds within reach. Keep trying.

      Dan

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  13. As a child I was abused by a boyfriend of my mother. Depending on whom he felt he wanted to abuse, he would sit on my brother or I, pin our arms over our head or down by our body and and strike us in the head, face and upper body with his open palm and fist – at will. We were probably one quarter of his size, and we could not stop it or prevent it from happening. I am aware – now – that that abuse we received was not extreme compared to abuse that other people have received – but to my brother and I, at that time, that abuse felt extreme to us. It was undeserved, and unpreventable. He was a bully. It is not clear to me, even now, whether my mother could not – or simply did not - prevent the abuse, but she did not interfere with it as it was happening, authorities were never notified, and it happened more than once. It felt like we should have had some protection, but we did not get any. The way I dealt with it, at that time, was to say whatever he wanted to hear to get the abuse to stop – but I never had any intention of following through with what I said I would do (or not do). And after that I never wanted to be with or near him. (I believe that is called emotional withdraw).

    I told that story because it explains the limits which I find I – and my wife - must operate under, if we want to avoid my emotional withdraw (from the situation and perhaps on a temporary basis from the relationship) because, unfortunately, it is the way I still deal with what I perceive to be abusive treatment – whether that abuse is extreme physical abuse, extreme verbal abuse or extreme emotional abuse - including punishment or discipline that is too extreme. If the punishment or discipline is abusive, I will say whatever is necessary to get the physical punishment or other abuse to stop – but will not be involved in or perform any of the corrective actions I promised, and I would not seek out emotional connections afterwards.

    But I also believe that if the purpose of the spanking is punishment or discipline – the strokes delivered have to be hard enough to get her point across. So for me, my disciplinarian wife would have to walk a fine line, hard and severe enough to get her point across, but not so extreme as to turn into physical abuse or cause emotional distress.

    To ensure that the discipline has the desired effect on me, my wife would have to give me a hand spanking followed by a paddling with a wood paddle, or on rare occasions, a hand spanking followed by a strapping with a leather belt, all with me nude. The place of the discipline would most likely be the privacy of our home, and most likely in the bedroom.

    The position of the hand spanking would be over-her-knee, with her sitting on the bed, or in a chair. The spanking would be intense and last for three to five minutes. Because of the length – the spanks would not be with all of her strength – but hard enough to “get and keep my attention.” The purpose of the hand spanking – other than causing pain and discomfort - would be to assist me in getting to point of submissiveness. Prior to receiving the hand spanking, my attitude would likely be something like, “Fine, spank me! I don't care. Let me know when it is over.” (I would not actually say that, but that would likely be my attitude). A properly administered hand spanking would change that attitude.
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  14. Continued
    For the paddling, (or the strapping) I would be bent over a chair, with hands on the seat of the chair, feet under the chair, nude and completely exposed with my butt sticking out, and totally vulnerable. (For me, both of those positions – OTK and bent over a chair - maximize my submissiveness to her – as they are not positions that one would usually be in – except to get a spanking). The strokes delivered with the paddle would be harder – hard enough to get her point across - but with a longer amount of time between the strokes (5 to 6 seconds), which would allow me time to feel each stroke – but not with such an intensity that would make me feel I was being abused. Fifty to sixty strokes (so about five minutes) and I would have enough.

    If I agreed with the reason for the spanking – I would probably be at a point of surrender about then – If I did not agree with the reason for the spanking – I would probably not ever actually surrender, and but would apologize to her and agree to comply with her directions in the future.

    I do not think that verbal abuse would be effective in addition to the physical punishment, especially for me as I am sensitive to an abusive situation anyway – it would probably push me closer to actually emotionally withdrawing, but not to the surrender – and since that is not desired, should not be used. Scolding, however, would be effective in getting me to the point of surrender, especially if I was getting scolded for the same reason that I was getting the spanking (the scolding would tend to “keep my head in the game”).

    Verbal warnings, or a reminder before actually earning the spanking, could be effectively used, and would actually increase her perceived authority in the situation – for both of us.

    If the spanking was purely erotic – perhaps foreplay, or just a role play – a less intense hand spanking or slow paddling with a hairbrush would probably get my motor running.

    Aftercare is definitely important. I do not agree – in theory – that corporal punishment causes a permanent change on an adult's behavior, and it does not cause a permanent change in mine. Adults either apply the golden rule (Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you) purposefully and consistently (because they understand its intent) or they do not. (I try to – but I fail to properly apply the rule sometimes). The purpose of my participation in a disciplinary relationship would be to let my wife subordinate me and exert control over me in order to empower her. Her remaining dominant and assertive for the resulting sexual encounter (hope springs eternal), would be worth all of the trouble that I just went through. Therefore the position and sort of aftercare would be chosen by her. Though, perhaps, providing a little loving care for my freshly spanked and very sore backside would be appreciated.

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  15. Dan -- great topic. I loved the varied postings made by your commenters. One thing I would add to my own ideal disciplinary session is a "spanking chair" that would be in our bedroom and used for my discipline. Only my wife would be permitted to sit it. In fact, because of the special nature of the chair she would require me to pay homage to it in some way - -every morning spend 5minutes kneeling in front of it and contemplating my wonderful life as a submissive husband, bowing or doing a curtsy to it every time I passed by it. I love the rituals associated with DD and FLMs. thanks for a great blog.
    S T

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  16. In all honesty, most (though admittedly not all) of my punishments fall into my "dream" scenario. However, if I were to write a "perfect" punishment scenario it would be one of the following two, depending on the severity of the offence. For a typical offense the ideal situation would involve: a clearly broken rule or blatant misbehavior so there is no room for me to rationalize what I've done, which leads directly to....me being in a very contrite state of mind right from the start. Rosa would be very serious. The paddling would be our usual over-the-lap and be quite hard....though not 'too' fast. (My heart races more than I would like even if I am willing to accept the pain.) I would be sternly lectured, but not questioned (I hate that).

    The length would be enough to have me be past the initial sharp pain, and even through the next phase of numbness and well into a third phase where the numbness is replaced by a rawness that additional spanks keep making worse. There would be no aftercare, just a hug and a 'thank you' and sincere apology.

    Afterwards I would be put into my "panties & chaps" outfit and have to wear that most of the day.

    This scenario has happened, but not always as long as I would like. I am not always receptive. Sometimes Rosa can be a bit playful...even with a punishment (which I find distracting). But still, this 'ideal' does occur.

    The second scenario would include everything above except the implement and position. We now have a very serious restraining rack for switchings. Once in it I can't even move an inch out of position and have to take whatever I get. It has been used once for a trial and twice for punishment .....with one being very severe and the other being hard but when I was not mentally receptive (my fault, not hers. I was definitely deserving...just not "there" in my head.)

    Now......as to the fantasy of others being present for the punishment? Honestly? I think I'd like to try it, especially with our one very receptive neighbor who would agree to be a witness in a heartbeat.

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    1. Hi KD. Have fun with the new rack, though I'm sure "fun"is not exactly the word.

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  17. Dan
    I wrote sometime last month. After my business failed I ended up coming to work for my wife in her growing catering business. It was after I came to work for her, discipline entered into our lives. Last weekend we were
    catering a large wedding for a family that was very difficult to say the least. I got more than a bit snarky with the mother of the bride. My wife was furious when to calm the family down she cut a substantial amount of
    money from the bill. For the very first time she delivered my harsh spanking not in the privacy of our home, but in her office at our firm with many of the kitchen and serving help only a few feet away. Of course it was behind
    closed doors, but when it was over and I left the office I realized they all knew my secret. I was humiliated and
    relieved at the same time. Later my wife explained the staff knew how I had behaved to a client and if I had not been married to her I would have been fired. Most important I felt a sense of freedom that I no longer had this
    secret. I realize this is a bit off topic but being exposed was a liberating emotion for me.

    Richard D

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    1. Hi Richard. Wow! That's incredibly embarrassing, though interesting that it also brought relief.

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      I was so nervous writing this that I neglected to mention. A few days later, before the crew of 9 ,
      left for an catering job, my wife gathered the staff and outlined a few things. Then before we left she told the staff that they were aware of my lapse of manners to a difficult client. She then told
      them all that had I not been her husband I would have been fired. It was a second humiliation.
      Richard D

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  18. My fantasy vision of the Disciplinary Wife spanking is the "classic" bare bottomed paddling - otk, with a large wooden hairbrush - and delivered long and hard enough to ensure that it will be an "event to remember". This fantasy derived from a similar spanking I received from an attractive aunt at the age of ten (she did leave my underwear on but pulled them up into the my crack so the buns were bare) - and later reinforced by another such spanking at the hands of an older, kinky woman I dated briefly in my late teens - and then finally by all those spanking stories I read when the public Net came online around 1990 - many of which included that classic otk hairbrushing. Many years later, Susie made those dreams come true on a very regular basis - although the "hairbrush" is usually the legendary Vermont bathbrush that is shaped like a hairbrush but larger, heavier, and with a longer handle for a more powerful swing. I am fortunate that she actually prefers this scenario - she enjoys the intimacy of otk, and the sound of the wooden paddle against bare skin - so most of my spankings are that way, especially maintenance spankings and "minor" punishment. I do get bent over a convenient piece of furniture for the larger paddles and straps when a "major" punishment is called for - and since she knows that is not really my "fantasy scenario", it makes it all the more true punishment. --al

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    1. I'm replying to my own post because I meant to comment on the verbal component as requested. My fantasy does include being scolded and being verbally put in line during the spanking - such as being reminded that I am not so tough now while the paddle is being applied - or being told that she's just gotten started when I'm begging her to stop - or being warned that I won't be sitting down for a week when she's done with me - that sort of thing. Susie knows this quite well and makes good use of it to reinforce the submissive experience of being bare bottom bottom paddled over her knee.

      The other part of the fantasy is being warned of a spanking - or informed that I have one coming when we get home. It's even more powerful when the warning is in code in front of others - or when she swats me on the butt just a little too hard in front of others. Fantasy has become reality in this as well.

      --al

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  19. To Richard D -

    WOW, what an embarrasing, but liberating experience - the ultimate "coming out" for a disciplined husband. In my perfect world, there would be a wooden paddle hanging on the wall in every kitchen - and every wife would know how to use it.

    Carl H

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  20. I'm seeing a lot of OTK and hairbrush., and it leads me to ask if someone, anyone, has had a truly satisfying experience using that method...

    My fantasy is having him naked and FDAU on the bed, I gently tell him what he's neglected to do, and I spank him with a medium weight paddle, having him repeat I will not do ______ until he is left crying and breathless, and then I use my strap-on on him until I reach orgasm, I make him stand in the corner for 30 minutes, and join me in bed and hold me till I fall asleep.

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    1. Fully agree that OTK hairbrush is not the worst punishment, at least not by itself. The bath brush and for some the cane probably fit that. But I can personally testify that getting the hairbrush OTK can be a dammed effective punishment. Maybe we need to define terms here. The hairbrush I am thinking of is not the drugstore variety but two to two and a half inches thick, like a sauna brush or one of Aunt Kays. And OTK isn't necessarily draped over her lap while she is sitting in a straight backed chair ( although quite a few of those have got my attention) but maybe over lap on a couch or on a bed or the back seat of a car. And the punishment is a minimum of 75 cracks and closer to 150.I may be a wimp and freely admit it but that sort of OTK with a hairbrush is a serious spanking for me
      Alan.

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    2. Merry, Susie and I both find the otk-hairbrush spanking model to be a very effective and satisfying experience, but only if performed on a bed or couch - we have found the spanking chair position uncomfortable for both of us. As I have posted before, we both appreciate the intimacy and psychological impact of otk, and physically Susie delivers quite the effective paddling in an otk position - although she normally uses the heavier and longer Vermont bathbrush instead of a regular hairbrush, which is much more lethal spanking instrument. The otk with a smaller hairbrush (especially the plastic ones) is not as effective. Now the only hairbrush she uses on me are the wooden ones that she keeps in both the cars - which she employs as needed when we are out and about. Susie also finds otk more suited for the longer spanking sets that she prefers - I almost never receive less than a hundred whacks and sometimes in excess of two hundred. She almost always has me crying with the first 30 whacks or so (following the warmup) and then likes to keep me sobbing as she continues the spanking for a more extended period - she feels that this is an important part of the spanking experience. I should add that I only find the spanking "satisfying" after is done and in retrospect - when I am about 50 whacks into the spanking, I only want the damn thing to be over with!

      Susie also discovered the strap-on a few months into our journey, and now puts it to good use once or twice a month following a hard paddling and large otk enema. Similar to your style, she continues until she has an orgasm - or two or three (she uses a vibration device with the strap-on). --al

      After composing this off line, I read Alan's reply - and my experience is very similar to his. --al

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    3. Continuing the spanking with the receiver in full cry is a great detail. Very humbling. It proves beyond any contention that one party has lost the battle of wills, and that they are indeed subject to the authority of their disciplinarian. It's the removal of the last bit of dignity, complete loss of composure, a spectacle where they cannot keep anything in reserve. This is the key element in my own dream scenario.

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    4. Hi Anonymous. Great detail, and a part of many "ideals."

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  21. Not in our case. Tried OTK in the beginning, but it wasn't effective. I do wish it was, but it isn't. At least not for us.

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    1. Agreed! And that is my point. Why the fantasy when it's so impractical? (well, unless you are child-size at least)

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    2. Merry - Alan and I would both seem to agree, that otk seems to work best when it is done on a bed, couch, or back seat (stretched out instead of draped over a chair). And that is also requires something more than a simple drug store hairbrush to be effective - such as a really stout hairbrush, bathbrush, or paddle. And, finally, that it is well suited for and most effective in an extended set of whacks (100+). Under those conditions, at least some of us have found otk to be effective. :-) --al

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  22. As a wife who spanks and has for 16 years I don't have an ideal scenario other than what it takes to do the job. I spank him because he asked for it after a lot of discussion,because he seems to need it to function well and because it is very good for our relationship and sometimes my mental health. But as far as an ideal way to do it that has changed from mostly hand spanking in the beginning to a rattan cane now abetted by a leather strap. But I would spank him with a peanut butter sandwich over a park bench if the results were the same. I think scenarios are mostly male fantasy and the quicker you get rid of those fantasies and concentrate on real the faster spanking your husband will pay off for you

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    1. Thanks Anonymous Wife. Hope you'll continue to stop by!

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  23. We don't go for "scenarios" or any make-believe stories. I spank my husband when he needs/deserves it. and there is (usually) not much to discuss about it - other than the "specifics". This also applies to me on the (more infrequent) occasions when I am the one being spanked. Do we have "fantasies" about it? Probably, but we hardly ever verbalize them. No "role play" is involved - or needed - from either of us.

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  24. When I foolishly told my wife that housework was a womans job she had me over her lap with my trousers
    and boxers down. After getting a well deserved spanking I tearfully put on my wifes pink satin baby doll
    pyjamas, and told as it was a womens job I can show my respect by wearing such frillies when doing my
    housework ! Contrite husband

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