tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post408669395828806832..comments2024-03-29T03:08:12.803-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 242 - March Q&ADan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-61832128380289655882018-03-19T19:25:04.425-07:002018-03-19T19:25:04.425-07:00Same here... (and occasionally in the woods) :-)
...Same here... (and occasionally in the woods) :-)<br />L.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-45557310307404301742018-03-17T08:18:34.916-07:002018-03-17T08:18:34.916-07:00Hi Frank. Yes, a few times. Mainly in hotel rooms...Hi Frank. Yes, a few times. Mainly in hotel rooms while on vacation.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-71182219765724361572018-03-17T06:21:41.671-07:002018-03-17T06:21:41.671-07:00Dan
Has your wife ever spanked you away from your ...Dan<br />Has your wife ever spanked you away from your home. Have a great week.<br /><br />FrankAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-87929530635854391302018-03-15T19:38:38.638-07:002018-03-15T19:38:38.638-07:00There have been times when L. needed to be spanked...There have been times when L. needed to be spanked more than once a day - but this mostly happens on the weekend when I give him a list of chores to perform... and when he needs occasional "reminders" (sometimes with the kitchen spoon, sometimes with a switch, or with the martinet - or, occasionally, with the strap...<br />J.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-11428478705308764552018-03-15T19:27:23.574-07:002018-03-15T19:27:23.574-07:00I am not guilty of "road rage", but the...I am not guilty of "road rage", but there have been a number of times when some "reckless driving" got me in trouble with my wife. In such cases (which typically occur on narrow, winding roads), I may be ordered to pull over in the nearest country lane where she can (unobserved) pull down my pants and deliver the spanking I "deserve"... unless (when we are traveling) she prefers to wait until we get to our hotel, where she can spank or whip me as she sees fit!<br />L.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-17322509234059227422018-03-15T19:02:45.287-07:002018-03-15T19:02:45.287-07:00I usually pack my hairbrush - and the martinet - w...I usually pack my hairbrush - and the martinet - when we travel... and I have used them quite a few times in our hotel rooms (knowing full well that we may be overheard). <br />L. (naturally) is always embarrassed when this happens - especially when "knowing smiles" are directed at us by chambermaids or by other guests (almost always women) we go down for dinner...<br />J.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-61393858881116323392018-03-14T09:37:26.243-07:002018-03-14T09:37:26.243-07:00Aggressive driving was one of the traits that got ...Aggressive driving was one of the traits that got me into trouble with my wife initially as she is quite nervous as a passenger.<br />After a few repeat offences, she decided a paddling AND the removal of my driving privileges would be a better correction.<br />As a result , like Dan , she does all the driving now , not because I like to read but because its less stressful and she prefers it.<br />It hasn't saved me entirely from paddlings as I do still occasionally 'have a go' on her behalf at inconsiderate drivers who cut her off , etc.<br />The rude drivers don't bother her at all , but my yelling at them does!Glenmorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10011257092494429520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-23580203832988740132018-03-14T06:02:01.468-07:002018-03-14T06:02:01.468-07:00That is my view, though I think most wood items wi...That is my view, though I think most wood items will numb eventually, so if they are going to be used for a long duration, they should be used laterDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-7557215460574997902018-03-14T06:00:31.610-07:002018-03-14T06:00:31.610-07:00Hi Frank. No, we've talked about her doing th...Hi Frank. No, we've talked about her doing that for particularly egregious offenses, but she has not actually done it.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-37584310809818704172018-03-14T05:35:45.869-07:002018-03-14T05:35:45.869-07:00Hello all,
Since this week has had a number of com...Hello all,<br />Since this week has had a number of comments/questions involving the specifics of punishment, I have a question that I have never found a good answer to. If a punishment is to consist of multiple implements, for example a hairbrush, bathbrush, paddle, and a strap, in which order should they be used, or does it matter? My assumption, at least dealing with rigid wood items, is that they should be used from lighter to heavier, since the heavy ones tend to make the bottom go numb. However, I don't know how "whippier" things fit in, such as straps and canes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-49828055427263435712018-03-14T04:00:43.574-07:002018-03-14T04:00:43.574-07:00Dan
Has your wife ever spanked you more than once ...Dan<br />Has your wife ever spanked you more than once in a single day?<br /><br />FrankFLRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12712051960045473788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-38022318626785766552018-03-13T19:31:27.297-07:002018-03-13T19:31:27.297-07:00I have some road rage problems myself. I think th...I have some road rage problems myself. I think that people who drive in the left lane slower than those behind them and refuse to move to the right need to taken to the side of the road and shot. Since I have no authority to do that, I have been known to go around them, get in front of them, and then slow WAY down until they are forced to either move over or come to a dead stop. Fortunately, when we go somewhere together my wife almost always drives (because I like to read, not because of the FLR thing), thus she never sees such bad behavior, thereby saving my ass.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-52526810062918998522018-03-13T17:43:45.423-07:002018-03-13T17:43:45.423-07:00Dan, as many of your followers, Bart’s public post...Dan, as many of your followers, Bart’s public posture is very alpha male. While he is respectful of women generally speaking he does sometimes act out with other men and is prone to fits of road rage . Now that are kids are grown on the occasions where o have felt he acted too macho and even dangerous I have felt taking him down a few notches important . It’s in this dynamic where I find the exchange of power so important to our relationship and for his health and safety. We have had situations where while in the car he gets angry and loses perspective . While Bart is much bigger and stronger than me when I march him by the ear with him stumbling and shuffling with his pants around his ankles he seems quite humbled . After many years of marriage I don’t combine sex with spanking While there is no doubt some sexual component , the spankings are punishment not a reward I don’t enjoy the actual act of spanking but love how calm and affectionate he is after composing himself .<br />Sylvia Firestonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-35679688430323774222018-03-13T15:37:24.963-07:002018-03-13T15:37:24.963-07:00Hi Sylvia. I can definitely understand how how pa...Hi Sylvia. I can definitely understand how how pants around the ankles, as opposed to full nudity, could be very humbling. My wife has not done it that way, but I do see how it could be very effective.<br /><br />I did recently add a heavy belt to her arsenal, because she is not at all interested right now in "outing" ourselves, so we wanted something we could travel with for use on vacation. A heavy belt seemed innocuous enough. Though, you are right, for home use the strap is much preferred.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-71418698999585271262018-03-13T13:58:58.346-07:002018-03-13T13:58:58.346-07:00Dan, a woman’s perspective, I insist that I contro...Dan, a woman’s perspective, I insist that I control any punishment session. When I tell Bart it time for “ a Talk” that means I list his offense or offenses, he waits for me fully dressed. I ceremoniously unfasten his belt lower his pants and underpants to his ankles. This is different than an erotic encounter, pre- lovie making .If I am administering the soanking otk with a hairbrush or bent over using the strap, the pants around the ankles is very childish not erotic . If he cries out with expletives that get his mouth soaped which he hates, also childish and me in control. Yelling louder makes the spanking harder and longer so he rarely does that. I never ever allow him to righle or squirm away. All spankings are followed by pants down corner time. Earlier when we were younger and spankings more frequent Bart’s behind became hardened. Now he is more sensitive and I always leave marks that last several days. I have a London Tanners strap that I purchased after years of trying belts that were hard to aim and often wrapped around and left marks on his hips in front . When he sees this strap he knows it’s going to be difficult to sit for a while. Over the years I have spankef him in hotels and he hated the idea that someone could hear. For years I carried my hair brush in my purse and if I motioned toward it he knew he was in for it. Sylvia Firestonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-17864221634512229642018-03-13T13:24:07.254-07:002018-03-13T13:24:07.254-07:00Hi Anna. Yes, the most recent posting there is pr...Hi Anna. Yes, the most recent posting there is pretty illuminating, and a little concerning. You would think that two people into DD would have at least somewhat similar motivations, but that chart they post is a real eye-opener on the whole "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus," thing. The high and low-ranking items are almost mirror images. But, it's consistent with my own experience. As soon as my wife started stepping it up on the FLR side, it became apparent that things like doing chores were very high on her list of priorities, but on my side . . . not so much. It does surprise me a little that "Unconditional Obedience" ranked so high for women but so low for men. <br /><br />I do think the analysis might have been more helpful had respondents had to pick and choose among pre-set alternatives. I suspect one reason "unconditional obedience" ranked low for men is that some men probably thought of that as being part of "he recognizes obedience to her" or even "accountability." <br /><br />Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-64906250604613499902018-03-13T11:56:06.933-07:002018-03-13T11:56:06.933-07:00Dan
Just finished reading for first time FEMDOMTHI...Dan<br />Just finished reading for first time FEMDOMTHINKTANK.BLOGSPOT.COM Think all men seeking a more dominating wife should read it <br />annaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-1317603808880374722018-03-13T11:29:16.832-07:002018-03-13T11:29:16.832-07:00Yes, I hesitate to even add up what I have spent o...Yes, I hesitate to even add up what I have spent over the years on this little hobby of ours. And, I have a thing for custom paddles made with exotic wood, so even when we do not "need" another tool, I tend to buy her a present if I see something especially nice or unique.<br /><br />I am usually laying down. She says she can generate more force swinging downward than to the side. <br /><br />While a strap can go a long time, typically she does not use any one instrument for an entire spanking. She tends to switch at least four or five times, though I have told her that I think she would do better to use a strap and just let the pain build and build.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-5223662986120755812018-03-13T09:27:24.400-07:002018-03-13T09:27:24.400-07:00Dan thanks for the reply. I agree with what you sa...Dan thanks for the reply. I agree with what you say about the ineffectiveness of paddles compared to the more yielding quality of the strap. It sounds as if you have spent quite a lot of money on various implements and quality equipment is by no means cheap I am sure you would agree. Do you and Mrs D find that the DD strap is more effective with you bending over or laying face down ? Also, you mention that a wife can go a long long time with a strap. Typically how long does Mrs Dan strap you for ? TommyTuckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14623087861359267962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-66469198952463667942018-03-13T05:59:46.012-07:002018-03-13T05:59:46.012-07:00Yes, that is my experience, though it can cause mo...Yes, that is my experience, though it can cause more significant marking that just a persistent shade of red. I can define effective straps more in terms of what does not work than what does. If they are too long--like many of those marketed at "prison" straps--they are hard to handle and tend to do more damages to the hip when they wrap around. If they are too flimsy, they aren't effective. But, if they are too thick, then they have many of the same drawbacks as a too-large paddle. I think what makes the DD Strap so effective is it is thick but somewhat yielding (unlike a few of the larger London Tanners straps), long enough to cover both cheeks and to generate some real force but not so long that it is difficult to wield. <br /><br />I have come to believe that while paddles may appear to be more severe than straps, many really aren't, primarily because of the duration element. A wife can go a long, long time with a strap. Most paddles eventually end up numbing the butt, thereby ending the spanking as real "discipline." Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-72856774110710972342018-03-13T04:56:50.962-07:002018-03-13T04:56:50.962-07:00Hi Dan. That domestic discipline strap from London...Hi Dan. That domestic discipline strap from London tanners is the one that gets used on me. It makes one hell of a smacking cracking sound when it is laid on by a determined lady and it stings like the swarm of bees but causes no harm other than to turn the recipients bottom a very bright shade of red. This redness can last for several days I have found. Does that sound like your experience of this particular strap ? It has a very comfortable handle as well which presumably makes life easy for Mrs Dan. What are the qualities that make a good and effective strap for you guys ?TommyTuckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14623087861359267962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-43940646170845783082018-03-13T02:49:54.373-07:002018-03-13T02:49:54.373-07:00The number of swats in our first five 'encount...The number of swats in our first five 'encounters' were (approximately): 4, 4, 30, 70, 100. (Each a few weeks apart.)<br />So yes, I'd say my wife took to it fairly quickly! She does have a naturally dominant personality, so I wasn't too surprised. I think any couple can make it work with time and communication.<br />CrimsonKingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-22490461299905772042018-03-12T15:58:53.563-07:002018-03-12T15:58:53.563-07:00Darren, we have thought about that, too. Being se...Darren, we have thought about that, too. Being sent to your room could definitely be an "in the moment" kind of punishment.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-14991218121774753222018-03-12T15:57:52.411-07:002018-03-12T15:57:52.411-07:00Hi Anna. Particularly for you, I am happy to answe...Hi Anna. Particularly for you, I am happy to answer more than three. :-)<br /><br />(1) I'm almost always naked when she comes into the room. Sometimes it varies in that she will come into the bedroom as I am getting out her tools and setting things up. I may not be naked at that point. But, in those cases, she usually goes into the master bathroom and futzes around in there while I finish setting up and then get undressed. It is pretty rare for her to actually watch me get naked before a spanking and has even lectured me for not being naked when she comes in. I don't really know whether being made to disrobe in front of her would add to or retract from the feeling of vulnerability. Thoughts?<br />(2) We have never done corner time, though I have been bringing it up more lately. Given my ADD nature, it could definitely make me a little crazy. On the other hand, I manage to control the ADD while doing meditation, so there is the chance that I would just start meditating with my nose against the wall, thereby entirely defeating the purpose of the corner time.<br />(3) Yes. She has never tried to cut me off from ejaculating during sex, whether post-spanking or otherwise.<br />(4) There are really two. First, I think in general, longer and harder lecturing before, and possibly during, a session. Second, as you well know, I am fascinated and terrified by tears, and that is the #1 thing that I would "like" to experience during a session that has not happened so far. The first kind of relates to the second, as I think stronger lecturing would help put me in a better mindset to let go. Though, recently I have been asking her to get stricter with me in general and generally be more verbally directive and in charge, so it's not only about being lectured right before a spanking but putting in my place more in general. You have said that Peter can be cocky and arrogant, and those are certainly my failings as well. She is definitely getting better at dealing with that immediately.<br />Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-12013761358156341262018-03-12T15:48:29.522-07:002018-03-12T15:48:29.522-07:00......I've been thinking about having corner t.........I've been thinking about having corner time incorporated so curious to hear your response to that. Also related to your response about concerns over noise causing postponing your discipline...have thought about her using things like calling me aside out of earshot of kids and being sent to my room or something like that as immediate punishments in the moment....but knowing that spanking is coming when it canDarrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02308416826203465913noreply@blogger.com