tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post1012387185060956463..comments2024-03-28T21:45:05.911-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Club -- Meeting #260 -- Am I Getting Through to You?Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-9480167467790988962019-04-30T17:16:05.140-07:002019-04-30T17:16:05.140-07:00Ok Helen. Martin her...Ok Helen. Martin here, just began reading this blog a couple of months ago and I know this is a late response. My wife has been spanking me for the last 18 years and the behavior that bothered her the most was my speeding. About 10 years ago she solved this by first spanking me every other day. I got a speeding ticket about 6 months later and she did the same thing except she had one of her close friends help. This was the first time I had ever had someone else both witness and spank me. They spanked me again every other day and I was introduced to new positions, corner time and getting switched. A new experience in pain and embarrassment. I have not had another speeding ticket since.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04800393664362843066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-44502355750600228972018-08-11T05:12:11.769-07:002018-08-11T05:12:11.769-07:00"Second Notice Bills" when you have the ..."Second Notice Bills" when you have the funds! Absurd!<br /><br />Spankings are not sufficient for you. Wish Aunt Kay was here to huddle with your wife and come up with additional creative measures. Maybe one of the women who read this Blog would talk with her.Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-60656081347723965052018-08-10T06:31:19.901-07:002018-08-10T06:31:19.901-07:00That scenario is the kind of intentionally-planned...That scenario is the kind of intentionally-planned discipline that works. It's not complicated and it is fundamentally impossible to resist the message.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01767687290547932717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-70405046872234122052018-08-08T07:20:12.371-07:002018-08-08T07:20:12.371-07:00Sorry that you're having to go through that. ...Sorry that you're having to go through that. I definitely have had that experience of getting out of the shower and having the towel remind me of a recent spanking.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-15885753097376903722018-08-07T16:40:34.599-07:002018-08-07T16:40:34.599-07:00Procrastination in opening and paying bills. Not ...Procrastination in opening and paying bills. Not because we didn't have the money. Just avoidance. But we're dealing with it together. We took the number of bills that had a second notice on them and since we have to have the possibility of spankings for more routine things we can only do two per week.<br /><br />Today's was mercifully brief, as my butt is still quite bruised and sitting on it and even drying my butt after a shower is painful. It will only get worse. I didn't quite cry before pulling down my underwear, but by the second or third spank tears were flowing.DWC Frednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-28157557255247089162018-08-07T08:15:16.248-07:002018-08-07T08:15:16.248-07:00No, Sean. Go away. No, Sean. Go away. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-20398761623812885772018-08-07T06:40:01.332-07:002018-08-07T06:40:01.332-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-51273915656241101392018-08-07T03:46:41.364-07:002018-08-07T03:46:41.364-07:00My husband would not have such magazines, as porno...My husband would not have such magazines, as pornography is a sin according to our values and religion. Dan keeps the drawings here to a minimum level of eroticism, but even with a blog like this, my husband is only allowed to view it with permission and supervision because of the erotic drawings.<br /><br />When YOU confess to your disciplinarian about the spanking magazines, I recommend she does this: Strip you naked and place you over her knee and leg-lock you in place, with your face near the carpet just above the magazines. Have you open the first magazine to the first spanking picture. Begin applying the hairbrush with vigor. Then ask, "Do you want to ever look at that picture again?" If the answer is not an immediate "NO," then the spanking continues and the question is asked again. "Do you want to ever look at that picture again?" "No, Ma'am!" "OK, turn the page." The next picture comes up. The spanking continues. The same question is asked .... over and over again until you have asserted that you do not want to look at ANY of those magazine pictures. If there are too many magazines for one session, then the spanking occurs daily until you have "reviewed" every picture and associated it with pain. <br /><br />At the end of the last session, take you out to the private back yard, naked with your red and bruised bottom on display, and have you burn those magazines in the fire pit while your disciplinarian sips a glass of wine and enjoys her handiwork on your derriere.<br /><br />I imagine that story was a turn-on for you, but if it were carried out it definitely would not be!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435985013672212553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-84642030681622238642018-08-06T14:18:32.161-07:002018-08-06T14:18:32.161-07:00Helen, this male took awhile to find a woman who u...Helen, this male took awhile to find a woman who understood my needs and wants. I'm the one with the spanking magazines. My question to you, if you found these magazines what would happen to your husband?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-43375680075898474632018-08-04T15:25:46.364-07:002018-08-04T15:25:46.364-07:00Hi Fred. What led to that?Hi Fred. What led to that?Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-9085032753988080862018-08-04T13:37:08.293-07:002018-08-04T13:37:08.293-07:00We're in week three of our eight week, twice a...We're in week three of our eight week, twice a week spankings. Most of the surface of my butt is bruised. I think next week I'll be to the point of crying when she tells me to pull down my pants. Currently, even walking hurts, as my briefs rub up against the bruised skin. <br /><br />That said, we are closer and communicating more than ever. I never feel quite as close to my wife as when I have a white hot bottom, with shorts around my ankles, sobbing and thanking my Ann for spanking me.DWC Frednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-76023203826409770932018-08-04T08:52:34.668-07:002018-08-04T08:52:34.668-07:00I agree that immediacy is important, probably for ...I agree that immediacy is important, probably for at least two reasons. First, the mental connection between actions and consequences is just stronger when the two occur closely in time. Second, I think immediacy does interact strongly with certainty. In our house, if a bad act goes unpunished by a day, that is likely to become a week, which is likely to become . . .<br /><br />So, indeed, "justice delayed is justice denied."Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-71546876746717158612018-08-04T07:11:32.385-07:002018-08-04T07:11:32.385-07:00Not sure I fully understand that.Not sure I fully understand that.Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-26622320113382992122018-08-04T02:51:36.156-07:002018-08-04T02:51:36.156-07:00I know this is the last day for this to be the lea...I know this is the last day for this to be the lead blog item, and I am a little disappointed in the lack of responses from disciplined hubbies. You could add a lot to the conversation by answering: What was the most effective punishment you ever received from your wife, and why?<br /><br />This could go a long way to your disciplinary wife understanding you, and help us all!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435985013672212553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-84676237827610212712018-08-04T02:49:35.796-07:002018-08-04T02:49:35.796-07:00Dan,
I have been thinking about your three element...Dan,<br />I have been thinking about your three elements to effectiveness: certainty of detection, certainty of punishment, and severity of punishment. Of these three, the Disciplinary Wife can control certainty of punishment and severity, but she cannot control certainty of detection. The miscreant husband can always get away with misbehavior at times. This is where he needs to be an active participant in the process through ... confession. This is key to the relationship--that the husband will feel guilt and a desire to change and a responsibility to tell his wife the truth. <br /><br />Andy and I used to have a weekly discussion in which I would ask, "Do you have anything to confess to me?" For many years there would be something, and he would be punished for it. I think some Disciplinary Wives make an error here in thinking that since the husband confessed that he has shown his remorse and so should be let off the punishment. No, no, no! Yes, it is good that he confessed, but the certainty of punishment is crucial! The husband on some level will feel disappointed and unfulfilled if the wife does not follow through!<br /><br />There came a time in our relationship when Andy said to me, "I should not be 'forced' to confess by being put in a position of lying to your face. When I do something that I need to be punished for, I should tell you on my own."<br /><br />I was astounded and incredibly pleased by the level of maturity shown by my husband in that statement. We dropped the weekly meeting and instead he began confessing--and the effectiveness went up dramatically because he would tell me sooner and be punished sooner. As I have argued previously, the immediacy of punishment is crucial to Andy's behavior change (and I believe that is the case for most husbands).<br /><br />So I would add that to your three elements: immediacy. And I see a direct correlation: The longer it takes after misbehavior for punishment to be enacted, the less effective it tends to be.<br /><br />As others have mentioned, another crucial factor is that the husband has to want to change the behavior. He can want to because it is good for him (like losing weight), he can want to because it helps him achieve his values (such as stopping swearing), he can want to because it pleases his Disciplinary Wife (such as remembering to take out the garbage). But if he thinks there is nothing wrong with the behavior and he shouldn't be punished for it, then being consistently caught and severely punished is probably not going to be enough to be effective.<br /><br />Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435985013672212553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-75702294155605617332018-08-03T09:44:38.011-07:002018-08-03T09:44:38.011-07:00Well, self-discipline is one thing. Self-punishmen...Well, self-discipline is one thing. Self-punishment is another!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435985013672212553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-33033672510291377582018-08-03T09:41:49.588-07:002018-08-03T09:41:49.588-07:00It certainly does have a unique meaning as applied...It certainly does have a unique meaning as applied to your personal circumstances.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-37405181903504577702018-08-03T05:35:30.733-07:002018-08-03T05:35:30.733-07:00It took me a week to see the personal irony of the...It took me a week to see the personal irony of the lovely quote that went with this topic heading; "Discipline yourself and others won't need to. - John Wooden"Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-11581464088234470202018-08-02T08:14:13.431-07:002018-08-02T08:14:13.431-07:00Anna,
I too will often have him thank me with his ...Anna,<br />I too will often have him thank me with his tongue. That frequently turns into intercourse for us. And I do let him cum. For us, the punishment is over and the "aftercare" has begun!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435985013672212553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-83607440962247370312018-08-01T18:08:04.366-07:002018-08-01T18:08:04.366-07:00Helen I so love that moment that often when he is ...Helen I so love that moment that often when he is truly humbled I do allow him to take me with his mouth. He of course isnt allowed to cum that night. <br />Funny the other day he told me that is fast becoming his most exciting moment when I do allow him to thank me with his tongue.<br />AnnaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-85034193601492972502018-08-01T16:51:54.734-07:002018-08-01T16:51:54.734-07:00"Pass me another brownie!" I laughed ou..."Pass me another brownie!" I laughed out loud at that one. ThanksTomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-47429540037386466792018-08-01T05:00:32.489-07:002018-08-01T05:00:32.489-07:00Anna,
I so agree that there is nothing nicer than ...Anna,<br />I so agree that there is nothing nicer than that humbled tone and him saying thank you in such a submissive manner. In fact, it is when he is lying quietly over my knees at the end of the spanking that I begin to get so aroused. As Dan and others have mentioned, it is the power exchange that is so erotic, more than the spanking itself (although for me, the spanking releases a lot of adrenaline that is a component of arousal). Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435985013672212553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-21282858596261972482018-07-31T20:17:04.123-07:002018-07-31T20:17:04.123-07:00The existence of such magazines usually means that...The existence of such magazines usually means that the husband is masturbating to fantasies of other women when he ought to be fantasizing about his wife and always have his equipment ready for action with her!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435985013672212553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-91789603861543846542018-07-31T20:14:30.314-07:002018-07-31T20:14:30.314-07:00ZM,
This is beautifully written: "What she sh...ZM,<br />This is beautifully written: "What she should see is genuine remorse, contrition, humility, and submission. Once all signs of resistance, attitude, and rebellion are gone, then she can be pretty sure that she is getting through to me. That is when communication is the most effective because I am really listening and all my defensive walls are broken down."<br /><br />I agree that when the above happens to Andy, he is really listening--with his heart and soul as well as his mind. And what better way to break down those defensive walls than with a good spanking? <br /><br />I still disagree that loving domestic discipline from the love of one's life is anything like punishment from the court system. They are not the same species; they are much further apart than a St. Bernard and a Chihauhau!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435985013672212553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-73389727260452742092018-07-31T18:04:51.250-07:002018-07-31T18:04:51.250-07:00Helen
I too like taking a break mid spanking to qu...Helen<br />I too like taking a break mid spanking to quiz Peter much in the way you showed above. I dont want just yes or no answers. For some reason Peter seems to be more responsive to the second half of the spanking. Nothing is nicer than that humbled tone when he seems to have learned today's lesson. After the spanking, as I apply creme I love how I feel his submission as he moans and says thank you.<br />annaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com