I hope you had a great week and have girded yourselves to brave the holiday shopping crowds. I am so far behind this year, I'm dreading walking around aimlessly, hoping that the one great gift for each person in my life will just magically present itself, thereby saving me from resorting to the dreaded gift card. Given my behavior, I know what I should be getting, repeatedly, before, during and after Christmas, if Santa Claus really does separate us into Naughty and Nice groupings.
We have now closed another poll, and this one has a special resonance for me. The topic was tears, specifically, have you ever been brought to tears by an adult spanking. And, if so, was it just a few small tears of full-blown sobbing. The results are:
Yes - only a few tears
Yes - real sobbing
Once again, our poll results are somewhat counter to what I would have predicted. I have always suspected that if there was one area where disciplinary fantasy disconnects from disciplinary reality, it probably was crying. Reading about "real" disciplinary spankings in forums like the Disciplinary Wives Club, one would think that vritually every well-delivered disciplinary spanking leave the husband racked with sobs and free-flowing tears. Yet, the last time we covered this topic (early in the history of this blog), most of the commenters indicated they had not been brought to tears. We now have a bit more critical mass, and the results above may be a little more indicative of what happens in real life, and I am a little suprised that the distibution is almost 50-50 between the tearful and non-tearful. I also am very surprised that over a quarter of respondents say they have been reduced to real sobs.
I said this topic has some special resonance for me. To such an extent that the prospect of crying was probably the most significant driver of the emotional reaction I had when I discovered the DWC website. The stories of men being brought to tears over their wives knees fascinated me and had an undeniable attraction, but it was an attraction that was also utterly and completely terrifying. The thought of letting go of control so thoroughly that I would sob in front of my wife while she paddled me was anxiety-inducing to an extent that is really hard to over-estimate. Yet, the prospect of experiencing that kind of catharsis was also a major impetus for my decision to broach the topic of DD with her. But, in doing so, I really did half-hope that she would not be interested, because the prospect of being brought to tears just terrified me so much.
So, here we are many years later, and I still have not cried, even as the result of spankings that I think anyone would acknowledge fall into the "severe" range. While it is all speculation on my part, I think there are many things that account for it, including: (1) I have a lead bottom and a weirdly high pain threshold; (2) my wife doesn't do a lot of stern lecturing beforehand, which might reduce mey resistance emotionally before the spanking even starts; (3) deep-seated fear of embarrassment that keeps me from quite letting go fully and completely; (4) spankings that are severe in terms of impact but not always in terms of duration, because my bottom starts to bleed (usually very minor, but enough that it makes her stop).
Alan alluded to that last one in his comment yesterday, as I do think that one thing that would help me get to the point of actual release is the prospect that a spanking that I am already having a hard time taking is likely to go on, and on and on. I also think the choice of tool can be important, because some of our bigger, "thuddier" paddles tend to make my bottom go numb pretty quickly, which is counter-productive.
Alan also talked about his wife's reaction to tears and that she not only is comfortable with him crying but encourages it. My wife and I have discussed this several times, and I think her attitude has progressed a lot as she has become more comfortable in her role, going from acknowledging that my crying might disturb her because it it shows is hurting me "too much," to getting over that and being OK if I do cry at some point, to mildly disappointed that it has not happened yet.
So, with that very long-winded opening, tell us your situation, hopes and fears where tears are concerned. Have you been brought to tears? Would you like to be? If you have, were there certain things that enabled you to get there? If not, what do you think is holding you back?
I hope you all have a great week.