tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post695236794088889032..comments2024-03-29T03:08:12.803-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 218 - The ConversationDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-28694541924606009242017-08-19T11:25:19.492-07:002017-08-19T11:25:19.492-07:00Bill, it's great that you read it together. I ...Bill, it's great that you read it together. I hope you will encourage your wife to comment. We so desperately need more female voices giving the woman's perspective on this.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-40952017763968571482017-08-19T11:19:30.103-07:002017-08-19T11:19:30.103-07:00If it were not for this blog, and the comments of ...If it were not for this blog, and the comments of others on here, My wife and I would not be talking much at all about what we expect or get out of our DD.<br />Tina, you are very similar to our situation. We entered this through spanking games, mainly for her bottom but moved on to DD mainly for me. We sit and read the blog together and learn a lot about each other along the way.<br />BillAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-69245071671351353542017-08-19T11:19:21.744-07:002017-08-19T11:19:21.744-07:00Sounds like a great outcome so far. Congratulatio...Sounds like a great outcome so far. Congratulations. Thanks for sharing!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-39908619916269176382017-08-19T07:26:02.715-07:002017-08-19T07:26:02.715-07:00Hello Dan and company - we talked about DD after I...Hello Dan and company - we talked about DD after I had an amazing erotic spanking and I noticed how clear my head felt. After the 30 minute paddling during a sex session, I felt myself more emotionally engaged with being a quality husband, attentive, empathetic, humble. It hurt for about 3 days, and I felt so much more energized to do things around the house. So, I asked her if we could do weekly sessions for a period of time to discuss my poor household manners -- things that had pissed her off. We went weekly for 4 weeks with the 4th week resulting of a spanking of a lifetime causing me to feel truly traumatized for a day. After my head cleared and I thanked her. We decided to do it as a more ongoing thing. Telling her that this would be her year, she is having her 50th in December, I asked her to take the lead, make decisions, do as she pleased and correct me when I fall short. It's been an amazing 9 months. Still growing more in love then ever. "Genius is the capacity for receiving and improving by discipline." (George Eliot) RCBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-35598421335799954042017-08-19T06:38:22.254-07:002017-08-19T06:38:22.254-07:00Chasity has ratcheted up my wife control of me alo...Chasity has ratcheted up my wife control of me along with the punishments. The combination of discipline and control of releases has given her more than the 50-50 control described above, but I enjoy the constant sexual tension and it results in all my focus being on her, and finding ways to please her, since she holds the key to my heart and another precious location.<br /><br />John Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-70673920816343525192017-08-18T21:22:24.908-07:002017-08-18T21:22:24.908-07:00As I told you Sean, you are done. Go somewhere el...As I told you Sean, you are done. Go somewhere else.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-77046327844858384082017-08-18T20:53:57.709-07:002017-08-18T20:53:57.709-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-85463540899179934692017-08-18T11:51:29.354-07:002017-08-18T11:51:29.354-07:00Hi
This note is for Respecting Mistress, particula...Hi<br />This note is for Respecting Mistress, particularly the comment " Dread is probably too strong a word but I certainly had lost my enthusiasm for corporal punishment." I think most of us have been there either when first acclimating to severe spanking or maybe from being repeatedly punished for some chronic misbehavior. But my understanding is that discipline ended for you at least temporarily when you came to feel the dread for corporal punishment. What I don't understand is why you didn't modify your behavior at that point or why you were not able to modify it or maybe why you didn't just give in to the spanking and the feelings it was raising in you. For me something like this happened twice in my spanking history, one pretty early when I thought I couldn't bear any more of her paddle and then much later with my wife when we were trying to get masturbation under control. But both times something just took over and made me want to submit to the punishment and afterward stop the behavior that was getting me spanked.Please know I am not criticizing you at all. I just want to know why spanking didn't work for you in those situations when things you have reported and said otherwise in your blog and on here match my own experience so closely> I do understand that much or all of your discipline was using a heavy cane and my experience with the cane though not limited has never included heavy caning. So maybe that is something I just don't understand.But if you know please write a little about why spanking didn't work for you. Most of the discussions on here are about successes but we learn too from what doesn't turn out sometimes<br />Alan <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-26956604033674469782017-08-18T10:28:48.989-07:002017-08-18T10:28:48.989-07:00This whole 'chastity thing' is interesting...This whole 'chastity thing' is interesting (and off topic but hey, ho) <br /><br />Very early in our DD journey we agreed that all 'release' would be only by her agreement. I signed up to that virtual chastity 'lock' and have to confess any transgressions prior to a punishment session. I have also signed up to absolute honesty and so the embarrassment of the confession combined with the delicious teasing that we both seem to enjoy has made this as robust as an actual physical device. And I know that she adores this always on, virtual control. TBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-1875670501537988072017-08-17T15:01:54.920-07:002017-08-17T15:01:54.920-07:00Tina, not sure why you should feel guilty about th...Tina, not sure why you should feel guilty about the orgasms: - as far as I'm concerned, if the paddling achieves that purpose for my wife, so much the better.<br /><br />I communicate with my wife in a similar way, though not with date evenings. With us, spanking precedes coitus, so as to get all negative feelings out the way first. We tend to catch up on such subjects after then or during a tender embrace the next morning before getting up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-90887523532931680152017-08-17T14:50:47.111-07:002017-08-17T14:50:47.111-07:00Agreed Fred, I don't know why people have to f...Agreed Fred, I don't know why people have to feel that a man taking a spanking means he is not being the leader of the family. In my view, he is, as he is taking the initiative to bring harmony when there has been conflict and admit he was in the wrong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-14723399559043517462017-08-17T14:47:35.710-07:002017-08-17T14:47:35.710-07:00Peter, I'm glad someone else understands this....Peter, I'm glad someone else understands this. Some people think submitting to CP makes them less of a man, but I have always been of the view that a big man will bend over and take it where necessary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-82478290843427375562017-08-16T12:17:38.510-07:002017-08-16T12:17:38.510-07:00Regarding behaving like a college frat boy . . . b...Regarding behaving like a college frat boy . . . been there, done that. And, not just in college. Many of the frat boys I went to college with *still* act that way without regret or any desire to change. You and I and those like us in these kinds of relationships at least try to grow and change and are willing to take some pretty bad consequences when we fail. <br /><br />Sorry about the bruise. I richly deserve one for some behavior last week that has not yet been addressed<br />Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-61469942781958788542017-08-16T10:15:07.542-07:002017-08-16T10:15:07.542-07:00Dan
Hesitated for a few days, wondering if I shou...Dan<br /><br />Hesitated for a few days, wondering if I should comment this week. Anna's description of where we were after the boys were born is honest and true.. I dont offer anything I write today as an excuse for my behavior. I was and still am overwhelmed from time to time often by everyday life.<br />For awhile I lost my vision and behaved I confess like a college frat boy. When we began DD it seemed to be the solution. I dont feel I have lost anything. I truly feel I am man enough to bend over and accept the punishment I have agreed upon without becoming a wimp. <br />Do I love it NO! do I need it YES! <br />What I dont have after a DD session is any guilt for what I did to earn it. Does that make sense. I like that Anna is my best buddy as well as my wife. <br />Peter<br />* Written with a small bruise on my left cheek. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-820056288528650222017-08-16T08:58:23.234-07:002017-08-16T08:58:23.234-07:00:-):-)Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-3975900360806206042017-08-16T08:44:13.828-07:002017-08-16T08:44:13.828-07:00I don't call her "blokey" for no rea...I don't call her "blokey" for no reason LOL ( she does the DIY too). Cheers GLM.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-18604671581409811212017-08-16T05:33:34.589-07:002017-08-16T05:33:34.589-07:00Same here with my wife not especially interested i...Same here with my wife not especially interested in reading about spanking stuff unless I bring something to her attention. But then again, she spent all those years conscientiously running her website. so that was probably enough :)Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-39053873884032371572017-08-16T05:31:00.011-07:002017-08-16T05:31:00.011-07:00I like how Anonymous put that. We did not spank ou...I like how Anonymous put that. We did not spank our kids either.Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-27564780598047249492017-08-15T20:11:20.953-07:002017-08-15T20:11:20.953-07:00Blaze, It is obvious he is under your control with...Blaze, It is obvious he is under your control with your knowledge and experience with the tawse and strap. My question is about the chastity device. How is your research progressing? Has he mentioned anything about being in chastity. More info on this would be helpful as I have volunteered to be placed in chastity in our relationship.Spanked Cowboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03598628621654103370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-17811362437804139362017-08-15T19:42:57.503-07:002017-08-15T19:42:57.503-07:00That's great, Blaze! Thanks for joining in.
...That's great, Blaze! Thanks for joining in.<br /><br />DanDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-39198244481172885362017-08-15T19:41:35.496-07:002017-08-15T19:41:35.496-07:00Also, it's not quite accurate to say I don'...Also, it's not quite accurate to say I don't get feedback on journals. She does, in fact, often change something or ramp up on in response to some comment. She just doesn't usually verbalize what she is thinking about the journal entries.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-85925941993083341782017-08-15T19:38:24.534-07:002017-08-15T19:38:24.534-07:00The ironic part is, for two years I didn't tel...The ironic part is, for two years I didn't tell her about the blog, because I wanted to be able to talk openly. I then told her about it, and now I can talk just as openly, because she doesn't read it. :-)Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-28408222662512622432017-08-15T19:33:22.967-07:002017-08-15T19:33:22.967-07:00Hi Dan,
When I decided that I would no longer acce...Hi Dan,<br />When I decided that I would no longer accept my husband's angry outbursts I waited for him to calm down and to offer hisi usual apology. Only this time I said that my acceptance of his apology was conditional upon him giving me the right to discipline him to correct his bad behaviours. When hubby asked how I intend to discipline him I told him that I had already ordered a tawse and that I had been researching male chastity devices. The stern tone I used in this conversation ensured that there was no debate only meek acceptance. Coming from a Scottish family where the strap was frequently used I was quite comfortable with introducing discipline to our relationship.Blazenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-60226535435546724802017-08-15T13:07:52.146-07:002017-08-15T13:07:52.146-07:00Dan: Thanks for your reply. To me communication is...Dan: Thanks for your reply. To me communication is at the heart of why my life with Tim is so amazing. By us exchanging information about what works and by him accepting that punishment helps him refocus his attitude and priorities we have been able to identify how a real punishment should be administered. I'm actually sorry that you don't seem to have the same ability for open two way communication with your wife - it's a precious gift for both of us. If my hubby simply completed a journal and handed it to me with no further communication from me I would feel strongly that I was failing him. I want him to be a stronger man and I need feedback to understand what I am doing is truly effective. By the way if my man ever wrote on a public blog that I was not communicating with him effectively he would not be sitting for a month. I'm not sure how you get away with it Dan - or maybe you don't :) We even took a video of a recent punishment and sat together to watch and we both described how we each felt at various stages of the punishment. Tim explained which strokes hurt the most and how at certain stages he found it difficult to cope. He also told me which implements were extraordinarily painful. He understood that I was logging these in my mind to use when he deserved a serious whipping. I was actually surprised at how hard I was strapping and caning his poor backside but he was excited to see the punishment from my side. I was a little embarrassed to have a series of my orgasms so clearly visible on the video but all of this shared information has created a stronger awareness of each others reactions and provides a blueprint for effective punishments (or play time). <br /><br />Spanked Cowboy: Thanks for your response. It make me happy to see that your wife openly communicates with you - I must admit I was wondering if I was the only one that expects/requires to address and amend the rules to our relationship through communication. Even though I now take responsibility to decide how hard and how long Tim's punishment is to be I trust our communication to ensure that I do nothing to damage his ego or self worth. We tried discussions directly after a serious caning but we were too anxious to get to bed and talk was not high on our agenda. <br />Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11839716738950543162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-13570395022268405462017-08-15T12:47:54.263-07:002017-08-15T12:47:54.263-07:00Hi TB. Very similar to my experience, other than ...Hi TB. Very similar to my experience, other than you used a letter. You say the initial conversation was scary for you, while she took it in stride. It seems like that is almost always the way it works, right? We are reluctant to raise this with our wives and scared of how they may react, then most of them seem to be open to at least trying it. And, of those who try it, most seem to take to it to one degree or another. Not all, but most. Though, I'm obviously working from a very limited dataset in asserting that. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.com