tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post8610545315374718465..comments2024-03-28T08:50:32.256-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 108 - Correcting Small ThingsDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-29621749439664065842016-02-10T14:01:14.431-08:002016-02-10T14:01:14.431-08:00M- your comment resonates. My Wife often will come...M- your comment resonates. My Wife often will come home frustrated about work people or things, too.i try to get Her to mellow out. Often I'll try to change the subject by asking Her questions. But, if She catches wind of my not paying attention, then some of the wrath starts to be directed at hapless me.<br />saraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-69161314334885958442015-10-19T21:30:22.035-07:002015-10-19T21:30:22.035-07:00I have long since learned not to "talk back&q...I have long since learned not to "talk back" - and the few times I did earned me such sharp doses of her riding crop (once under the eyes of her sister) as to persuade me that I must unquestoningly accept whatever punishment she deems "appropriate".<br />I have discovered, as a result, that my submitting usually results in somewhat milder punishment - as long as I remember to thank her on my knees and to kiss her hand after she has delivered the chastising she feels I deserve.<br /><br />L.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-71973406996762742572015-10-17T21:06:22.525-07:002015-10-17T21:06:22.525-07:00In my case, even a minor infraction may lead to my...In my case, even a minor infraction may lead to my being turned over her lap for a bare-bottomed spanking. More serious breaches will be handled - as she sees fit - with whatever of her "tools" she thinks are "appropriate" (and there are quite a few of them!)...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-40907690784258977062015-10-17T19:10:04.080-07:002015-10-17T19:10:04.080-07:00My wife has a surprisngly large number of terms to...My wife has a surprisngly large number of terms to let me know what's in store for me. Many of those refer to what she plans to use - e.g. "paddling" (with the hairbrush, the kitchen spoon, etc), "whipping" (with the martinet or the crop), "strapping" (with a leather belt), "flogging" (with a switch), or "caning" (with the rattan cane)... When a "spanking" is announced, it usually means she will be using her own hand (which, given her strong tennis-playing skills, can make me beg for mercy!) <br /><br />"Beating" is not a word she uses, but the outcome for me is invariably a very sore derrière!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-50413700047750861632015-10-17T08:29:23.306-07:002015-10-17T08:29:23.306-07:00Hi M. Yes, talking back to a pissed off Disciplina...Hi M. Yes, talking back to a pissed off Disciplinary Wife is seldom a good ideaDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-81290254249686955282015-10-17T08:28:35.847-07:002015-10-17T08:28:35.847-07:00Hi Dave. That would have undoubtedly gotten me spa...Hi Dave. That would have undoubtedly gotten me spanked soundly, too.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-10929536665738347052015-10-17T08:27:19.033-07:002015-10-17T08:27:19.033-07:00Hi Easy. I think those feelings of "being un...Hi Easy. I think those feelings of "being unfair" or being perceived as a "bitch" are a major, major impediment for many women. I agree with you 100% that most disciplinary marriages would proceed so much more smoothly if the disciplinary wives would jusst trust their instincts.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-64203830327048530292015-10-17T08:23:16.199-07:002015-10-17T08:23:16.199-07:00You are, of course, right. For most of us, not ge...You are, of course, right. For most of us, not getting spanked is firmly within our own control.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-57174799392991023512015-10-17T08:21:41.907-07:002015-10-17T08:21:41.907-07:00Hi Amy. That does sound like a lesson he is unlik...Hi Amy. That does sound like a lesson he is unlikely to forget! Thanks for sharing.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-78846202952020256012015-10-17T08:19:15.521-07:002015-10-17T08:19:15.521-07:00I admit I have never quite understood what the big...I admit I have never quite understood what the big issu is with the toilet seating being left up, though many women seem to share your annoyance with that one.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-7639067011721343172015-10-17T06:29:05.668-07:002015-10-17T06:29:05.668-07:00Hi Dan, I do most of my work from home but my wife...Hi Dan, I do most of my work from home but my wife has to go to the office leaving me with a list of things to do or get! When she comes home after a bad day there ,,she comes storming in sounding off about it all! <br />I try to be helpful suggeating she sits down and bring her a drink etc and to relax! However she then decides to see if I have done everything on her list and walks around to inspect the chores I have done. She can be very critical over things not done to her liking ,or if I bought a wrong item ! I then respond by saying she is being unfair and then if she ccntinues, I tell she is making a 'mountain out if a mole hill ,darling '! I just cannot help myself and regret it straight away !Last time she responded by sending me for for her cane and ,snapping back' welI I will add a few ridges to your bottom ',! ! I had dinner standing up ,after about 15 sharp cuts! M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-11492320368045759852015-10-16T12:37:25.100-07:002015-10-16T12:37:25.100-07:00There is no better time for me to answer this beca...There is no better time for me to answer this because I’ve just been caned for unacceptable behaviour last night.<br />Every second Thursday of the month I go to London for a meeting and have it down to a fine art that if I leave a few minutes before 5 o’clock I’ll get across London and on the train that gets in just in time to catch the bus to our house so I'm home for just after 7:30. Yesterday though, I met a colleague I’d not seen for a couple of years and so we went for a quick pint and catchup after work. Now one thing I always do if I’m going to be late is call home so don’t ask me why I didn’t this time. One thing led to another and the next I knew was it was 10 after 8 and I’m still in London. To cap it all, my phone was still in silent mode so I’d missed a couple of calls and a text asking where I was. When I did call home, she was not angry in fact she doesn’t do angry, but sounded distraught and so I got to the London station and called her with the time I was due in and bless her, she said she’d pick me up at the station and save me the bus ride home.<br />I knew I’d be punished and I deserved it but when I got in the car she said it was too late and she too mixed up emotionally with worry to be rational with me so it would wait until tonight and so after discussing it over dinner and clearing away, I was then caned.<br />She’s not into half measures and there was no holding back tonight but she is always very fair with me and I only ever get punished for real issues such as last night. There’s never any trumped up charges and minor things are bunched together and dealt with as maintenance. My bottom feels like a freshly ploughed field with some of the sore weals that will last weeks but at least I know I’ve paid for what I did and glad of it because we can both forget it and move on and that’s the great thing about FLR. <br /><br />Dave<br />punisheehttp://hotmail.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-85163102353405430522015-10-16T11:02:11.441-07:002015-10-16T11:02:11.441-07:00Dear Anna,
You are making me blush. It was your ea...Dear Anna,<br />You are making me blush. It was your early posts that inspired me <br />MarisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-27975282114995642792015-10-16T10:31:18.696-07:002015-10-16T10:31:18.696-07:00In our relationship there can be spankings for the...In our relationship there can be spankings for the small things. I try my best to follow the rules, sometimes I slip up or get bold and push the limits. Those are clear violations. I'd actually rather be spanked for the little things than to have her be irritated or hurt and let it slide. In fact, when she occasionally will say something like "I probably should spank you for that..." but she doesn't follow through I see it as a lost opportunity to "hit the reset button"on the problem. Sometimes she struggles with what I should be punished for and what to let slide. I encourage her to go with her instincts, but she still struggle with it. Feeling like she is being unfair or a 'bitch" about things can sometimes stop her from following her instincts. We both think that as our relationship goes on she will be more comfortable with those decisions and act more often rather than question her decision. In that respect I dare say that the actions on the small things, the ones that make the love of my wife feel disrespected in any way, are the ones that a spanking can help the most to solve. --EasyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-43427435125146735612015-10-16T08:52:06.471-07:002015-10-16T08:52:06.471-07:00Marissa, you are an inspiration! annaMarissa, you are an inspiration! annaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-23014064559125940392015-10-16T07:33:59.784-07:002015-10-16T07:33:59.784-07:00I firmly believe a naughty boy should participate ...I firmly believe a naughty boy should participate both physically and mentally in their punishment. This is important for changing behavior, adjusting attitude and creating a disciplinary ambiance. Simply spanking an adult male isn't effective unless you fully engage them mentally and emotionally in what is happening. So Jay usually must bring me brush or other instrument I will use. He must stick his bottom out after every stroke. He must fully describe what he did and must sincerely ask to be spanked for it.as well as sincerely thank me after.If there is corner time he must tell me what he is going to do to avoid another spanking. Most important I expect full cooperation and compliance throughout the discipline. Any attitude at all will earn him a second or even third spanking.<br />Marisa. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-77477401245423476352015-10-16T06:37:43.735-07:002015-10-16T06:37:43.735-07:00WOW!! That must have been a sight! Just what ever...WOW!! That must have been a sight! Just what every wife needs when she gets home - a buck naked husband holding a hairbrush - you could have made him wait in the actual garage. Can you imagine opening that electric garage door with a girlfriend or two also in your car?<br /><br />Which brings me to a bigger point. To what extent are you husbands required to 'participate' in your punishment - such as in this case where the husband had to get naked and retrieve the implement? I think you method was very appropriate under the circumstances. However, my wife generally takes the opposite approach as she is a "full service disciplinarian". The only thing I am ever required to do is not resist her when she places metal handcuffs on my wrists. That effectively neutralizes my superior upper body strength and basically turns me into a large (185 lb) 10 year boy. By "full service", I mean that she takes care of retrieving the implement (wooden paddle), disrobing (usually bare below the waist) and positioning me (usually over her knee). More times than not, I do NOT get spanked when the restraints go on - even if some other punishment is dished out (corner time, lines, grounding), or none at all (but usually I am put on "24 hour probation" which requires my absolute best behavior). We do not engage in any sort of bondage for its own sake, the wrist restraints are purely for the purpose of making her the unquestioned marital disciplinarian.<br /><br />Carl HAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-79243695671212335882015-10-15T05:48:01.925-07:002015-10-15T05:48:01.925-07:00Hi, what do you guys expect. You are getting pun...Hi, what do you guys expect. You are getting punished for what I am sure is adolescent behavior. Robin was late 3 times this week. Well last night I put his tardy little bottom over my knee and spanked till the tears flowed as he beg for me to quit. After I had roasted his bottom he got to spend an hour in the corner. His sister stopped to visit and she got to see his well tanned bottom on display. Bet he will be on time tonight. JanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-27318976153313675272015-10-15T00:35:41.952-07:002015-10-15T00:35:41.952-07:00I have to say I agree with and my ways are pretty ...I have to say I agree with and my ways are pretty on par with Marissa's in the comments above. Now if my husband is getting consistent in a small infraction, behavior, attitude etc. he goes across my knee. For instance I hate looking for the car keys. Just put them back on the key rack dear! I'll tell him, ask him, let him know it's upsetting or annoying, warn him where I'm at with it and I may ask. "Do I need to spank you?" (Don't laugh. He once said "maybe" over a small issue he'd been repeating and ended up sitting on a cushion for nearly 3 days.)<br />Next he leaves me no option and I definitely don't go lightly.<br />Six months ago or so it was the key issue. I spanked and I spanked soundly! Only three days later he came home later than planned, dropped everything on the counter hurriedly in order to let the dog out and the keys fell in a partially open drawer. He didn't realize it and forgot he hadn't hung them up when putting everything else away. Next day I had an appointment and planned on using that car since our second was very low on gas. We looked, and looked and ..........looked. I took the second and had to speed to make it barely on time.<br />Before I left I angrily told him, "Don't go anywhere as soon as I get back your getting beat!" He didn't dare make a peep. When I was on my way home I called him and got his vm. I let him know" I'd be there in about 30 mins, and when I got there he'd better be home! I wanted him at the garage door (inside door), with my hairbrush and not a stitch on!" HE opened the door for me as I was about to enter exactly as I'd instructed but looking extremely concerned. The brush in one hand the keys in the other. "I found them" he said. I took the brush, I took his wrist and told him hang onto them and don't let go, I'm giving you a beating. He tried to tell me how sore he was, how sorry he was and who knows what else. I simply continued re-iterating, "your getting a beating, I'm giving you a beating as I lead him to the sofa. I stopped, turned looking him squarely in the eye only inches from his face and calmly,sternly said "You're getting beat!" I pulled him down and did just that!<br />I had to lock his legs and arm in place and it only took about 45-60 seconds of rapid fire, firm swats all over his butt and thighs to get him to tear up and get the point. He NEVER forgot to hang up the keys again ever since then. He was sore for a week due to a couple of small bruises which are a rarity. Two weeks later I let him know he was doing well so far (with the keys). I took off my belt, bared and bent him over for a reminder and it seems to have worked! Go figure. AmyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-81267061293568904482015-10-14T21:47:59.558-07:002015-10-14T21:47:59.558-07:00The "reason" is the easiest notion to gr...The "reason" is the easiest notion to grasp... In fact, when I know I have committed some misdemeanor she has not discovered yet, I will often "volunteer" and fetch one of her favorite "tools" after lowering my trousers, so as to offer my derrière to what I know I deserve... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-41425092793226089972015-10-14T19:01:34.163-07:002015-10-14T19:01:34.163-07:00I'm not nearly as "nitpicky" as I us...I'm not nearly as "nitpicky" as I used to be. Still, some things will set me off, no matter how inconsequential they might seem. Toilet seat up is one, but both Shilo and Rob seem to have learned that lesson well.Merry Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13605968415958113942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-47121763933620733462015-10-14T13:27:17.024-07:002015-10-14T13:27:17.024-07:00For us its the " any reason " part that ...For us its the " any reason " part that works best. In practice I very well know the reason in advance and its something we agreed on before I am ever spanked for it. But the any reason rule means that I can't ( and don't) challenge her. It seems harsh but she has NEVER abused it and it means she really does make the rules. <br />Alan Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-33570878302772577402015-10-14T12:52:06.302-07:002015-10-14T12:52:06.302-07:00We have the same rule - but with modulations.
&qu...We have the same rule - but with modulations. <br />"Any time" means "when it's convenient" - and while I know what's in store, delivery may be delayed (which adds no small amount of anxiety)<br />"Any place" - other than at home - means that a suitable location must be found, but there have been quite a few - out in the woods, in hotel rooms, and then some more... <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-55195027224861488072015-10-14T05:54:04.550-07:002015-10-14T05:54:04.550-07:00The discussion has branched out some from the orig...The discussion has branched out some from the original question but we have had a " anytime, any place for any reason" rule in place for a long time. She never really enforced the " any place" part of it but she was firm on the " any reason"That was done to stop cold any arguing or protesting from me if she announced a spanking. She literally doesn't want to hear anything but " yes ma'am". before a spanking. Afterward I can make my case if I want to do so. But the strange thing is that before a spanking I can think of a dozen reasons its unnecessary but afterward I ( almost always realize she was right.<br />Alan Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-11192071262882566952015-10-13T18:35:56.930-07:002015-10-13T18:35:56.930-07:00I'd love to tell you happened last week after ...I'd love to tell you happened last week after my speeding citation if I can get this to publish. JRJrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09387985161853012515noreply@blogger.com