“A good friend will always stab you in the front.” – Oscar Wilde
Hello all. Welcome back to The Disciplinary Couple’s Club. Our weekly gathering of men and women who are in, or would like to be in, a Domestic Discipline relationship. I hope you all had a great week.
Between Halloween decorating, a bunch of work around the garage, some community political stuff, and dealing with some family issues, it felt a lot busier and frenetic than it actually was. So, I’m looking forward to a quiet weekend. We skipped the Halloween party scene, which probably was a good thing for my mental and physical health, and for my butt.
We’ve been so distracted with various everyday stuff going on, there’s been no follow-up on the subject of last week’s post, i.e. the possibility of a witnessed spanking. But, thanks to those of you who weighed in with opinions or suggestions about it.
One of you, 3pops, got enthused about the possibility of trying to use Zoom or other remote technology to create a virtual version of the DWC. I am not averse to trying to figure out a way to foster more live communications among the commenters here, so keep the ideas coming. There were also a couple of people who said they'd like to get together in-person in a very small group, including the possibility of the men getting spanked. Given the surprise Anne gave me when she seemed at least open to the possibility of a witnessed spanking via video, I'm no longer going to just assume she wouldn't be open to something new, and I admit those small-gathering scenarios appeal to me, too . . . food for thought.
Given the distractions this week, I haven’t had a lot of time to think about DD topics. But, our discussion of witnesses included several references to friends as possible witnesses, or real-life examples of friends we’ve told who support us but don’t really “get it.”
It reminded me that I’ve had a topic with a different spin on “friends” on my mind for a while. It isn’t anything I have any personal experience with, and it wasn’t suggested by any of you. Rather, it was inspired by this spanking meme I came across a few months ago:
I’m not sure why, but the scenario depicted in the caption struck a chord. And, it’s not the first time that I’ve had a positive reaction to a meme that included a reference to being spanked by a friend with whom the recipient is not in a sexual relationship.
I think perhaps it has something to do with this combination: the spanker is someone who cares about you, but is at least one step removed from the caring one receives from a spouse. To me, it creates a scenario in which the spanker is motivated by both caring and a desire to help impose genuine accountability but, because the friend isn’t in a romantic or sexual relationship with the recipient, there is a strong “all business” vibe, which I always find very compelling.
Though, I’ve seen similar
memes that hint at, or at least leave open the possibility, that there may have
been a sexualized relationship in play, possibly even servicing a common kink that arose at an early age.
Here’s another one that I’ve had in my “Christmas” collection. I had a strong reaction to it the first time I saw it, but until now I couldn’t figure out how to use it in a post.
As I said, I have no personal experience with being spanked by a non-spouse friend. I didn’t discover an interest in DD, or spanking in general, until I had been married to Anne for almost a decade. And, when I was in high school and college, I never got a “spanking vibe” from any of my friends, though I did gravitate toward very strong-willed women as friends. And, some of those relationships were caring and close enough that I could imagine one of them agreeing to a purely platonic spanking arrangement had I been motivated and self-aware enough to ask for it.
As an adult, I haven’t still haven’t caught a “spanking vibe” from any female friends, with the exception of one younger woman I knew at work whose interactions with her husband at parties suggested some kind of F/m power differential might be in play.
I’ve used this meme a couple of times, and it suggests the possibility of a wife’s friend, or perhaps she’s a mutual friend, taking on some disciplinary responsibilities. Like the other “friend” memes above, this one has always done something for me.
But, I really have only one close female friend who I’m in regular contact with, and she does happen to be the only friend I’ve told about our DD relationship. She’s also talked openly with Anne about it on two or three occasions. If something ever happened to Anne and she needed a surrogate, would that friend be someone who might be willing to literally lend a hand to keep me in line? I kind of doubt it. Our relationship has none of that power differential vibe, and although she is totally non-judgmental regarding the DD aspects of my relationship with Anne, I also don’t think she has any personal attraction to the idea of putting a man over her knee.
Of course, although everything I've written to this point suggests a female spanker, scenarios involving spanking friends obviously aren't so limited.
So, I have no personal experience with being spanked by a friend, and it’s pretty unlikely to happen in the future.
But, many of you discovered your spanking/disciplinary interest much earlier than I did and/or have had more adult spanking adventures than I have.
I’ll leave the topic open to your individual interpretations, but what role, if any, have friends played in your spanking adventures? Here are a few possible sub-topics to discuss:
Have you ever been spanked by a friend you were not in a close romantic relationship with?
Maybe you experimented with spanking or being spanked by a friend in high school or college (or earlier)?
If you have been spanked by a friend, how did that come about? Was it a purely platonic friendship, or something more?
Regardless of whether you’ve had such an experience in the past, do the scenarios depicted in the pictures in this post do anything for you? Is being spanked by a platonic friend hold any attraction to you?
Is there any
friend in your life today who you would like to have disciplinary power over you
in some form? This is another meme I really like, as it suggests a relationship between the spanker and the recipient's wife in which the spanker is more than just a surrogate and, instead, has independent authority to both order and deliver a spanking. Any thoughts on what is going on in this pic? Perhaps a friend who a wife has empowered to take certain matters into her own hands?
I look forward to hearing whatever thoughts you may have on this topic.
Last night was Halloween, and you long-term participants know how much I love that holiday. I hate seeing it go, but I’ll leave you with this meme I discovered this morning. It reduced my Halloween attraction just a bit.
