Hi all. I hope you're enjoying your weekend. I'm severely lacking in inspiration for topics. So, there probably won't be a post this week. If I don't post in the meantime, enjoy the 4th of July celebrations.
Sunday, June 28, 2026
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Happy Fourth of July to you also. I think your blog is excellent, and I am NOT trying to steal your audience. Red (and only once have i been able to use my name, and am stuck on anonymous
ReplyDeleteHaha! No worries. I am VERY happy to see another F/m DD blog come along. There have never been a huge number of them, but when I first started this blog, there were at least a few. It's been a long slog of blogs dying and no new ones taking their place. So, I'm very glad to see you bucking the trend.
DeleteWhat’s the name of your site?
Delete"Red's" (rejuvenated) blog is called "Fun Thoughts on the Thing We Do:"
Deletehttps://funthoughtsttwd.blogspot.com
Dan: I've always been curious what region of North America you live in.
ReplyDeleteSome of your postings of descriptions of weather and terrain might suggest Northwest, possibly Oregon, Washington or British Columbia. Other postings would be more consistent with Northern New England, or possibly the Maritime Provinces.
I do notice that you often refer to US National Holidays like they were not "your own;" you wish well us Southern Neighbors as we celebrate.
So, I'm just curious, if it doesn't compromise your privacy:
Are you a Canuck (or "Kanuck" in QC)? Or, possibly a US-based Canuck, like myself?
What is your local geography, terrain and climate? (Where do you do most of your MC Adventure Riding?)
Nope. None of your guesses are even very close to right. :-)
DeleteI used to be so uptight about revealing any personal details, but in the spirit of being more open and less paranoid, we're in the Rocky Mountain West. Most of my life has been spent there or in what most would categorize as the Southwest. But, I spent a lot of time on both the East and West coasts for work, particularly northern California. My motorcycle adventure riding has also been mainly in the Southwest and the Rockies, though my intention was to expand that this year, before this accident occurred. I've become a devotee of Backcountry Discovery Routes, commonly referred to as BDRs. They began mainly in the West and Southwest, but several routes have been added on the East Coast and Appalachian areas. I'd hoped to explore some of that this year but, if I do, it's probably going to be in a van or 4x4.
When I refer to US holidays and call out that they are, in fact, celebrated by those in the US, it's a recognition that a fairly large part of the readership is not located in the US, and in particular, we have quite a few readers located in the UK and Canada. Of course, I suspect that a very large proportion of our international readership also celebrates their own independence from the British, just on different dates. Sorry Brits -- not to rub it in or anything. :-)
East Coast here,but love Canadians and Canada and a connoisseur of British history and Culture. Canada now is where the US should be and visiting Canada is always a reminder of what we were and how badly we have lost our way.
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So this is a continuation from a comment last week around rules. It made me think and I’ve been turning it over all week. Do we practice DD mainly for behavior modification? I’m not sure that’s been the case for us, although there certainly is some of that). But I’m not sure that DD motivates me to change my behavior. I also don’t have this really figured out as to what it does more so than put my wife in charge (and get my ass spanked). Anyway, not sure if this is a topic that’s interesting for you all but it is something I’ve been thinking about.
ReplyDeleteWhen we first started DD, I do think it was about behavior modification, but that was to take place by virtue of of putting my wife in charge. So, from the beginning, both motivations were present, with behavior change as the end and my wife taking charge and spanking my ass as the means. Over time, her taking control became more of an independent motivation and end it itself. Though, behavior change is still a big part of the motivation.
DeleteDo we practice DD mainly for behavior modification? That seems to be more of what a wife would desire from it. We may benifit form that also, but what I get out of it are many other things also. DD helps us be more intimate, and it is obviously good for the relationship. Therefore, we don't argue, hold grudges, or give each other the silent treatment, and all that leads to better sex. For me personally, it makes me more alive, and more vulnerable, and the spankings help calm me down.
DeleteA Happy 4th to everyone. My blog is here on blogspot and it details my maintenance spankings. Short, easy to read episodes with photos of the implements and a place where readers can leave questions or comments. Not meant for a dialog site, but everyone is welcome to try it. Link is mymaintenanceday.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteWhere does the picture come from?
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I have a question that occurred to me recently. Do spanking wives communicate with one another, sharing their experiences and practices? I've asked my wife and she simply smiles but doesn't give a clear answer.
DeleteDesign and Coding Project: In Progress!
DeleteDonn,
DeleteWhat is "Design and Coding Project: In Progress!". It sounds like it might be interesting
Alan
Hi Tom,
DeleteYes, I do. Why?
L.
We did a check in yesterday, which included a sound spanking. Last week I suggested to her that whenever she ordered a spanking, we leave the paddles out until it happened, which she happily agreed to. I also read what Dan had to say about wanting to be spanked for carelessness, and told her I felt the same way. Today she noticed some careless behavior on my part, and immediately told me I was going to get a spanking for it. Shortly after I returned home, the paddles were out, and I was soon over her knee again. She is definately stepping up our DD.
ReplyDeleteWe’ve been on a trip recently. My wife wanted to take the strap to deal with any issues whilst we were away. I explained that where we were staying, the strap would be much too noisy. She said fine, but unless you find a suitable implement to use when travelling, the strap is coming.
ReplyDeleteWe’ve had a black synthetic cane for years which she has never really got comfortable with. So I wrote her a detailed ‘how to’ on getting the most effect from the cane and suggested that as she was close to being an expert with the strap, that she could easily become proficient with the cane.
I then ‘offered’ to let her have a ‘training’ session with the cane with me giving feedback during and after. She was surprisingly enthusiastic about this approach and took great care in following the instructions about lining up, taking a number of slower ‘practice’ swings, care with aim, etc. She quickly got the hang of it to the point that I could sense her confidence & concentration (and my growing discomfort). When I pointed out that she may have practiced enough, she said something about how I needed a beating so she would just carry on.
Afterwards she thanked me for taking the time to really explain how best to use the cane and that she would definitely take it with her which she did and which she used very painfully when I misbehaved on our trip.
Yesterday having been back for a few days she ordered me upstairs for a ‘reminder’ session- something that seems to be making regular appearances as my behaviour improves. She said that she would do 3 mins with the strap followed by 3 mins with the cane. Again her concentration was apparent and as I relayed to her later, she delivered one of the most effective & lasting in effect spankings. I think this is because of her renewed focus but also because of the differing effects of the two implements. Either way, she is very pleased with her new skill! TB
I don't really understand why, but Anne just does not seem able to get the hang of the cane. And, it's not really for lack of information on how to use one. She's read the DWC's manual on caning technique, which was very detailed and had lots of helpful visuals. Yet, we've tried it multiple times over the years, and she just can't seem to use it effectively. Though, she may have to give it another try if my tailbone doesn't heal soon, because I think it's probably the only instrument that might be narrow enough and targeted enough that it could be used with effective force while not causing further injury
DeleteDev feels the same way about using a belt. JR
DeleteMy wife has never used a cane and I've never wanted her to. She uses a hairbrush, a strap, and lastly her hand. Depending on the lesson she wants to teach, this can be
Deletevery painful. I can't imagine wanting more.
My wife is similar to yours. She never was into the cane. We had a junior cane with the crooked handle. It hung on the back of our closet door. It eventually broke on my bottom and we never replaced it. When she used it, it would wrap at times and catch my thighs, ect. I visited a disciplinarian who gave me six of the best. It was severe after receiving all the other implements. I had some tram lines for a few days after: I was hoping my girlfriend would not see these. I was very careful getting dressed in front of her till they went away. I don’t have the fascination I used to have with the cane.
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We got a small cane a few years ago, as I had experienced it before from several professionals, and I would like to feel that intensity again sometime. However, she never got the hang of it, and the larger issue was, she just resisted it, as she was afraid of hurting me. She is in charge of all things spanking, so I don't have much to say about it. On the plus side, she is now on board with the concept that once a spanking has been ordered, the paddles will remain out on the kitchen counter until the spanking is given. It guarantees that she will not forget to spank, as it is impossible to miss going through the house. It's such a simple solution to a problem that many of us here have complained about for years, and has probably resulted in my already getting a few more spankings than I would have otherwise. Also, she recently told a close woman friend about our DD, and explained that she spanks me sometimes because I still need boundaries, as I never had many in my childhood. So, it has been a good week.
ReplyDeleteFor Anne too the issue seems at least partly around not wanting to "hurt" me, yet she has zero problem using paddles, straps and bath brush full force. I don't really understand why the reluctance is there with that one, and only that one, instrument.
DeleteInteresting development with her telling a friend. How did that go?
Norton,
DeleteIt would be interesting to hear about what her friend thinks about your wife disciplining you. The only person who knows about my wife punishing me is her best friend. I over heard a conversation sometime ago. Her friend, who lives across the country, wanted to know why I was so wonderful. Why does he treat you so great! My wife responded, I beat him when he’s out of line. She was blown away by the revelation and of course wanted all the juicy details. I didn’t have an issue because they are child hood friends and only talk on the phone. They see each other once every five years or so.
T
I wasn't part of it, but my understanding is, she didn't ask any questions about it. It was a heart to heart talk, and it sort of came up organically. We have know each other for quite awhile, so it will be interesting to see if there is any change in our relationship. My guess is it won't change anything, and probably never be spoken about. It is incomprehensible to me how learning that a friend was in a domestic discipline relationship wouldn't bring up many questions.
ReplyDeleteWishing Dan and the rest of our USA contingent a spanking good Independence Day! --al
ReplyDeleteSame to you!
DeleteDan, thanks for including "That Thing We Do" in your blog list. It is new to me, and has some nice photos. It also included an intriguing question this week, which was "Do you think about spanking daily?" It could also include, "Is there a specific time you think about it?" For me, the short answers to that would be yes, and pretty much only in the morning. If you were looking for a topic, that isn't a bad one, as I don't recall it bing in here.
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