tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post5494635961121609963..comments2024-03-29T03:08:12.803-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 208 - Punishment Versus DisciplineDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-77523737517786472172017-07-07T13:48:17.617-07:002017-07-07T13:48:17.617-07:00Excellent blog you have got here.. It's diffic...Excellent blog you have got here.. It's difficult to find high quality writing like yours these days.<br />I truly appreciate individuals like you! Take care!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-29812787619220510752017-06-13T07:26:17.307-07:002017-06-13T07:26:17.307-07:00I tend to agree, there's no real difference be...I tend to agree, there's no real difference between discipline and punishment. It's like "further" and "farther."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13285753003650976494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-44837585991861931132017-06-04T16:31:09.094-07:002017-06-04T16:31:09.094-07:00I've always liked that quote. While Machiavel...I've always liked that quote. While Machiavelli may be seen today as, well, Machiavellian, his advice on how to acquire power and maintain it is pretty hard to refute. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-22781412560309540652017-06-04T06:51:42.108-07:002017-06-04T06:51:42.108-07:00In the book "The Prince" by Machiavelli,...In the book "The Prince" by Machiavelli, he says "A controversy has arisen about this: whether it is better to be loved or feared, or visa versa. My view is that it is desirable to be both loved and feared; but it is difficult to achieve both and, if one of them has to be lacking, it is much safer to be feared than loved....For love is sustained by a bond of gratitude which, because men are excessively self-interested, is broken whenever they see a chance to benefit themselves. But fear is sustained by a dread of punishment that is always effective."Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-8850776264617733182017-06-03T14:26:04.383-07:002017-06-03T14:26:04.383-07:00By the way, to Tina's Tim, thanks for joining ...By the way, to Tina's Tim, thanks for joining in.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-49381503869722569472017-06-03T04:45:52.537-07:002017-06-03T04:45:52.537-07:00I read all these comments and I come to realize t...I read all these comments and I come to realize that my wife enjoys wearing the pants and putting me across her knee for a discipline spanking. She started this on our wedding night and now she spanks where and whenever she thinks I need it. I am just happy that Glenmore is on the receiving end and gets his backside tanned.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-31132754563634694802017-06-01T21:38:52.001-07:002017-06-01T21:38:52.001-07:00Definitely understand the fine line. Definitely understand the fine line. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-21532462284004786262017-06-01T21:37:58.486-07:002017-06-01T21:37:58.486-07:00Hi Alan. My wife hasn't done it, but I do get ...Hi Alan. My wife hasn't done it, but I do get how it could be very powerful. Maybe because unlike spankings, beings slapped really isn't a part of most disciplinary fantasies? So, when it happens it makes the control and dominance real, precisely because it plays less to our fantasies?Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-50829555699719692912017-06-01T21:37:10.662-07:002017-06-01T21:37:10.662-07:00Hi GeorgiaFella. Thanks for these distinctions and...Hi GeorgiaFella. Thanks for these distinctions and observationsDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-66299958234697353772017-06-01T16:11:17.229-07:002017-06-01T16:11:17.229-07:00In our marriage, the discipline session I receive ...In our marriage, the discipline session I receive each week from my wife is maintenance to keep me from porn, masturbation, and ogling women in public. The purpose is to keep me focused on my wife and to remember that she's the boss. For discipline, she will use primarily the paddle, but she sometimes uses her wooden hairbrush or the dowel rod. For punishment, it's the same tools, but more strokes/swats and harder. Generally paddle only because she views it as her most effective implement, and she is correct. Plus, there will be a longer lecture and aggravated tone in her voice before she really brings the pain. Things she deals with immediately, like me being a little late, are over quickly and more of a disciplinary thing. Treating family poorly, or displaying anger toward her, will warrant punishment. It hurts, a lot, but then discipline is no walk in the park, either.<br />GeorgiaFellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-78451469931612866012017-06-01T11:01:48.645-07:002017-06-01T11:01:48.645-07:00Quoting Tina( above):"If he hesitates or fail...Quoting Tina( above):"If he hesitates or fails to understand how he violated the rules I smack him firmly across his face several times". I just wanted to draw attention to this technique which she implies she uses somewhat often.I do so because I think ( possibly mistakenly) that there is a mild taboo against face slapping in the DD world.There should not be as long as the slap is carefully delivered and not excessive, in other words mainly symbolic and so to say a " show stopper"I discovered the power of face slapping early in my spanking experiences with my former girlfriend. It was spontaneous and almost accidental. We had gone through a period in which I encouraged her to be firm especially at the beginning of discipline to take control. Around that time I did or said something (completely forget what) and she very firmly started to pull my pants down ( in private) I put up a good deal of strong resistance and she suddenly without any warning gave me a sharp face slap admonishing me to obey her. It was not something we had talked about doing and it shocked me and stopped the resistance cold. I went into a kind of zone and cooperated with her fully completely reversing the mood I was in.It was probably the first time she was completely in charge from the beginning. We talked about it later and she admitted she had used it earlier with other men but she incorporated it into future discipline when ever I resisted.Maybe not as often as Tina apparently uses it but often enough.I still can't completely explain what it does but I think it stripped me of ego and allowed me to fully and immediately submit to her. It was very powerful.My wife used a similar technique early in our relationship but it just isn't necessary any longer and so its been a while since it happened. But if it did I think it would still stop me cold. It is very very powerful.<br />Alan Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-91932831867032459912017-05-31T10:34:28.327-07:002017-05-31T10:34:28.327-07:00Hi Dan: I know you took the troll postings down b...Hi Dan: I know you took the troll postings down but I thought I would ask my husband to offer his thoughts on this blog and the responses we have received. In the meantime to get a better understanding of who we are please see the story of our life’s adventure in Dan’s guestbook #2.<br />From Tim. Hi I’m Tina’s husband and although I do not normally express myself on our way of life in a public forum there appears to be some major misconceptions from some readers that my wife is not fair. It should be understood that a FLR or a DD relationship involves a huge range of private and personal emotions. Each one of us is an intricate mix of pride, humility, vulnerabilities, determination, fear, worries, resentment, humor, anger, sadness, self image and judgment. Most of us live our lives in a sort of protective bubble. We seldom share our deeper and innermost feelings and are normally reluctant to expose our more intimate desires or needs to anyone else even spouses. When we were first married various comments and actions from one partner made the other annoyed, upset or sad and would lead to arguments or periods of quietness. Since we were incredibly close to each other these wasted times seem to be senseless and unnecessary and we found that the concept of physically disciplining each other to be both sexy and satisfying. To present yourself to the other for a naked chastisement completely destroys any hiding of emotions and totally exposes your innermost vulnerabilities. You get to know each other so intimately that the connection, love, respect and trust simply grow stronger. As time went on I realized that I was still getting angry, not at Tina, but at life situations and we agreed that Tina should try to train this out of me with discipline and if that did not work with real punishments. Yes of course they hurt physically but that was better than me hurting Tina emotionally. When she arranged the breakfast exercise she was recreating a situation that could have been a life activity where things did not go exactly right but she was there to help. When I could not find certain items all I had to do was call to her and ask but instead I let my pride take over and then my frustration. She is an amazing and creative woman and this exercise was extremely successful in demonstrating to me my weaknesses. I never ever considered it as a “set up” or a “trap” just another wonderful way that she expresses her love and thoughtfulness. When it comes to real punishments it is important that I am mentally and emotionally prepared and during the lead up to the implementation she creates tension by reminding me that she intends to hurt me or similar words. It is a powerful reminder of what is to come and conditions my mind to the true concept of punishment and the reasons it is being delivered. Unless you are living in a loving, consensual relationship you may find this difficult to understand. In fact that is why we never share our lifestyle with our friends since there seems to be such a vitriolic judgment of a DD relationship. Unfortunately that negative judgment now seems to be overlapping into a blog devoted to the benefits of such a life style. There is absolutely no doubt that Tina loves me being naked with her dressed and that she gets sexually turned on by spanking me but that is simply a huge benefit for both of us. It also destroys any fears that she may think less of me as a man for accepting her discipline. I hope this alleviates any fears that my life partner is being unfair or sadistic. We will be traveling for a few weeks so don’t think Tina is ignoring you if she does not post. <br />Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11839716738950543162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-57481101315606471682017-05-31T09:44:46.413-07:002017-05-31T09:44:46.413-07:00I understand that problem Dan and its very annoyin...I understand that problem Dan and its very annoying. Thanks for moderating , I'm glad I found your site to share with other like minded.Glenmorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10011257092494429520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-43839468757191659502017-05-31T08:45:05.043-07:002017-05-31T08:45:05.043-07:00Hi Peter. I have no idea how you will survive. I...Hi Peter. I have no idea how you will survive. I get lucky that my job involves a ton of computer time, so there is no way my wife could cut me off of my smartphone and computer without causing major work disruption. So, at least at this stage in our life, denying me those is probably not in the cards. Though, given how addicted we all are to these electronic distractions, I wonder what it would be like at the end of 10 truly electronic-free days.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-17936281451156342892017-05-31T07:44:24.128-07:002017-05-31T07:44:24.128-07:00DAN
Last nite Anna discovered that when I broke a ...DAN<br />Last nite Anna discovered that when I broke a no electronic ban, by sneaking to my brother's place for a few hours during such a ban a few weekends ago, she took me to our room and caned me. I write this from her laptop. Yes no electronics now for 10days. <br />peterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-12944352900846727522017-05-31T07:36:45.154-07:002017-05-31T07:36:45.154-07:00It's not too late, though even when I don'...It's not too late, though even when I don't have full comment moderation on, I usually have it set to require moderation on older posts. Largely because commercial porn sites try to sneak in links to their websites into comments on older posts, thinking the blogger won't notice. So, feel free to comment on older ones, but the comment won't be posted until I get a chance to go in and approve it. Though, I turned on full comment moderation last night thanks to this latest little troll infestation.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-91243522198064549862017-05-31T07:27:10.213-07:002017-05-31T07:27:10.213-07:00Hi Dan
A question not related to this topic. I jus...Hi Dan<br />A question not related to this topic. I just recently discovered your forum and am still going through the past posts and topics.<br />I was wondering is it too late to post a comment in the older posts and topics in the forum as I find some of them very interested.Glenmorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10011257092494429520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-963540288095834992017-05-31T06:09:05.573-07:002017-05-31T06:09:05.573-07:00Taking away his electronic devices is going to far...Taking away his electronic devices is going to far Anna!☺<br />(Of course it does sound like he would be too sore to sit down and use them anyway.)Glenmorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10011257092494429520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-58939206154635824072017-05-31T04:14:15.087-07:002017-05-31T04:14:15.087-07:00Sometimes with my wife there is a fine line betwee...Sometimes with my wife there is a fine line between a discipline and punishment spanking. With discipline she will start out what I need to work on and then gives me a history lesson on where I have been slacking off. I'm usually bent over the the bed thinking to myself this is going to bad . The one big she does do for a discipline is let me select three implements where as a punishment she gets her own.<br />FrankAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-22720240192888078922017-05-30T21:24:48.112-07:002017-05-30T21:24:48.112-07:00Knew when I left for a trip this morning that I sh...Knew when I left for a trip this morning that I should have turned on the content moderation, as this little fucker has been prolific on a couple of other blogs lately. Norman, time to refill the Prozac prescription and go talk to the psychiatrist about the Mommy issues again.<br /><br />Though, I am actually not 100% sure this time that it is the same guy. The fixation on the word "sadist" was evident in the comments I deleted over the weekend, but he hasn't tossed around some of his other favorite buzzwords. But they all seem kind of Norman-ish in their compulsions to haunt these kind of blogs while professing horror at their contents. Or, is that just plain old garden-variety lack of self-awareness? <br /><br />In any event, content moderation goes back up for awhile. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-42931906012694260252017-05-30T21:11:30.093-07:002017-05-30T21:11:30.093-07:00By the way, hi Julie!By the way, hi Julie!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-49870701995889190172017-05-30T21:10:07.507-07:002017-05-30T21:10:07.507-07:00Alan, you are assuming it is "another" t...Alan, you are assuming it is "another" troll. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-7911229333160933602017-05-30T21:08:12.871-07:002017-05-30T21:08:12.871-07:00Hi Anna. I absolutely cannot imagine a weekend wi...Hi Anna. I absolutely cannot imagine a weekend without my little electronic distractions. Truly cruel and inhuman punishment.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-9495867345546031232017-05-30T21:06:57.385-07:002017-05-30T21:06:57.385-07:00Hi Fred. I think that mine kind of enjoys humbling...Hi Fred. I think that mine kind of enjoys humbling me whether what I have done directly impacted her or not. But, that is not to say it is not *more* gratifying to her when she is dealing with something that did have such a personal impact. Where something is more about me asking for punishment to improve in certain areas, it is more likely to fall by the wayside. It's one reason I do think these relationships work best when the wife is addressing issues that truly do anger her.<br /><br />I do think she is probably right to take the tact she has been taking, even if I don't feel like it taking me in a direction that I do think could have some positive effects for us both. But, accepting that is part of the process.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-54204183437168025682017-05-30T18:52:09.579-07:002017-05-30T18:52:09.579-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com