tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post6401359266305699184..comments2024-03-28T08:50:32.256-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 104 - Spanking FrequencyDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-83317042091512177332016-06-05T18:28:50.944-07:002016-06-05T18:28:50.944-07:00Wow! Sounds like your wife is a real disciplinaria...Wow! Sounds like your wife is a real disciplinarian!!!Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08363729646839642487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-29300904712183069032015-10-08T18:35:42.512-07:002015-10-08T18:35:42.512-07:00Couldn't respond before, but I ended up spend...Couldn't respond before, but I ended up spending a week trying to carefully change at the gym. Wife's position was that I earned the spankings, so the gym was a problem I earned. This is not to mention that it just plain hurt to sit or even pull up my underwear for more than a week. Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17662191675465778825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-61840273072708545712015-10-08T18:25:53.271-07:002015-10-08T18:25:53.271-07:00That was me. Open blisters, bruises - it wasn'...That was me. Open blisters, bruises - it wasn't pretty. But to those who think it extreme, it is what we agreed to together. I deserved it and needed it, and my wife now has equal power that lets her say and do what she feels and thinks. And we're happier and closer than ever.DWC Frednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-90256238022849622112015-10-08T18:16:28.384-07:002015-10-08T18:16:28.384-07:00Couldn't respond before, but I ended up spend...Couldn't respond before, but I ended up spending a week trying to carefully change at the gym. Wife's position was that I earned the spankings, so the gym was a problem I earned. This is not to mention that it just plain hurt to sit or even pull up my underwear for more than a week. Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17662191675465778825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-28718459651049608912015-09-23T03:45:03.056-07:002015-09-23T03:45:03.056-07:00Hi, my wife punishes me quite often . at least twi...Hi, my wife punishes me quite often . at least twice most months. I stand in font f her as she lectuures me as she takes my trousers and underpants off, smiling as my erect penis bounces free and she takes it in hand and leads me into our former store room-now the 'Punishment Room! in the corner we have a cupboard where the canes and martinet are kept with some slippers ! She likes to give me a warm up spanking over her knees on my well rounded bottom, then orders me to stand facing an old school desk whilst she selects a cane Then over the desk I go! She teases me with lighter strokes before starting to make the cuts really sting, raising painful red stripes! She pauses every 4 /5 strokes to exmine my buttocks and thigths squeezing my painful burning cheeks which is like another cut of the cane1 I get theses canings abou18 times a year the rest are slipper spankings or the strap ! Then she likes to apply the martinet quite often with its thing leather strips which go everywhere and she insists I stand with legs well apart so she can make the strips go right into my bottom cleft stinging the sensitive sides of the cleft and even reaching near my anus! I love her then examining my burning bottom and she delves into my cleft and some times rubs in some soothing cream! Finally I get corner time of up to half an hour gettingmy bum slapped if I attempt to rub my burning bum ! We do enjoy these punishments ,some are fun others are really punshments! M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-43836335477077304212015-09-18T17:38:25.258-07:002015-09-18T17:38:25.258-07:00- -al
I always say this one is for all the times ...- -al<br /><br />I always say this one is for all the times I put up with bad behavior and didnt or couldnt punish at the moment... glaqd you took that well . tell your lady to give you 5 for me<br /><br />anna<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-65755177855035425952015-09-18T17:25:10.786-07:002015-09-18T17:25:10.786-07:00Anna, I am so sure that is true - because it is ce...Anna, I am so sure that is true - because it is certainly true in our home. It probably just has to do with our inherent bad boy behavior. And, without a doubt, almost every "out of frustration" spanking I receive is brought about by my bad behavior. But, there is a spanking now and then - even by Susan's own admission - that is just because she needs to work out her own frustrations on my bare behind. And that really is ok, too, it's a small price to pay for all the disciplinary lifestyle adds to our lives. --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-43615660549511839542015-09-18T08:00:52.212-07:002015-09-18T08:00:52.212-07:00Dan
could not help but mention after reading --al&...Dan<br />could not help but mention after reading --al's comment that when i personally am frustrated and i take it out on Peter's bottom is us usually his bad behavior that drives me to it. Just a thouight!<br /><br />lovinglyu annaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-76823428667246249702015-09-17T18:13:03.299-07:002015-09-17T18:13:03.299-07:00Dan - great point about the experienced DD wife ev...Dan - great point about the experienced DD wife eventually becoming comfortable enough with the idea of spanking that she will sometimes use it just to express her displeasure with him. I might even take it a step further and say that she might even occasionally spank just for her benefit, even if the hubbie has in no way earned a spanking - taking out her frustrations on his bare behind, so to speak.<br /><br />I've actually read posts to this effect on various forums throughout the years. In fact, one of the earliest "real life" stories on the DWC site, "A Husband's Essay", includes a reference to this. My own wife, Susan, freely admits to working out her own personal frustrations on my backside from time to time (but never above maintenance level) - I just accept it as an occasional hazard of the lifestyle. This general theme of the wife spanking out of general frustration with her husband or due to her own frustrations might make for an interesting topic one week. --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-49011390130964634462015-09-17T14:39:17.584-07:002015-09-17T14:39:17.584-07:00Hi Marisa. I don't doubt that we males have o...Hi Marisa. I don't doubt that we males have our own cycles. My stress level definitely ebbs and flows somewhat of its own accord and not entirely as a reflectio of what I have happening at work, etc. And, my misbehavior very often is stress related. Also, I do think that over time wives can just become more demanding, so one behavior gets better but she is now focused on a different area to correct. Like Jay, I used to be concerned that after a few years of this,I was still being spanked regularly and whether that suggested it is a game. But, I don't think so now. To some extent, our personalities are so hard-wired, and our circumstances change so little, that it's just hard to fundamentally change who you are and what you do on big issues. But, I've also come to believe, that part of the reason that DD works is because, while it often starts as something focused on "making him better," it often morphs into an outlet for her to express her displeasure and vent her anger, regardless of whether he actually changes. As one commenter said, it "evens the playing field."<br /><br />Thanks, as always, for dropping by.<br /><br />DanDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-31682289158901638752015-09-17T14:31:32.898-07:002015-09-17T14:31:32.898-07:00I doubt it. If they were both lawyers, neither wo...I doubt it. If they were both lawyers, neither would be capable of letting the other one be the Top. ;-)Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-76405569804943007912015-09-17T11:48:04.847-07:002015-09-17T11:48:04.847-07:00Hello Dan,
Anna's behavior cycle for Peter is...Hello Dan,<br />Anna's behavior cycle for Peter is familiar to me although with Jay it is somewhat longer , about three weeks. Add another week on average I try to talk him down before spanking and he schedules a trip over my lap or worse about monthly. When we started we both thought the number of spankings would naturally decrease over time. I remember because it was very important to him that he would make progress. He asked me if there was a time he wouldn't get spanked and I told him spanking would probably always be needed but as he learned spanking would get rare . I was wrong about that They did decline after the first couple of years but that's partly because I had to spank him as much as twice a week in the beginning. They did not get rare but they have averaged monthly for several years now leading me to believe there is a cycle working underneath. He has gone up to three months without getting in trouble when my mother stayed with us and several times he went about two months. But that monthly cycle is the norm for us and I don't expect it to change <br />MarisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-76266746363068243802015-09-17T06:39:11.928-07:002015-09-17T06:39:11.928-07:00With us it also ebbs and flows.......because that&...With us it also ebbs and flows.......because that's just how we as people live life in general. We can get very intense for a while and there have been times when I'm spanked for punishment multiple times a day. And then, for a number of reasons, we will go for weeks without any. I think this is just the way things are. If I were to answer the same frequency question on just about anything, the pattern would be similar.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-38488486948411329072015-09-17T06:37:40.304-07:002015-09-17T06:37:40.304-07:00I was intrigued by Alan's formal Review proced...I was intrigued by Alan's formal Review procedures and their use of a spreadsheet to for detailed accuracy. He said his wife is a lawyer so I imagine it must be next to impossible to conceal anything; unless he is also a lawyer - which I think is a strong possibility. :)Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-69267368302898192932015-09-16T18:57:54.508-07:002015-09-16T18:57:54.508-07:00Hi Anna. I hope you are doing well. I absolutely...Hi Anna. I hope you are doing well. I absolutely agree that all you wives are writing a very helpful book to guide others. Thanks, as always, for sharing!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-61331581693121855722015-09-16T18:55:06.257-07:002015-09-16T18:55:06.257-07:00Agreed. Great solution, al.
Agreed. Great solution, al.<br /><br />Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-5487231312098739492015-09-16T18:50:36.276-07:002015-09-16T18:50:36.276-07:00I've spent the entire week trying to dodge eye...I've spent the entire week trying to dodge eyes in the gym.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-55796033208303530072015-09-16T17:10:02.976-07:002015-09-16T17:10:02.976-07:00Hello Al!
Right now? A few times a week, mostly ma...Hello Al!<br />Right now? A few times a week, mostly maintenance. He tends to be "good"Merry Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13605968415958113942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-36612580511750670032015-09-16T16:38:26.652-07:002015-09-16T16:38:26.652-07:00I will write on the weekend to let you know how I ...I will write on the weekend to let you know how I fare. Unfortunately she has learned to ignore my pain and teach me the lesson she wants to teach. And she has promised that tomorrow night will be the worst so far. Fortunately on Friday I won't be at the gym.DWC Frednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-78041577275770425422015-09-16T12:50:44.685-07:002015-09-16T12:50:44.685-07:00Forgot to say I hope you realize how much good thi...Forgot to say I hope you realize how much good this blog does. Thank you !<br /><br />annaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-64505355040654847882015-09-16T12:49:04.515-07:002015-09-16T12:49:04.515-07:00Dan
After tracking Peter's mood swings, it see...Dan<br />After tracking Peter's mood swings, it seems on an average of every 12 to 15 days he begins to act up or out.<br />We have a scheduled Friday nite alone. Our boys spend Friday nights at my folks. We go to dinner and if I sense Peter is beginning to act during that week I mention it. Often talking about what is on his mind mends his behavior. When it doesnt he knows the next friday alone he will be punished. Punishment now requires bare bottomed spanking followed by at least an hour of corner time. In addition no sex that evening.<br />In addition when he truly loses it like he did a few months ago when at work he yelled and then hung up on me.<br />I went at once to his office with his belt and a paddle and there on a late sunday afternoon made sure he felt <br />every bit of my anger. Those kinds of outbursts now only occur I would say 5 or 6 times a year. I want to say that after that last incident he acted out badly a few days later and let me say he received bruises on his bruises. Dan we wives are, many of us, writing the book on this with their husband. Peter and I more and more find that the more open we are the better it all works. If I put a number I would say a total of 25 to 30 spankings <br />a year.<br /><br />Anna<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-69953805069265163262015-09-16T10:52:03.700-07:002015-09-16T10:52:03.700-07:00Hello -al,
I must say this is simply a brilliant s...Hello -al,<br />I must say this is simply a brilliant solution to those kinds of problems. Kudos to Susan for instituting it. I have done something like this but not as successfully. I love the idea anger gets removed from the situation for both parties and HE has to come to me asking for a spanking <br />Marisa Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-22104202607677524492015-09-16T06:19:54.741-07:002015-09-16T06:19:54.741-07:00On those increasingly rare occasions where we have...On those increasingly rare occasions where we have a "real" fight - with anger and hurt feelings and such, Susan will walk away at some point and tell me to let her know when I am ready for my spanking. There is never any doubt that I will have a butt blistering coming when we have a fight like this - but this prevents me from having to submit when I might be too angry to (despite years of conditioning) and prevents her from spanking me in anger. But it does put me in the unenviable position of having to ask for a punishment spanking (or - if I'm lucky - and it wasn't too bad a fight - maybe just an attitude adjustment spanking - but I won't know until I'm across her lap or bent over). But she won't move on until I have been soundly spanked. The fight never just gets simply dropped - it ends with me being spanked. However, it does clear the air and restore harmony (and encourages me to avoid fights since I am NOT going to win and am just going to end up being spanked when it is all said and done). -alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-74840057274684637762015-09-16T06:04:00.860-07:002015-09-16T06:04:00.860-07:00Hi Merry - hope you are enjoying the replies. So ...Hi Merry - hope you are enjoying the replies. So tell us, how often does Shilo get spanked? (outside the hiatus due to the health issues - and glad to hear he is improving!) --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-63990142898723025042015-09-15T22:49:20.714-07:002015-09-15T22:49:20.714-07:00Ah! I have a cure for that! If I'm angry, I pu...Ah! I have a cure for that! If I'm angry, I put Shilo in the corner until I'm calm. I NEVER spank him when I'm angry. It defeats the purpose!Merry Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13605968415958113942noreply@blogger.com