tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post8601510480771854947..comments2024-03-28T08:50:32.256-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum -- Vol. 159 -- The WorstDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-74307689229544609762016-06-21T09:55:49.444-07:002016-06-21T09:55:49.444-07:00Tom's insight is so interesting to me. He said...Tom's insight is so interesting to me. He said "even at that time, there was a part of me that wanted her to bend my arm up my back to get the hand out of the way, put me in a leglock, and retrieve the paddle from the floor and just repeat the whole sequence a few more times"<br /><br />We are always desperate for it to stop when the spanking is going on. But at the end of the day, we want the disciplinary experience to be very through and beyond our control.<br />Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-63811976061713432492016-06-09T09:59:47.118-07:002016-06-09T09:59:47.118-07:00I didn't think I had to contribute to this dis...I didn't think I had to contribute to this discussion, being widowed at this point and only having had spanking in our relationship at a kinky play level, (my interest -- though lovingly accepted and accommodated by B.). Upon reflecting I realized there was a spanking I got from the only other girlfriend I'd gotten up the nerve to share my spanko predilection with that qualifies.<br /><br />In that relationship the spankings were all at the erotic play level until one day she took it to another level. Her daughter lived with her so she was often there when Debbie and I where spending time together. One day Debbie, went out to do some shopping leaving her daughter and I at her apartment watching tv. Well being a science fiction fan I wanted to watch Star Trek TNG, which the daughter had no interest in, after a short back and forth over the remote, I got so pissed I just got up and drove home to watch it at my house, in fact, I was so pissed I left without my shoes! Well, the next time we had the apartment to ourselves we were fooling around in the bedroom when paddle came out and she teasingly warmed my bottom in her slow, playful way, occasionally dragging her naked bosom over ever warming rear. She got me into quite a state with this and then offered to take me to the living room where she could paddle me over the knee, something she knew I enjoyed.<br /><br />Putting on a skirt and "re-harnessing the puppies" as she put it, she left me naked, and had me precede her to the living room. I crept passed the kitchen a little nervously as the next building had a window that look in and I didn't want to be seen naked. It was then that I got a clue that should have warned me of what was to come as Debbie gave me a damn hard crack with the paddle as we went by. In the living room she sat on a low footstool and invited me over her lap. In our playful otk spankings before, she used this playful technique where you rub the paddle slowly in a spiral until you reach the spiral's center, and then you deliver the spank, it keeps things slow and bearable. This is what I was expecting but not what I got, that paddle must have rose all the way up in the air for a set of 36 full on delivered smacks. She then dropped the paddle on the floor and proceeded to tell me how mad she was at my behavior over the tv, all accompanied with a steady rain of hand delivered spanks to my butt. I'd always considered Debbie's hand spankings pretty weak, but on top of the paddling and powered by her anger, these where really painful. So painful, that my free hand shot back and tried to protect my rear, pretty much to no avail as she was quite good at spanking where the hand was not. Eventually it got so painful that I said to her, "I think I'm going to have to ask you to stop", which she did. Of course, even at that time, there was a part of me that wanted her to bend my arm up my back to get the hand out of the way, put me in a leglock, and retrieve the paddle from the floor and just repeat the whole sequence a few more times. This wan't the hardest spanking I ever got, but those have all been deliver in play at spanking events, this was the only one meant as punishment inside of a relationship.<br /><br />Clev_TomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-5392793424491550162016-06-05T02:36:07.375-07:002016-06-05T02:36:07.375-07:00Good question. It feels like a boundary has been c...Good question. It feels like a boundary has been crossed. A genie is out of the bottle which may be difficult to get back in or control. To date I have felt mostly in control - now it feels like control has really passed to her because she has explored new limits and has seen the effect. Interesting times ahead I think but for now I am keeping my head down, minding my Ps & Qs and being rather submissive!<br /><br />TB Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-42176309562549585542016-06-04T13:55:05.384-07:002016-06-04T13:55:05.384-07:00TB: How do you feel about having received that spa...TB: How do you feel about having received that spanking and seeing that "knowing look most of the time"? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-63583361155878971652016-06-04T11:02:40.871-07:002016-06-04T11:02:40.871-07:00Hi TB. As bad as it was, it sounds like it was ex...Hi TB. As bad as it was, it sounds like it was exactly what you both needed.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-24085120338961582972016-06-04T10:05:45.990-07:002016-06-04T10:05:45.990-07:00Interesting and coincidental link between Anticipa...Interesting and coincidental link between Anticipation and the Worst in that I commented a couple of weeks ago on how I was anticipating, that day, to be made to pay for some rudeness. As it turned out we had visitors, a busy few days and the anticipation grew, aided by the regular 'Don't think you've got away with it' type comments. It was almost a week later that we had the initial 'chat' about my behaviour, my disrespect and how what was about to happen had been building up for some time. (A bit unfair as it had only been about 10 days since my last 'reset'. As I responded to the order to 'get in position' - bare, over some pillows on the bed she placed just the strap (quite a heavy strap from the London Tanners) on the bed and clearly within my sight as she calmly relayed a list of misdemeanours in addition to the main crime. Normally I only feel the strap either at the end or for a particularly bad behaviour. <br /><br />The telling off lasted a good 5 minutes and then picking up the strap she told me how she really felt like I deserved it this time, that she was very calm and that she knew it would do me good. With that began the longest spanking, by a long way, that I have ever had. Disturbingly she stopped every now and again to remind me why and how much she felt it was deserved and then carried on and on. What made this time different was the clear control, the calmness and the almost clinical, metronomic strapping that seemed to make time <br /><br />It took me some time to recover when she finally finished telling me that she would happily do it again tomorrow if there was any repeat. We went for a walk later which was uncomfortable - for me, as I could feel the rawness with each step.<br /><br />6 days later I still have the marks which I can still feel when I sit. I have been as good as gold since and she has that knowing look most of the time.<br /><br />That was the worst - so far.<br /><br />TB Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-23909869477419891702016-06-03T06:52:43.934-07:002016-06-03T06:52:43.934-07:00Yes, I get what you mean. How bad everyone felt, h...Yes, I get what you mean. How bad everyone felt, how stern the tone was, how intense the atmosphere, the reason for it, accompanying add-on punishments......all seem to create a 'worst' feeling more than the actual pain................though that IS a factor as well!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-4640998488186626692016-06-02T17:22:34.697-07:002016-06-02T17:22:34.697-07:00I am actually in the same boat, even though we hav...I am actually in the same boat, even though we have been practicing this for less time than you and Rosa. My wife does not do maintenance, and all of them are hard. The variations in hardness really have more to do with the tools she uses. The ones that are more memorable tend to be so for some reason other than their severity, such as location or something else about the surrounding circumstances.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-70544755685481379042016-06-02T17:20:22.409-07:002016-06-02T17:20:22.409-07:00There seem to be at least three. The real one, wh...There seem to be at least three. The real one, which I gave the link for. Then a blog version that someone put up when the real one was off-line for awhile, which doesn't seem to ever be updated and at least doesn't seem to be trying to profit from it. Then, at least one other one that has just taken the name and is using it for porn marketing. It is a really good lesson for bloggers. If you tire of your blog and decide to take it down, absolutely do not terminate the account unless your are OK with some dickhead coming along and taking the goodwill associated with what you built, because shortly after you terminate the account, anyone else out there can sign up for that blog name. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-48791465754759633442016-06-02T16:15:54.678-07:002016-06-02T16:15:54.678-07:00I'm not trying to evade this one, but after li...I'm not trying to evade this one, but after living a lifestyle like this for most of my life in one form or another, there have simply been too many bad ones to narrow it down to one. What I will also add is part of the problem choosing a 'worst' out of the main 'bad ones' is that they were all bad for slightly different reasons. <br /><br />I would say the most 'extensive' was one I've written about before where Rosa imposed a series of spankings along with lines, and several revoked privileges.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-83344419463273806812016-06-02T10:15:03.072-07:002016-06-02T10:15:03.072-07:00Great that you pointed out that there is a hijacke...Great that you pointed out that there is a hijacked phony porn version of the DWC website and a real one. Thanks.Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-39825871373100720932016-06-01T15:45:10.989-07:002016-06-01T15:45:10.989-07:00Hi Martin. Good to hear the behavior improves, at...Hi Martin. Good to hear the behavior improves, at least temporarily. I haven't really experienced the full effect of the cane. We have tried it multiple times and obviously are not doing something right, and I don't think it is ever going to become one of my wife's favorites.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-81620279475624369822016-06-01T15:37:55.214-07:002016-06-01T15:37:55.214-07:00Wow! Hard to say that one wasn't well earned! ...Wow! Hard to say that one wasn't well earned! And, a hell of a lot smaller price to pay than divorce court.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-62002454450493995622016-06-01T14:32:44.079-07:002016-06-01T14:32:44.079-07:00Dan The most intense and most shocking happened la...Dan The most intense and most shocking happened last year. I was working one sunday at the office and Anna called. Before she could speak I yelled and told her I didnt want to be disturbed. Then said something like " Do you understand English?' and hung up. <br />About an hour and a half later Anna appeared at my office. In her hand was a belt and she read me the riot act. Finally she said "Drop your sweats and bend over your desk. If you cant do that dont bother even coming home !" Anna never threatens. She grabbed me pushed me over the desk and I still not sure how my sweats got around my ankles but the belting began. She barely spoke but any time I made an attempt to get up she pushed me back over the desk. I am not sure how long it went on. I do know i was sobbing both from the humiliation I felt as well how stupid I was to take out on Anna my frustration. When she stopped she only said "NEVER SPEAK LIKE THAT TO ME AGAIN. THE NEXT TIME YOU DO I WILL SEE YOU IN DIVORCE COURT!"<br />She left me still crying. I came back home much later. There was a comforter in the living room and I knew to sleep on the couch. The next day when I tried to apologize she ignored it. Merely said " Just dont do it again! Now get upstairs and I'll put some salve on those bruises you must have"<br />peterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-43967863334849431512016-06-01T00:12:21.662-07:002016-06-01T00:12:21.662-07:00Bad behaviour is always dealt with by a caning and...Bad behaviour is always dealt with by a caning and my worst was a year ago and received 24 straight off on a cold bottom. Yes I deserved and yes my behaviour improves, for a while! I crave disciplinary spankings, simple as that.<br />MartinMartinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07066340160660523551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-69064340155450923742016-05-30T14:21:24.549-07:002016-05-30T14:21:24.549-07:00I'm sorry to hear that. I was thinking this mo...I'm sorry to hear that. I was thinking this morning about how lucky it is when two people can connect through something like this. It seldom is smooth and often takes way longer than we hope for it to really take off, but if it does then you have two people whose interests are in alignment, and that is just a great thing. I'm sorry that you aren't able to have that, at least just now, but I'm glad reading about it serves a positive purpose for you.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-33171284969471938692016-05-30T10:42:58.651-07:002016-05-30T10:42:58.651-07:00Did your girlfriend have a name for the paddle?Did your girlfriend have a name for the paddle?Merry Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13605968415958113942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-4630664361166690502016-05-29T20:55:54.293-07:002016-05-29T20:55:54.293-07:00LINK: http://merryslavesdiary.blogspot.com/2013/08...LINK: http://merryslavesdiary.blogspot.com/2013/08/aug-20.htmlMerry Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13605968415958113942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-18114678508556287462016-05-29T20:55:25.484-07:002016-05-29T20:55:25.484-07:00After reading this yesterday, I discussed it with ...After reading this yesterday, I discussed it with Shilo, and we both agree that the worst spanking I gave him was during our engagement. I actually searched through Shilo's diary to find out when it was. (August 20, 2013)I'm lazy, so if you want more details, I'll add the link in another comment, so if Dan feels it's inappropriate, he can delete it. Most of it was with a wooden spoon, and the effects lasted well over a week if I remember correctly.Merry Contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13605968415958113942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-62972107897670929022016-05-29T16:08:11.543-07:002016-05-29T16:08:11.543-07:00I guess I can only dream. There have been a few t...I guess I can only dream. There have been a few times a few years ago when my wife spanked me but unfortunately she is not into it and does not see the benefit in it. I guess it seems to me that a light to medium spanking is arousing. freshening. Stimulating. For example I recall on one occasion at least having a mild headache and this was cured by being spanked.<br /><br />I dream though of her using spanking as a tool to help me modify my behaviour. Obviously I am not a child so spanking is not a case of a larger person lording it over a smaller person. The reality is that I am an adult. I know what is expected of me or what I want to achieve but I also know that on my own I am a slack dog. For example if I exercise on my own, it's a pretty half baked affair. If I have a personal trainer, then the effort is 100x greater and the results are too. I guess, even though in many areas I am very self motivated, I am not good at continuing on on my own. So just as the personal trainer keeps me on task in the gym, I wish for my wife to help me out in other areas. Alas that does not happen and I just dream. And follow blogs like this that I find refreshing. submanhubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04979339663861061771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-58897488356837038502016-05-29T12:02:32.096-07:002016-05-29T12:02:32.096-07:00Alan, I have done it as a topic (#55), but it has ...Alan, I have done it as a topic (#55), but it has been awhile. Anna had also suggested doing one on the role of sex in DD, which we've also done, but maybe I could combine the two.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-26906779881006310752016-05-29T11:18:06.630-07:002016-05-29T11:18:06.630-07:00Dan,
Maybe this could offer a topic sometime becau...Dan,<br />Maybe this could offer a topic sometime because it seems to be a central feature of some FLR's but absent in many others. I don't consider myself in "chastity" but masturbation without her knowledge is a serious offense in our house. When a woman controls a man's orgasm's , she controls him in a very powerful and intimate way. I remember vividly the first time a woman ( earlier girlfriend) told me she wanted to control my cock as well as my ass.It thrilled me and scared me at the same time and it still does today<br />AlanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-14181545978369657162016-05-29T09:52:14.272-07:002016-05-29T09:52:14.272-07:00Thanks, JR. Great blending of the last few topics...Thanks, JR. Great blending of the last few topics -- severity and long anticipation! It also is a good lesson in not assuming that just because all seems forgotten that it has, in fact, been forgiven.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-56414977695345957172016-05-29T09:48:54.668-07:002016-05-29T09:48:54.668-07:00Thanks, Stevie. Congratulations on moving from lu...Thanks, Stevie. Congratulations on moving from lurker to commenter.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-48521625020454479582016-05-29T09:48:11.525-07:002016-05-29T09:48:11.525-07:00Thanks, Anonymous. I admit that I have never quit...Thanks, Anonymous. I admit that I have never quite understood the emphasis on orgasm control and no masturbation, but it obviously is a thing for many in this lifestyle.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.com