tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post2687939535916262059..comments2024-03-28T11:43:32.966-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Club Meeting 323 - Whatever It TakesDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-85973473904845740252019-12-17T15:02:00.560-08:002019-12-17T15:02:00.560-08:00We have purchased from cane-iac.com also, and were...We have purchased from cane-iac.com also, and were satisfied with the service and product. They appear to be a reputable company. --al Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-79791622391208358782019-12-17T14:11:13.291-08:002019-12-17T14:11:13.291-08:00I agree, but I do think this is one of those areas...I agree, but I do think this is one of those areas where you get what you pay for. But, you could also try www.cane-iac.com Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-88629270306722942312019-12-17T11:14:33.155-08:002019-12-17T11:14:33.155-08:00$143??? That hurts and I haven't even felt it!...$143??? That hurts and I haven't even felt it!<br />ArthurAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-42513864323641185422019-12-17T10:40:47.482-08:002019-12-17T10:40:47.482-08:00Thanks, Tomy - I know that we all appreciate your ...Thanks, Tomy - I know that we all appreciate your reflections and memories of your time with Aunt Kay. --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-37013799697226521732019-12-17T09:15:56.257-08:002019-12-17T09:15:56.257-08:00London Tanners. https://www.thelondontanners.com/...London Tanners. https://www.thelondontanners.com/shop/dd-strap/#Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-32425160171072114242019-12-17T08:47:35.455-08:002019-12-17T08:47:35.455-08:00I was not teasing, gentlemen! Liz already explaine...I was not teasing, gentlemen! Liz already explained what she shared and what she learned. Basically, she shared that she paddles me, and she learned that her mom and dad spanked each other several times a year for being unladylike or ungentlemanly. Her mom was spanked with the hand, her dad with a belt. <br />Based on her mom's preference, Liz has asked me to get a leather strap to add to our paddle. Any recommendations?<br />ArthurAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-64113952079051660642019-12-17T07:46:03.587-08:002019-12-17T07:46:03.587-08:00I could have written Obama's statement almost ...I could have written Obama's statement almost word for word.<br /><br />https://www.salon.com/2019/12/16/president-obama-a-world-ruled-by-women-would-improve-just-about-everything/<br /><br />Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-64617087618411944472019-12-17T06:48:47.507-08:002019-12-17T06:48:47.507-08:00All I can say is Aunt Kay was a very open-minded p...All I can say is Aunt Kay was a very open-minded person and I feel OK about paraphrasing her philosophy as basically being that as long as there was no abuse, bullying, or exploitation, and not kids were involved or aware of it, what adults choose for their own satisfaction is fine.<br /><br />I am deeply grateful for those of you who have embraced her memory. It means a lot.<br /><br />Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-13728060897109427432019-12-16T21:35:12.914-08:002019-12-16T21:35:12.914-08:00Got it! I had forgotten that reference.Got it! I had forgotten that reference.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-51909862256882071572019-12-16T20:49:58.439-08:002019-12-16T20:49:58.439-08:00One of those things it's easy to read and not ...One of those things it's easy to read and not remember verbatim - from the home page of the DWC site:<br /><br />The Disciplinary Wives Club (DWC) is an organization whose purpose is to encourage the application of "Good Old Fashioned" spanking and other very traditional methods of discipline by wives and committed partners. It is our experience that the vast majority of relationships that have a maternal discipline orientation are truly happy, healthy and long lasting.<br /><br />We are based in a simple philosophy of love being the driver of everything in a good relationship.<br /><br />On the purpose page she wrote:<br />This is not a sexually explicit site and we do not advocate or advertise activities of a sexual or sadomasochistic nature. You will however, find among our recommended Links, sites and people who do include S&M, B&D etc. Many of these people are good friends of ours and we support their play styles completely. It is simply our preference, for this site, to remain focused on the spanking part of relationships.<br /><br />(With thanks to Aunt Kay for leaving the site up in "archive mode" before she passed, and to Tomy for its ongoing online presence. Still so much wonderful material there).<br /><br />Obviously this does not mean the use of "femdom techniques" in addition to old-fashioned spanking disqualifies a disciplinary wife from thinking of herself as a DWC wife (or her husband seeing her as such). Only that it was Aunt Kay's intention to have the DWC site focus only on maternal style spanking discipline. --al Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-42375495291716789332019-12-16T17:42:15.282-08:002019-12-16T17:42:15.282-08:00It's funny, but after all these years of readi...It's funny, but after all these years of reading DWC content, engaging with Tomy, etc., I did't really know she characterized the DWC spankings as "maternal style"Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-72627822802616414352019-12-16T14:05:11.015-08:002019-12-16T14:05:11.015-08:00Alan - Maybe Tomy could best answer that, but I do...Alan - Maybe Tomy could best answer that, but I do know that she had some very definite beliefs. :) But, even in the old DWC group, I knew from back channel emails that some of the DWC couples also employed "femdom" techniques, they just didn't talk about them in the group (since it was Aunt Kay's group). Ultimately, it is obviously up to each couple to decide what works for them - after all, there is no Bureau of Standards for DWC DD, and getting bogged down in semantics is seldom helpful -although Dan may have some guidelines for the discussion on his blog. --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-78346546914143049042019-12-16T13:50:00.709-08:002019-12-16T13:50:00.709-08:00Agreed. I know I can be kind of schizophrenic on t...Agreed. I know I can be kind of schizophrenic on the extent of Femdom and BDSM stuff I want on the blog, but it's just an inherent exercise in line drawing. For me, I guess the dividing line revolves around the purpose of the practice. All of al's examples seem to involve doing things that could be aspects of BDSM but using them as disciplinary tools. To me, that does fit in with the overarching DD theme of this blog. It's a harder fit when someone is taking about Femdom-type stuff but there really doesn't seem to be any connection to DD. That's really not what the blog is about, and I do want to keep it's overall focus on disciplinary relationships, acknowledging that there are lots of points along the spectrum.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-25930821963034284882019-12-16T13:47:45.577-08:002019-12-16T13:47:45.577-08:00al
Thanks. Aunt Kay's views are always respect...al<br />Thanks. Aunt Kay's views are always respected. I wonder if she would still feel the same today since the F/M DD community has grown and evolved. Public views of adult spanking has changed and evolved considerably over the past two decades<br />AlanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-29441488110410929722019-12-16T13:26:54.566-08:002019-12-16T13:26:54.566-08:00Alan, I think they can be within the realm of DD a...Alan, I think they can be within the realm of DD as well - they are for us on occasion. But since this blog primarily deals more with the DWC-Maternal style of corporal discipline, I differentiate them into "femdom" discipline. When I was involved as Aunt Kay's assistant in moderating one of her private Yahoo groups many years ago, she was adamant that the conversation be focused on "maternal style spanking" and would not permit discussions of other "femdom" activities - so I do see the Disciplinary Wife concept as being primarily focused on spanking when it comes to discipline - but do fully recognize that each couple might also choose to include other disciplines that might normally be labeled as "femdom" (and my own wife is certainly one of those who chooses to employ those methods on occasion as well). <br /><br />I know that many couples engage in pegging these days - and it obviously has different implications for different couples. In terms of femdom, pegging discipline is obviously not really about pain so much (after all, many women and men are happily butt-f***ed with the real thing and with dildos all the time) as it is about being metaphorically turning the tables on him - and making him the "archetypal submissive". Interesting topic. --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-4813843009860065602019-12-16T10:48:06.970-08:002019-12-16T10:48:06.970-08:00al,
Others might disagree but I don't view the...al,<br />Others might disagree but I don't view the "femdom" practices you cite( pegging,enema's,dildos et al) as in any way outside the boundaries of DD. Couples may choose or not to employ them but they seem solid options for any wife interested in using them. My wife doesn't make frequent use of most of them except pegging which she does not consider discipline. But my former girlfriend was very interested in punitive enema's and mouth-soaping,so I understand what you are describing<br />AlanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-45482708652916893782019-12-16T09:31:40.305-08:002019-12-16T09:31:40.305-08:00The typical disciplinary spanking that my wife app...The typical disciplinary spanking that my wife applies for a weekly maintenance spanking, preventative spanking preceding a specific event, general attitude adjustment, or a relatively minor infraction typically starts at 100 swats as a base. For a typical disciplinary spanking, she will usually stop there, unless she needs to add some extra - for whatever reason she feels like. She doesn't feel that less is effective, and she also believes that duration is a critical aspect of the spanking - and that I should want it to stop well before it does, just in case I had the idea that I might "want" a spanking. She spanks hard enough that the first 100 whacks will invariably leave me with a well reddened behind that will be sore to sit on for a couple of days, and at least a few tears. <br /><br />She will sometimes address (through lecturing and scolding) various current issues during maintenance or attitude adjustment spankings - in case there is anything that I need to work on. However, if I should fail to address these issues satisfactorily - or if I commit an offense that merits serious punishment, then she will apply a punishment spanking, along with other disciplinary measures appropriate to the problem. It is foregone conclusion that I will be reduced to sobs by the time that she is finished with me. <br /><br />A punishment spanking will be longer and harder, and often with her applying one of the larger, heavier paddles with me bent over a chair (instead of otk). The paddling is then often followed by more from the strap or switch. <br /><br />Depending on the offense, she might follow the spanking with other domestic or femdom disciplines. Foul language has sometimes resulted in a mouth soaping, sandwiched in between a spanking before and after (she has found that an initial sound paddling makes me more cooperative in accepting whatever other disciplines that she feels are appropriate). If I start to have a problem with the alpha-macho me trying to reassert itself, a punishment spanking might be followed with femdom disciplines such as being given a large otk enema, being soundly pegged with a large strap-on dildo, or being given a large butt plug to wear for a couple of hours - all with the purpose of teaching me humility. (Chastity devices do not appeal to either one of us, although I understand their importance to some). <br /><br />I typically avoid writing here about the femdom disciplinary measures as the focus of the Forum is domestic discipline (although, I will add our use of femdom techniques grew out of basic domestic spanking discipline) - but since the topic is "doing whatever it takes", I thought I would mention them in the spirit of looking at the various ways our wives "do whatever it takes". --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-49672255179387641342019-12-16T07:21:18.875-08:002019-12-16T07:21:18.875-08:00One would assume, though I'm not sure that the...One would assume, though I'm not sure that the former would usually require expressly forbidding it to use to your wife. Maybe some of the other wives might like to comment on that one.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-20138794687343229292019-12-16T06:31:20.908-08:002019-12-16T06:31:20.908-08:00You know that sometimes the slip of the tongue I m...You know that sometimes the slip of the tongue I might use the B word or the F word which is strictly forbidden.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00457055489103940565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-39057969849076014752019-12-16T06:28:14.650-08:002019-12-16T06:28:14.650-08:00I agree Dan my wife uses spankings on both the lit...I agree Dan my wife uses spankings on both the little things and the big things. The big things sometimes involve more than just a spanking like calling my wife a bad name will get a spanking and a mouth soaping and there could be other punishment with that.<br /><br />My wife fully believed that if she spanks for the little things that may help prevent me doing from the bigger things.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00457055489103940565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-56814125327554872682019-12-15T21:25:43.428-08:002019-12-15T21:25:43.428-08:00I think I am one of those people who, unfortunatel...I think I am one of those people who, unfortunately for my ass, respond better to aversive measures than to rewardsDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-4443978999660739292019-12-15T16:03:30.545-08:002019-12-15T16:03:30.545-08:00Agreed. Teasing is *not* fair!Agreed. Teasing is *not* fair!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-9992085091683995512019-12-15T16:02:57.817-08:002019-12-15T16:02:57.817-08:00I don't know about the "yes . . . and&quo...I don't know about the "yes . . . and" When she's spanking me I tend to be saying, "No, no, no!" :-)Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-49824330608078584342019-12-15T16:01:54.268-08:002019-12-15T16:01:54.268-08:00Hmm. Calling names? Am I going to need to check y...Hmm. Calling names? Am I going to need to check your ID to make sure you meet the age requirements for participation on this blog? Or, maybe you're just our President.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-86764537419691229092019-12-15T16:00:17.474-08:002019-12-15T16:00:17.474-08:00I totally get that. I wouldn't doubt that most...I totally get that. I wouldn't doubt that most of have blind spots. and if you can't see that what you are doing isn't OK before or during it, then there is no way to stop. It's kind of like I said a week or two ago about temper. It's all well and good tell me to control mine, but when it hits my mind goes to all the rationalizations for why in this particular instance the other guy deserved it.<br /><br />A few months ago, one of the our female commenters said something in response to a question about whether DD should be used for little things like "taking out the garbage." Her premise was that almost everything she would use DD for were "little things," because the bigger ones were things for which DD probably wouldn't be a solution or not an appropriate one. I'm kind of in the middle on that. I think if someone is in the throes of major depression, he needs a psychologist, not a spanking. Same with a lot of substance abuse problems. But, if someone has a proclivity for saying thing that constantly hurt his wife's feelings, that's not a small thing yet I think DD could possibly help him stop doing it and help her feel like justice was served.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.com